would it be distracting to workout w/ your boyfriend??

[dEgeNeRaTe8211]

cuz me and him were just talking about this the other day. we both need a workout parter, but we dunno if we will lose r concentration or whatever if we were to train together. any of you guys train w/ ur boy/girl friend??

 

[Thaibox]

I use to train with my girl and it worked out good for her. The problem was the huge difference in weights we were lifting. She couldn't reliably spot me. Don't get me wrong, I loved training with her because she had a good time and got great results, but it just didn't work for me. A guy can't be intense with his training with his lady. Now that I'm using gear I definately wouldn't work out with my girl. It would be waaay too distracting.

 

[jayjay24]

I train with my girlfriend. I don't see it as a problem.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I was my ex's training partner for the better part of 11 years...and it was a good training relationship, that is, until I decided that I wanted to compete... then he went "wiggy on me".

I do agree that the MOST females would have difficulty properly spotting a man who is doing 100# dumbbell presses, etc but how much of your workout is THAT HEAVY?! For the REALLY heavy stuff, chances are there will be AT LEAST one guy around who would be able to help out.

Women have endurance while men have brute strength. I think that when you combine the two it is an EXCELLENT pairing.

I have trained with men on and off A/S and like I said, though I am NOT capable of spotting them properly on THE REALLY HEAVY stuff I have YET to hear of a guy complain that I "couldn't hang".

Also, when I train I do NOT go to the gym as a "widdle gym bunny". True, my ass my be hanging out of my shorts on occasion, but the general reaction that I get from most men is, "DAYUM, that chick is almost as strong as (95%) of the guys here!" So I don't think they are necessarily being distracted by my ass. tee-hee

I do train with an EXCEPTIONAL female when opportunity allows (Fitness Chick) and I can safely say that she could probably kick 98% of the MEN'S ASSES in AND out of the gym. Me, I am just a creampuff! LOL

 

[Imnotdutch]

I think it depends alot upon what type of people you are.....and what type of relationship you have. I dont like being distracted by anything, including women, in the gym. I especially cant handle eye-contact when I'm lifting.....and gf's tend to come with that installed. It just causes me to bomb a lift......which isnt the reason that I am there. I guess if I was a bodybuilder and women were my main motivation it might work.
Then again you might be a little more mature than me and might not get as easily distracted by members of the opposite sex.

Just try it and see how it workds out for you.

cuz me and him were just talking about this the other day. we both need a workout parter, but we dunno if we will lose r concentration or whatever if we were to train together. any of you guys train w/ ur boy/girl friend??

 

[The MN Bulk]

It's never worked for my wife and I. We have very different goals and I lift to heavy for her, to much time spent pulling and putting plates off and on.

 

[curling]

We do. Me and my wife that is. Well when she doesn't wuss out. It is good. She does have trouble spotting sometimes but usually having a chick spot you is better than a dude anyway. Because they don't lift the weight as much as a guy spotter does so you get a better work out. Besides the scenery is so much better looking up at those tatas.

 

[LeviathanX]

Women have endurance while men have brute strength.

Actually, this is something I hear a lot of women say because it puts them on a somewhat level physical plane with men. It is, however, false. Endurance has nothing to do with your gender - it is purely and individual characteristic.

 

[cardiosux!]

i think that when my man (natedogg) and i workout together it has mostly positive results! we both work harder and can keep each other pumped thru the workout, but are comfy enough w/ each other that we don't do stupid things to impress, like lifting WAY too much. we can give better constructive critism and, since we live together, design our workouts and plan before each session. there can be some down sides, like once in a while not being able to spot, but it is few and far between and never beccome an issue. i say go for it, it is a great way to spend Q/T!! the best part of it is after, when you go home and conserve water!! (he,hee,hee!!)

