do you always have to be right?

[Sub-Zero]

agree.


SubZ - point is, if you're right and you know you're right, who gives a crap if the other person agrees or if you can convince them that they are wrong and you are right. how often does that technique actually work?

it doesnt matter - ias long as you know the "truth". if they dont agree, you can just go on your way knowing they are being a dumbass. end of story.

and lol @ snowball fight in Chipotle. if you're doinig that then neither of you are very rational in that situation.

the thing is, i was fine with leaving it as "boys being boys" and us just having a little agressive fun. but he started yelling at me and calling me out and bitching and arguging (im not even sure why anymore), and he just wouldnt let it go. he was being just as stubborn as i was, except he was wrong, and i think he sort of knew it but was just trying to be a dick?

its just hard for me to grasp how people can litterally be that stupidly wrong in certain situations, so i just assume they are trying to trick me....

iv never used lies or made up facts in my arguements.

 

[calveless wonder]

I did...and usually i am, but you have to pick and choose your points as you grow older.

especially in business now, i have to be VERY subtle about being right with my clients. i can't just shove it down their throat anymore (like i used to with dumb subprime clients). now i deal with more educated/successful clients and while i don't kiss their ass, i have to be much more respectful and stroke their ego a little more even when they're wrong.

you can still prove people wrong when you're very very tactful about it. The way i learned to do that is ask them certain (usually open ended) questions so they basically prove/answer THEMSELVES wrong. Completely warps whatever belief they have. takes time to learn, but its pretty cool to see evolve in a conversation. Must be in the inner cross examiner in me

my whole MO for awhile was proving to people that i'm better/smarter than them..wasn't intentional, but that was the case. rubbed alot of people the wrong way obviously. Now that i'm happier in my life in general i could care less about being right all the time

 

[Sub-Zero]

I did...and usually i am, but you have to pick and choose your points as you grow older.

especially in business now, i have to be VERY subtle about being right with my clients. i can't just shove it down their throat anymore (like i used to with dumb subprime clients). now i deal with more educated/successful clients and while i don't kiss their ass, i have to be much more respectful and stroke their ego a little more even when they're wrong.

you can still prove people wrong when you're very very tactful about it. The way i learned to do that is ask them certain (usually open ended) questions so they basically prove/answer THEMSELVES wrong. Completely warps whatever belief they have. takes time to learn, but its pretty cool to see evolve in a conversation. Must be in the inner cross examiner in me

my whole MO for awhile was proving to people that i'm better/smarter than them..wasn't intentional, but that was the case. rubbed alot of people the wrong way obviously. Now that i'm happier in my life in general i could care less about being right all the time

so i coulda been like

"who threw the first snowball"

then he woulda been "uhhhhhh meeee????"

and i coulda been like

"end of story"

i decided im not gunna be friends with this kid anymore though, i hate him, and the other kid (my roomate)

 

[puddlemonkey]

I did...and usually i am

**cough cough** Cowboys **cough**

 

[calveless wonder]

**cough cough** Cowboys **cough**

i'm gonna tazer jessica simpson

and then grab a titty...for losing me that 300k

 

[calveless wonder]

so i coulda been like

"who threw the first snowball"

then he woulda been "uhhhhhh meeee????"

and i coulda been like

"end of story"

i decided im not gunna be friends with this kid anymore though, i hate him, and the other kid (my roomate)

truthfully, i didn't really read your post about your situation. must from what i collect it was pretty petty. not really worth an ounce of your energy.
i never think about being right anymore if it's something stupid because i way more important things to tend to in my life. the minute you start stressing over irrelevant arguments with dumb people, you know you're not busy enough

 

[Smurfy]

the thing is, i was fine with leaving it as "boys being boys" and us just having a little agressive fun. but he started yelling at me and calling me out and bitching and arguging (im not even sure why anymore), and he just wouldnt let it go. he was being just as stubborn as i was, except he was wrong, and i think he sort of knew it but was just trying to be a dick?

its just hard for me to grasp how people can litterally be that stupidly wrong in certain situations, so i just assume they are trying to trick me....

iv never used lies or made up facts in my arguements.

he sounds like a douche, rather than a friend.

 

[jackangel]

get rid of some of these idiotic friends. we know you're smart and contemplative, but you often describe your pals as stupid douchebags. what does a friendship consist of? what makes it worthwhile? when there's more negativity than positivity, cut 'em loose. how important is the typical person in your life? trim that fat! if you have a stupid friend, he better be a fucking saint that makes the world (and your life) a better place. if not, euthanize.