Wtf? I Never Get Laid!

[carpin00]

Before you start flaming the hell out of me, here is the story:

My wife NEVER,NEVER wants it. We have been married for 4 years now and this all started about 3 years ago. Before we got married, we'd fuck and suck each chance we had and we both lived with our parents. NOW, we have our own house and BAM nothing! I mean she never wants it! It's not like it isn't good when we do it, it's getting her to do IT period! Am I the only guy that is having this go on? I thought SO MANY times to cheat on her to get me some, but I never do! Any comments from anyone????

 

[TheStromba]

Just talk to her about it. Mabye she is not feeling good about herself. Tell her that you have needs, and you want to fill hers too. Just talk it out on a night that you are both in a good mood.
There is a reason that she is not having much sex. Find out what it is.

 

[carpin00]

Stromba,

trust me! I talked about it, yelled about it, reasoned with her about it, it doesn't matter! She tells me she has no desire for it any more. I don't know what to do!!! The worst part of it all, she don't even care if we ever do it again!!!

 

[grlpwrd]

Yes, find out why she's not interested....Do you think she has a medical problem? That could be why she doesn't want to be intimate. You know some women have pain when they have sex, or they may be dry, or they be in a depression. Has she had an exam? Maybe you can urge her to get some medical help if it's that kind of problem.

I think, though, many women have low libidos because they have too much going on - taking care of their man, the kids, their career, and everything else. Has she been overwhelmed lately? Maybe you can help her lighten her load. It's hard when a woman has to keep giving and everyone does the taking. Don't laugh..but it's so sexy for my hubby to do housework. It could help..who knows. Maybe wine and dine her again?

It could be just that she's not interested in a sexual relationship. I think you have to be honest with her. I think sex is a natural part of marriage and I would hate it if any husband goes to someone else for this need without consent, of course. Talk to her about it. and tell her if she won't give it up then you will find it elsewhere. Maybe that will knock some sense into her.

Good luck!

 

[manny78]

Divorce my friend.

 

[carpin00]

Oh I said that I would go elsewhere and she said she would divorce me! Which at this point I would probably be better off, but I have a 2 year little girl that I couldn't stand not seeinf everyday!!!! Also, she is not overwealmed! I help around the house, pick up, etc... I think she may be turned off by me for SOME reason.........

 

[grlpwrd]

Oh I said that I would go elsewhere and she said she would divorce me! Which at this point I would probably be better off, but I have a 2 year little girl that I couldn't stand not seeinf everyday!!!! Also, she is not overwealmed! I help around the house, pick up, etc... I think she may be turned off by me for SOME reason.........

Then she needs professional help. You've been married for 4 years so it might just be a phase. I wouldn't say get divorced - I would say work it out with her. I only have 7 years of psychology education, but you don't need a psychiatrist to tell you that she has problems. Even if she may be turned off by you for whatever reason, you got married for better or worse.

Take a look at this site: www.marriagebuilders.com. Maybe you can read up on sexual dysfunction in a marriage and get some help. You love her, right? Make it work!

 

[BigMackster]

Hey bro, I say you talk to her and ask her what the problem is. I had a similar problem with my wife about a year ago. She said that I didn't please her enough with foreplay. She felt that I was the only one getting anything out of the sex and she had a hard time achieving orgasm during intercourse. So, she told me what she wanted...mainly me licking and playing with her clit. So, that's what I did and we go at it all the time now. She also is the one that initiates the sex - she can't keep her hands off me.

PS: Last night, she had a total of three orgasms (two through oral stimulation and one through intercourse). I'm getting to be such a pro with this!

Big Mack

 

[Zerxes]

Bro, you should not have to yell & scream to your own friggin wife for sex for Gods sake!!! Take this advice-you only live once, and if you have really tried to put forth your needs to her and she isn't willing to address them, then you are more than justified if you bail on that marriage. The two most important things in any relationship(or marriage) are trust & sex. At least imo. If both of those two aspects of any relationship are strong, then all other problems are workable. If either of those things are lacking, then the relationship has serious problems.

 

[carpin00]

I with you zerk, but my wife feels that sex is not that important!


Big,

the funny thing is my wife orgasms every time we have sex!!! So, I know I am pleasing her when we do have it!