 

[Bigsatan13]

I train my wife after my workout. She gets to the gym after the kid is on the bus, so I'm done before she gets there. In the summer she is there at the same time I am. To avoid the pain in the ass of constantly changing plates, we work different exercises. We train the same body part on the same day but start at different spots. For example I'll do flat bench while she'll do the incline and we'll spot each other. Plus I get time credited in the spending quality time together file.

 

[Benzi]

cuz me and him were just talking about this the other day. we both need a workout parter, but we dunno if we will lose r concentration or whatever if we were to train together. any of you guys train w/ ur boy/girl friend??

I sometimes work out with my gf. Sometimes it's distracting, other times i'm motivated to lift harder.

 

[Imnotdutch]

Women have a higher pain barrier.....its to do with the giving birth thing. So in principle a woman might grind out more reps and take less rest than a man, who might be forced to quit earlier and take longer rests by the pain.

Actually, this is something I hear a lot of women say because it puts them on a somewhat level physical plane with men. It is, however, false. Endurance has nothing to do with your gender - it is purely and individual characteristic.

 

[MrMuscle]

i train with a gf of mine..but she isnt as dedicated as me..so i dont think it will last long.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Actually, this is something I hear a lot of women say because it puts them on a somewhat level physical plane with men. It is, however, false. Endurance has nothing to do with your gender - it is purely and individual characteristic.

OF COURSE, I was making a general statement.

Of course, there are many men who have greater endurance than me.... but then again, SADLY, there are MANY men who I AM STRONGER THAN. ...... so what was your point?

 

[Grizzly]

Women have a higher pain barrier.....its to do with the giving birth thing. So in principle a woman might grind out more reps and take less rest than a man, who might be forced to quit earlier and take longer rests by the pain.

That there, my friend, is complete bullshit! I don't know a single woman who can take more pain than me. Nor do I know one who can take as much as most or any man. Try an experiment. Get someone to pinch/punch/kick/whatever you and a girl. See who gives up first. Each time, except when the guy is a pussy, the girl will give first. Thus, a lower, not higher, pain tolerance.

 

[Daeo]

Why would you get distracted? Does she workout nude? I've been working out with my girlfriend for 4 years now with no problems. Sure sometimes I have to get a spot someone else on the larger lifts. But that doesn't happen too often. She's a tough girl...

 

[LeviathanX]

Girls are not as tough as guys <period>.

Let the flames begin

 

[sah1975]

My husband and I work out together all the time. Its sometimes a pain with switching plates and all but alot of our workout is dumbbells and I think it works out very well. Plus if we didnt work out together we might not ever see much of each other.

 

[Grizzly]

Girls are not as tough as guys <period>.

Let the flames begin

I won't flame you, but I will disagree with you. Ever seen a girl as strong as a guy? Ok, let me amend that. Ever seen the stongest girl in the world who was as strong as the strongest guy in the world? Answer: No! Why? Becaus they are just plain weaker. End of story. Ok, so "as tough as guys" is not the same as "as strong as guys." Ok, then let's take Mia St. John and Mike Tyson. Who is going to knock whom out? Answer: Mike Tyson. I'm not sexist or anyting, but, as far as the differences between the sexes goes, men are stronger, tougher and have better endurance. Look at the world records in track. Why are the women's records slower than the men's? Because they are not as atheltic. Carl Lewis will smoke Jackie Joyner Kersey. The best womens' marathon time is slower than the best mens' marathon time. Sorry, but women are not as good at atheltics as men. The best woman could never beat the best man, unless he was sick or something. And even then he would be a pussy for letting the woman beat him. The stats speak for themselves, bro.

 

[LeviathanX]

So... then you agree with me grizzly.

 

[Grizzly]

Yes, I do. I appologize. I misread that the first time I read it. As I was going through this thread today I said "Oh, shit I fucked that one up now didn't I!" Oooops. Sorry man.

