Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[Bikini Mod]

I'm not a big believer in marriage (beyuond it being a legal contract) right now but i know we've been closer and together much longer than you and your husband and besides that really isn't an issue. My point (which you already realised before you posted your non-sensical reply) was that i'd appreciate a woman way more if she didn't EXPECT to be paid for...and actually i think most men would appreciate that more if the woman had the decency.

...and yes it is a social rule because many women in society seem to hold it. Your views are nothing knew. The fact that many women think their man is 'immasculated' (as you put it) if they don't automatically pay for their date is just laughable.

Nope sorry. You might find it funny. That is your right. But that doesn't mean that everyone else shares this view. They may be laughing though it may not necessarily be that they are laughing with you. Not a personal attack, just sayin is all. All depends upon your point of view.

I am trying to understand why SOME men seem so intent on grabbing on tightly to that change in their pockets as if that were a REAL MEASURE of his manhood. <---- any man who thinks this way, I suppose doesn't need ME to immasculate him as he's clearly already done it to himself.

For goodness sakes, how much could a meal at a mid-priced restaurant cost? (I always chose very fine restaurants once I raised my standards in who I would allow to date me. If the company wasn't going to be all that great, at least my pallate wasn't offended.) 100$ is THAT big a deal?

DAYUM, if a man is THAT intent on holding onto a few dollars then chances are he wouldn't know how to open my door, help me into my seat, discuss the menu w/me intelligently and order properly nor would he likely know the other social rules that I demand from a perspective partner. Am I uncompromising on something that might *seem* superfluous? Perhaps, but every man that would choose to pursue me knew all of these things upfront. If he didn't, he quickly realized and either swam or sank like a freaking 200# cement block.

I am very old school when it comes to these things, but luckily for My Old Grump - I did fuck on the first date. So one might say that I am a healthy balanced mix of old world and new?

 

[jd_uk]

BM...It seems obvious to me that you are one of the only people here capable of talking about money as if it is a measure of manhood. If a man doesn't appreciate a woman who expects to be paid for, do you really derive that he therefore uses money as a measure of his masculinity?

On a side note, I don't really rate making a lot of money as a priority but for the women who do see money as so important...are you not capable of going and making it yourself? It really isn't difficult if you put some effort in. There's not a lot more pathetic than a woman who won't put the effort in to make some money (instead going and finding a man to do it for her) if she values it so highly.

 

[Bikini Mod]

BM...It seems obvious to me that you are one of the only people here capable of talking about money as if it is a measure of manhood. If a man doesn't appreciate a woman who expects to be paid for, do you really derive that he therefore uses money as a measure of his masculinity?

On a side note, I don't really rate making a lot of money as a priority but for the women who do see money as so important...are you not capable of going and making it yourself? It really isn't difficult if you put some effort in. There's not a lot more pathetic than a woman who won't put the effort in to make some money (instead going and finding a man to do it for her) if she values it so highly.

Actually if you re read my posts - money has NOTHING to do with a man's measure.

I supported myself, four children and a gaggle of lawyers fighting for the right to maintain a SEMBLENCE of custody nearly 6+ years BY MYSELF. Yea I got up at 3:30AM to be at work by 5AM with four children in tow for the whopping salary of 8$ p/hr till 9AM then the pay got dropped to 7 dollars. I paid my bills - ME.

So what were you saying again?

 

[KillahBee]

Self glorification at its best here folks.

Woe is me syndrome hard at work!

 

[heatherrae]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Yeah what makes you say that? Because I like a casual place that serves beer??? LOL.

I would not be offended if that was a first date. IT would be kinda fun and casual no? And cheap.

Please dont tell me you like those places like Blonde!

I like to hit up Wild Wings on a date sometimes. Chicken wings = good. lol.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Self glorification at its best here folks.

Woe is me syndrome hard at work!

Woe is me? Obviously you were not talking to me.

I am very happily married to a wonderful man and WE earn a great deal of money together.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Self glorification at its best here folks.

Woe is me syndrome hard at work!

lmao

so true

 

[jackangel]

i am not a hindu. only by background.

there are only a few considerations i give to food:

1. does it taste good?
2. how much protein/fats/carbs/calories does it have?
3. will it adversely affect my health/well-being (i often ignore this one) ?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

I like to hit up Wild Wings on a date sometimes. Chicken wings = good. lol.

You know what I find to be MOST amusing about this thread?

If a woman states a preference for a casual date then she = easy or stupid/low class.

If a woman states a preference for more formal dating situations then she is arrogant and a gold digger/mooch.

LMFAO

Methinks *some* of the men should just save everybody trouble and keep their hands in their pockets where they can hold tight to their pennies and play with themselves in every social setting and not worry too much about offending anyone's delicate sensibilities.

 

[cindylou]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

You know what I find to be MOST amusing about this thread?

If a woman states a preference for a casual date then she = easy or stupid/low class.

If a woman states a preference for more formal dating situations then she is arrogant and a gold digger/mooch.

LMFAO

Methinks *some* of the men should just save everybody trouble and keep their hands in their pockets where they can hold tight to their pennies and play with themselves in every social setting and not worry too much about offending anyone's delicate sensibilities.

I guess since I've been to BWW and ENJOYED it at the same time ; I've never been anywhere except TGI Fridays and Pizza Hut and have never experienced nightlife.