Would you (or have you)?

[Pink Space Biscuit]

I've had a random woman come up and hug me before a few years back. That was strange. She was like "oh dear! you look so tired" ... it was like 4am and I probably had been awake 10-15 minutes.

I'm guessing she was the type to also give advice, if she randomly hugs strangers. There I tied it in with this topic.

 

[buffedmama]

I've had a random woman come up and hug me before a few years back. That was strange. She was like "oh dear! you look so tired" ... it was like 4am and I probably had been awake 10-15 minutes.

I'm guessing she was the type to also give advice, if she randomly hugs strangers. There I tied it in with this topic.

That's just bizarre...

 

[valerie]

Best to keep your mouth shut unless you are asked or it is a friend.

The ignorant do not heed it (advice) and the wise do not need it.

 

[staw]

I am sorely tempted to open my mouth at times, but usually don't. Will only do so if the person is in serious danger of causing injury to either themselves, the one they are "spotting", or to some random person next to them.

But I am kicking myself for not speaking up the other day. This guy takes his girlfriend into the free weight area for the first time. Both are fairly young, say 20. She is a cardio junkie and he dabbles in weight lifting. Anyway... he has her do incline db press for the first time. She's got a small frame and not at all familier with the movement, but he makes he grab 25's. She cannot get them up herself, so he assists. She can't even do one rep and his spotting is absolutely awful. After a very sloppy rep, she asks him to please help her put them down. After some doing, they manage to get the weights on the floor. He then criticizes her in front of about 5 people for not being able to lift such light weight.

Her response... "I am going to remain a cardio person." She now refuses to lift. And all because her 145 pound boyfriend doesn't know what the hell he is talking about. She could have had a wonderful experience. Really is unfortunate.

Thanks for letting me vent. Think I will follow him around the gym and lift more than him on every single piece of equipment. Test his manhood.

 

[valerie]

I understand your frustration. Actions speak louder than words. Let your physique speak for you. People do notice this, at least the smart ones do!! Just be a good role model. Thats what I do in our gym. Not everyone will want to lift. But if they want to look better they may look to those who emulate what it is they want. -valerie

 

[ArtsyChic]

It's ironic this I saw this post today...something happened to me that that really pissed me off. I am losing fat..but I still lift heavy with good intensity. I was told today that I was fat...more or less. He said "Just trim off a little every week and you'll be alright. Up the cardio and lift a little. You'll be fine. Built a little TONE under there..you'll look fine." This advice was unwarranted and certainly not ask for..espiecally since I thought he was a little wrong in that I think weights should be the center of my routine..and not cardio. I really didn't know what to say in response..he was telling me I'm overly fat..what audacity..considering this guy is a tank himself. (at least 25-30% bf) It hurt my feelings, as I thought I was making progress. Later, he had the nerve to wink at me. Jackass.\

Alicia

 

[staw]

You are making progress, you're going to the gym. He's a fool, try not to worry about it.

Ask the tank what routine he's currently using. Appear impressed and interested. Then say you want results and think you would be better off with a system that actually works. But thank him for the input. Or you could just imagine how funny he looks naked.

 

[msboss]

I don't think you should correct someone on their form unless they ask for your opinion or you know them personally enough to know that they wouldn't be annoyed by your offer. If I'm working out with someone of course I would offer my veiw on training tecniques and I like hearing others opinions.

 

[shortstuff]

I feel the same way as most everyone here it seems and I have an age thing against me also. I am only 21 and have been training longer then most the people in my gym minus the few who really do know what they are doing, and we are all friends. But I have stepped in a few times and mentioned a thing or two and sometimes I offer more of a if you like this try this one out comment and usually try and do a little small talk also and that usualy seems to ease a little tension here and there. Otherwise if they are totally unreceptive, then I just say forget it and move on.

 

[w84me]

toally agree with slinky...
if they think you know what you are doing because of your build - they will ask... but I leave the guys alone.

women - if they look approachable - maybe. But people watch in the mirrors even when pretending not to. I've done the same thing when someone is doing a new lift or angle to an old one. Memorize it, do it the next time when you work that body part.