Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[jh1]

It isn't entitlement, really. It is just basic etiquette. You don't send an invitation out and then make the person pay. If a man treats me well, he can expect plenty of home cooked meals, love, and devotion. Buying me dinner and a drink on the first date isn't too much to expect if a guy is serious about respecting my time and feelings.

If I ask a client out for drinks, they can expect that'd I would pay. A date is different - both people have equal interest in the outcome - neither one should be trying to 'profit' from their relationship with the other.

I.E. the guys shouldn't expect a BJ and hte girl shouldn't expect free dinner. Yeah ettiquite - but that's just tradition - and women want tradition changed. Traditions aren't always good. That' being said - I'd never ask a girl on a date and not pay. Nor would I accept an inivitation to a date and not pay - that's just me.

 

[nimbus]

In college, we would grab coffee or sit in the park or whatever. It didn't have to cost more than $5. It is just the gesture of being asked out and taken care of that I find attractive.

Whether you guys think it is antiquated or ridiculous, I can't help the way that I feel. If a guy asks me out and then tries to go dutch once the tab arrives, I feel like he is probably never going to be generous in any way (not just financially) or that he is kind of a wuss who can't even provide one good date. It just makes me not attracted anymore. I can't help how I feel about it.

pedophiles can't help the way they feel about little kids

lol j/k, i swear i'm not a pedo!

 

[Scotsman]

In college, we would grab coffee or sit in the park or whatever. It didn't have to cost more than $5. It is just the gesture of being asked out and taken care of that I find attractive.

Whether you guys think it is antiquated or ridiculous, I can't help the way that I feel. If a guy asks me out and then tries to go dutch once the tab arrives, I feel like he is probably never going to be generous in any way (not just financially) or that he is kind of a wuss who can't even provide one good date. It just makes me not attracted anymore. I can't help how I feel about it.

I liked taking girls for ice cream on thursdays when I was in college. The coldstone always put coupons in the campus newspaper good for buy on get one on thursdays. Then walk over to the park and sit, talk, and eat the ice cream. Great fun and low pressure/expense dates.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[heatherrae]

I liked taking girls for ice cream on thursdays when I was in college. The coldstone always put coupons in the campus newspaper good for buy on get one on thursdays. Then walk over to the park and sit, talk, and eat the ice cream. Great fun and low pressure/expense dates.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Exactly!

Bring a bag of cookies and a blanket. It is just the gesture of providing, of generosity and being romantic that is special.

 

[jh1]

Exactly!

Bring a bag of cookies and a blanket. It is just the gesture of providing, of generosity and being romantic that is special.

Nothing says romance like a bottle of KY and a blowjob!

 

[heatherrae]

Nothing says romance like a bottle of KY and a blowjob!

pick3 said you are very romantic!

 

[cindylou]

Exactly!

Bring a bag of cookies and a blanket. It is just the gesture of providing, of generosity and being romantic that is special.

and its something memorable and less cowardly than fancy dinner and cocktails to lube up the conversation. lol.

 

[H_T_]

Funny, I've been accused of having one of those a few time in my life too. Typically asked by men who were being cut down to size by me in a board room or in a biz setting. Funny how that works, huh?

you look like you might be packing a little extra something...

 

[heatherrae]

and its something memorable and less cowardly than fancy dinner and cocktails to lube up the conversation. lol.

The fancy dinners are nice, too. I like getting all dressed up and having a special night out, if he can affford it.

I used to have a bf, though, that our "thing" was to go to every rib joint in the states of ohio and ky to determine who had the best BBQ. It wasn't expensive. It was just our cool thing that we did.

 

[jh1]

and its something memorable and less cowardly than fancy dinner and cocktails to lube up the conversation. lol.

Dang, ur tough.

I'd say that it makes it easier, especially with the social akwardness of first dates, to have a few drinks... am I coward?