 

[BronzedGoddess]

That there, my friend, is complete bullshit! I don't know a single woman who can take more pain than me. Nor do I know one who can take as much as most or any man. Try an experiment. Get someone to pinch/punch/kick/whatever you and a girl. See who gives up first. Each time, except when the guy is a pussy, the girl will give first. Thus, a lower, not higher, pain tolerance.

Darling, we'll continue this conversation once you have a child. I CAN'T FUCKING STAND IT, when men say this shit. I didnt think childbirth would be that bad and I said I'd probably do it natural, then I had a fucking contraction and that theory went right out the window and I was beggin' for meds. You have no idea how it feels so SHUT THE FUCK UP!

 

[TheGame2001]

Depends on things

Lots of variables. Changing weights if hes a ton stronger would be rough.
I like my partner to sort of bitch at me to hit another rep, call me a wuss and all, not sure the wife would do that.

Afraid it would cause riffs between us but everyone is different.

 

[Grizzly]

Darling, we'll continue this conversation once you have a child. I CAN'T FUCKING STAND IT, when men say this shit. I didnt think childbirth would be that bad and I said I'd probably do it natural, then I had a fucking contraction and that theory went right out the window and I was beggin' for meds. You have no idea how it feels so SHUT THE FUCK UP!

Well, first off, we know that I can't have a child, now don't we? So that's kind of a moot or non-provable point. Secondly, didn't you shoot your whole argument in the foot by admitting to taking the meds? So, since men can't have children the only other measure is some other sort of pain, like I said. Why don't you and your hubby go get some knee surgery or something. See who's up and walking first and who's lying around crying for more codeine. Oh yeah, one more thing. "You have no idea how it feels so SHUT THE FUCK UP!" Hey, you don't either. You were all doped up, weren't you? So, how does it feel? Ooops, you don't know! You shut the fuck up!

 

[BronzedGoddess]

You are so ignorant. There is a certain time limit you have to wait before you can get an epidural. You cant walk in and say "I just had a contraction may i have the meds now." You have to be dilated to a certain degree and at a certain stage in labor. I experienced "hard labor" where the graph that you are hooked up to pegs off the chart. But you would have no idea about that. I'm pretty sure you don't have any children either. I'm not going to repond to anymore of your comments because your ignorance is overwhelming and I also feel dumber just by reading your posts. Ciao!

P.S are you gay? Yeah I thought so.

 

[LeviathanX]

I have no doubt that having a child is excruciating, but it is a moot point because we (as men) have nothing to compare it to, nor can we experience it to see if it is really as bad as you describe.

On the other hand, men have fought on the battlefield for centuries in wars. Men have lost their legs, arms, etc. in battle. I would venture to say that that is far more painful than birth.

I'm don't really think I'm being ignorant here.... I'm just being non-PC. No doubt that there are individual women who are tougher than individual men, but I'm speaking on general terms.

 

[Grizzly]

That's a good point, Leviathan. The female body is designed to give birth. I'm sure it does hurt a good deal, too. However, no human body, male or female, was designed to have limbs severed or hot lead implanted in vital organs.

 

[big4life]

I've seen guys handle it good, and I've also seen guys
spend all their time trying to keep other guys from
looking at their girlfriends.

As far as concentrating on the lifting goes, the biggest
challenge would be just the weight differences that you
and him are lifting.

 

[BronzedGoddess]

I'm not going to argue with y'all so I'll agree to disagree.

 

[needsize]

This is by far the stupidest argument I've ever seen on these boards. There is absolutely no documented evidence ANYWHERE that men can take more pain then women, that's just macho bullshit no matter how you look at it. Men are stronger because they have test levels up to 10 times that of a woman, and we all know test is responsible for muscle growth. What does that have to do with pain threshholds? I'm in shock that this simple post ended up filled with such crap!!!

 

[Grizzly]

This is by far the stupidest argument I've ever seen on these boards. There is absolutely no documented evidence ANYWHERE that men can take more pain then women, that's just macho bullshit no matter how you look at it. Men are stronger because they have test levels up to 10 times that of a woman, and we all know test is responsible for muscle growth. What does that have to do with pain threshholds? I'm in shock that this simple post ended up filled with such crap!!!

