You may now say "I told you so"

[artrius]

I come before the members of EF with my pride checked at the door and with my head hanging low in shame. For I, who was so confident that things could work out, was totally and utterly wrong (and it wouldn't be the first time).

What am I talking about? You can probably guess. A while back, I posted a thread something to the effect of "I'm getting married!!" Well, that statement is no longer true. As of yesterday, I have broken my relationship and committment to my fiance, due to certain emotional "baggage" that apparently renders her unable to accept a certain trait/characteristic of mine.

I am, however, very thankful, that we did not have to get married to discover this. I feel like an idiot, but when viewed in this light, I do not feel so bad about it.

Feel free to say "I told you so" or whatever, but I can at least walk away proud that I made the right decision, even though it was difficult.

PS: now that I'm single... I'm coming for ya, ladies, you know who you are

 

[hotzie]

good choice

 

[hamstershaver]

better now than before she took you for 1/2

 

[alien amp pharm]

Sorry to hear it didn't work out. You are right though, better now than later.

 

[artrius]

better now than before she took you for 1/2

damned right... its even worse in the military...

 

[habitualhealth]

As of yesterday, I have broken my relationship and committment to my fiance, due to certain emotional "baggage" that apparently renders her unable to accept a certain trait/characteristic of mine.

What is this trait/characteristic you speak of?

 

[hotzie]

damned right... its even worse in the military...

yep

 

[gonelifting]

So is anyone gonna ask... What trait? I'm not asking.

Sorry to hear about that bro. It's hard to believe ONE thing killed the relationship, but like everyone says, it's for the best. Good luck with "whatshername" here at EF. lol jk

ATDQ!

 

[artrius]

What is this trait/characteristic you speak of?

ahhh I was wondering if someone would ask... well. *sigh* from her former relationship experience, she has become very much not a loving person at all. Any time I would try to even so much as hug her, she'd shy away from it. Don't get me wrong, we get along great, and I understand that there are times that people don't want to be touched, but with her it was pretty much always. Believe it or not, and call me geigh, but I happen to be a loving person when I'm in a relationship. (Yea, I'm with aap in the cuddlebitch club. Oh well. ) She could not accept that, and since love is a large part of a relationship, and its a big part of how I prefer to be (vice an ass), I decided that it would not work between us.

That's at least the gist of it.

 

[gonelifting]

damn.... sucks for both of you guys. I hate to say the old..."Well, if you were really in love with each other..." You may look into some couples therapy for that. Not doubting you at all, maybe a bad choice of words, but I do think she may have issues she needs...."Fixed" so to speak. I doubt she does'nt love you when she says "Don't tocuh me.". She's just "troubled".

I also don't know ANYTHING about her or you so this info might be way off base. Just saying that her "problem" may have a solution if worked on. If you guys work on it. I'm sure it's deeper than that as well. Either way, it sucks. good luck.