True, there is no documented, scientific data to back up that assumption. However, there is certain empirical data. In most cases, women will "wimp out" much faster than a guy. Even if it is "macho bullshit" the whole machoness of it will give the male the advantage. I know, personally, I will not, I repeat WILL NOT, allow a woman to beat me in a test of will/pain tolerance. It's exactly that "machoness" that makes the male win. Most menfolk don't want to be seen as weaker, lesser or wimpier than a woman. Therefore, whether they feel or like the pain or not, a man will not give in just because it's an affront to their masculinity. Either way, in a test of pain endurance most men will prevail over a woman. Even if it is just "macho bullshit."

 

[IronDNA]

It's never worked for my wife and I. We have very different goals and I lift to heavy for her, to much time spent pulling and putting plates off and on.

That got annoying for me real fast. Having to redo the machines and plates breaks the momentum of your training session. Also, it is wise and safer to have a spotter who you KNOW will be able to take that weight, especially when doing squats. Find another bro to lift with and your workouts will be more productive.

 

[needsize]

In most cases, women will "wimp out" much faster than a guy.

That's a gross generalization that doesn't have any place on a board where people come for training advice!

 

[Grizzly]

That's a gross generalization that doesn't have any place on a board where people come for training advice!

There's a reason that stereotypes and generalizations exist. Besides, I would consider that more of a maxim than a generalization. Also, I'll put my "gross generalizations" whereever the fuck I choose to, thank you. It's not my fault that this thread changed from it's initial intent, but, seeing as how it has taken on this direction, it would only make sense to put that on this board. So, buddy, you're wrong there.

 

[BronzedGoddess]

Here we go again............ Needsize just ignore it. I do.

 

[needsize]

Grizzly, you're right, you can put your "views" where ever you want, but you'll find most of the people on this board don't share them.
Goddess, done and done!

 

[gymtime]

I think maybe I can add some clarification since I'm at work and have nothing better to do.

It seems you're arguing two different subjects here; pain threshold vs. durability. Men are larger and stronger than women, and therefore more durable. In other words, it takes more to damage the average man than the average woman. But this has nothing to do with pain threshold. Women OWN men in that department. It's fairly common knowledge.

 

[Grizzly]

I think maybe I can add some clarification since I'm at work and have nothing better to do.

It seems you're arguing two different subjects here; pain threshold vs. durability. Men are larger and stronger than women, and therefore more durable. In other words, it takes more to damage the average man than the average woman. But this has nothing to do with pain threshold. Women OWN men in that department. It's fairly common knowledge.

I don't agree with that at all. Take my ex, for example. She was definitely a strong and faily tough little bitch(ok, she was a huge bitch). Well, somedays we'd fool around and she'd start punching me so I'd give her a little pinch. She'd scream in pain and I'd scream for a harder punch. How could her pain threshold possibly be higher than mine? I don't know. Maybe I'm a bad example. I like pain. I'm always telling people to hit me with things and, when I was younger, I used to cut myself all of the time.

 

[gymtime]

I don't agree with that at all. Take my ex, for example. She was definitely a strong and faily tough little bitch(ok, she was a huge bitch). Well, somedays we'd fool around and she'd start punching me so I'd give her a little pinch. She'd scream in pain and I'd scream for a harder punch. How could her pain threshold possibly be higher than mine? I don't know. Maybe I'm a bad example. I like pain. I'm always telling people to hit me with things and, when I was younger, I used to cut myself all of the time.

There's really nothing not to agree with. I'm sure you're all very tough and manly and what not. But we're not talking about you, or your "tough little bitch." We're talking about men and women in general. If you really want me to prove you wrong, I'm sure I can find medical documentation proving this without much problem.

 

[Grizzly]

Alright. I would love to see medical data that proves women have a higher pain threshold. I seriously doubt that it exists. Try and find.

 

[LeviathanX]

Everyone here is speaking on there own opinion. You will not find proof suggesting men or women have higher pain thresholds because pain threshold is a mental thing.

Take, for example, the monks during Vietnam who burned themselves alive while in meditation. THAT is true mind control over body.

 

[Grizzly]

That's a seriously good point, bro. It does differ from individual to individual. I know I've met some seriously freaky girls who would put many men to shame, but I still maintain that men, if only out of "machoness" will win in a pain game. Call me a sexist, pig, bastard, but I think it's the truth.

Oh yeah, where's that scientific proof at that you promised me dude?(Not directed at you, Leviathan. I'm talking to gymtime.)

 

[gymtime]

This one hurts a little, but when I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

Gender and Pain

 

[LeviathanX]

Funny... a few posts back I remember being called ignorant for my point-of-view. Now, with some scientific evidence backing up that point-of-view who looks ignorant?

Do your homework before you automatically assume I, or anyone else, is speaking simply from a male chauvenist point-of-view.

 

[needsize]

I still think it's a generalization. All men cannot withstand a higher pain thresh hold than all women. I'm not trying to trash anyone on this board, but I have trained with women who could probably out train and out lift most of the men on this board, myself included, and anyone who has seen the pic I posted on this board, knows I'm a pretty advanced trainer.
Instead of being bothered by the concept of women like that, it makes me wish my wife was more into training!

 

[BronzedGoddess]

When will it end?

This post has gotten away from it's main topic. (I know I was one of the people that got sidetracked) Since this whole "discussion" is based around opinions no one is right. We each believe what we are going to believe and nothing is probably going to change that.

I've never said all women have a higher pain threshold than men. I see chicks in the gym every day that disgrace the beauty and strength of a woman by not even pushing themselves (why even go?). But there are only 2 females in my class and the rest are guys and we work HARDER and we complain a hell of a lot less than the guys. Yeah, my back hurts at the end of the day from carrying a ruck sac and having to lift sandbags, dig with my entrenching tool etc. But I never f*cking complain (only to y'all ) But the guys always find a way to sit on their ass. Maybe it's because a lot of them are 19 and are not use to hard work, but they've all been in the Army for atleast a year so they should be use to it by now. Please don't categorize women and I won't categorize men. Deal?

P.S. On the strength subject, I can do more pull ups than 3/4 of the guys in my class hahahaha

 

[Godly1]

you go bronzed

i know bg. she can also out squat most men. by the way, most women might have been prissy back in the 50's but times are changing.

 

[gymtime]

I still think it's a generalization. All men cannot withstand a higher pain thresh hold than all women. I'm not trying to trash anyone on this board, but I have trained with women who could probably out train and out lift most of the men on this board, myself included, and anyone who has seen the pic I posted on this board, knows I'm a pretty advanced trainer.
Instead of being bothered by the concept of women like that, it makes me wish my wife was more into training!

Of course it's a generalization. No intelligent, sane person would argue that all men have a higher pain threshold than all women. There will always be exceptions to the rule. There are very few absolutes in life. But that doesn't change the fact that IN GENERAL, men can handle more pain than women can.

 

[BronzedGoddess]

Of course it's a generalization. No intelligent, sane person would argue that all men have a higher pain threshold than all women. There will always be exceptions to the rule. There are very few absolutes in life. But that doesn't change the fact that IN GENERAL, men can handle more pain than women can.

IN GENERAL.......shut up!

 

[gymtime]

IN GENERAL.......shut up!

Who's talking to you? If this is so irritating, why keep adding posts? You've told everyone to fuck off, called one of these guys gay, and promised to stop responding about eight posts ago. You think you're too cool to keep posting, yet you always come back. Is that how you normally handle people who disagree with you? Proven you wrong? How the hell old are you anyway?