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Why is it so hard to be faithful??

I don't think it is hard at all when you truly respect someone.

And its very easy when you are head over heels in love with someone.
 
i respect people LOL! There are just so many juicy men in this world... Ohh well.. i guess im just a big ol flirt..

Single for life baby!
 
Friscochick said:
i respect people LOL! There are just so many juicy men in this world... Ohh well.. i guess im just a big ol flirt...

Or you've never been in love. Nothing wrong with either. :)

I just know that whenever the notion of getting it elsewhere crosses my mind, the Universe throws me a bone and shows me how much worse I could have it. The risk versus the reward is not worth it, and the thought of having to tell my partner that I screwed around on them nauseates me. I'm terribly practical.
 
I don't find it difficult at all. I love my wife more than anything in the world. I would never risk harming our relationship. I just think about how I would feel if I found out she had sex with someone other than me since we have been together. I would be crushed!


I sure as hell look though - especially when on close to a gram of test/week.
 
Ceebs said:


Or you've never been in love. Nothing wrong with either. :)

I just know that whenever the notion of getting it elsewhere crosses my mind, the Universe throws me a bone and shows me how much worse I could have it. The risk versus the reward is not worth it, and the thought of having to tell my partner that I screwed around on them nauseates me. I'm terribly practical.

YOUR PROBABLY RIGHT TOOTS. SOMEONE COME AND SWEEP ME OFF MY FEET SO I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE ! :D

THING IS, I THOUGHT I WAS IN LOVE BEFORE.. BUT THEN THE SEC HE DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION.. I MEAN I NEVER WENT OUT AND SCREWED SOMEONE ELSE.. BUT I WAS FLIRTING LIKE A MUTHA..

THAT'S WHEN I SAID, GUESS THIS IS NOT GONNA WORK!
 
I sorta got this answer from watching the learning channel...heh heh heh, Men ARE animals, and as all males of the animal kingdom they are here to procreate the species....whereas they said women look more for security for themselves and their offspring.....

Ranger's Thoughts on this one Darl'in:

" God gave all men a hole in the end of their penis....That way we can think with an open mind "

Heh heh heh heh

Ranger
 
The Ranger said:
I sorta got this answer from watching the learning channel...heh heh heh, Men ARE animals, and as all males of the animal kingdom they are here to procreate the species....

Yup, gotta spread the genes around to create a broad and healthy genepool.
 
The Ranger said:
I sorta got this answer from watching the learning channel...heh heh heh, Men ARE animals, and as all males of the animal kingdom they are here to procreate the species....whereas they said women look more for security for themselves and their offspring.....

Ranger's Thoughts on this one Darl'in:

" God gave all men a hole in the end of their penis....That way we can think with an open mind "

Heh heh heh heh

Ranger

lol!!!!! I LIKE YOURS!
 
The Ranger said:
I like yours too!!!

Ranger

Heh heh heh heh

WELL GROOOOVVY BABY


HEY QUESTION: WHAT IS "HEH??" IS IT SOME SORTA DIVIOUS CHUCKLE OR SOMETHING?

YOU GOT ME OVER HERE YELLING IT OUT TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU MEANT! LOL :FRlol:
 
Lestat said:
I don't think it is hard at all when you truly respect someone.

And its very easy when you are head over heels in love with someone.

very true.....otherwise if your just dating someone u like but not love i can see why it would be hard to stay faithful. your soul wouldnt be in it!!!
 
I find it extremelly hard for a man to be faithfull to his g/f. When you are running on high test it's almost impossible to pass up on opportunity for sex. I know alot of friends who cheat like it's no big deal. The worst thing is that their g/f's have no idea and the've been doing it for years. Even if their friends tell them that their boyfriends are cheating they don't seem to believe it. If you are not married, you are still considered single and I don't see a big problem with having sex with other people.
 
HEY QUESTION: WHAT IS "HEH??" IS IT SOME SORTA DIVIOUS CHUCKLE OR SOMETHING?


Heh heh heh heh....It's my Eddie Murphy chuckle sunshine....

Ranger
 
As long as you're not out there hurting people emotionally, there's nothing wrong with being single and leading that lifestyle if that's what you choose Frisco.

I used to subscribe to the 'why buy the book when you can borrow from the library' mentality as well, but at 29, i feel time has come to hang my party gear up and find a partner.

Then again, the temptation to keep partying may just be too much.
 
if it's difficult not to cheat then here's a way not to cheat.. after you have gotten your o on with somebody else, come home to your true love and compare notes of your latest conquests. :)
 
not hard. If you love the person, have respect for her/him and of course, have some morals, then its easy. Otherwise forget about that.
 
I guess it all depends on what stage of your life you are in. You can respect people, but still want to have fun, or get the attention. Just because you are flirtatious it doesn't have to mean you are sleeping around. I am naturally a flirtatious person when it comes to my close friends. It is usually in a joking manner, but a lot of people think it is cheating or being unfaithful to the person I am with at the time. I guess it is all up to your definition and/or rationalization of faithfulness and what you feel is cheating.
 
I never feel as if it is difficult to remain faithful, however I NEVER put myself in situations that would make it possible or even make my girl wonder if anything is going on.
Truth is I have been with her for 5 years and I am head over heels about her...I am still wondering why she likes me.
I must say it helps knowing that I couldn't get anyone that is so gorgeous, so sweet, and so caring. We also loss our virginity to each other so we don't have any of that other baggage to deal with. I am so lucky I waited for the one I knew was meant for me....even though there were pleanty of opportunities to test the waters before her.
 
I've never had issues being faithful, but then I've never been in a long lasting relationship. I can't say that I don't think I have been in love. That's a whole other can of worms. I do know that when you are in love or in a relationship or both, you commit yourself to that person. That means look, but don't touch. I don't care if you see someone that is hotter, richer, smarter, whatever. I think it's a choice though. You have to decide if you want that committment to one person. If you aren't ready for it, then stay out of a relationship, thus the tempatation is gone.
 
Being faithful is hard?

I often wonder this myself...about others. I have principles and that is one of them. If I flirt, which I do a lot, it is just that...a flirt. A kiss, a touch, or anything more...it cheating.

B True
 
I was faithfull to one man for over 12 years and it was easy. Honestly, I don't understand what the problem is.

Now that I have been separated (God-willing divorced SOON) for 2 years I still don't have a problem being "faithfull". But I haven't found anyone where that is a requirement of the relationship. So, if I WANT to be with someone, then that is who I will be with. But I also don't go out, just to have something to do. I can control my urges because for me sex is about so much more than a physical attraction. If I do not have a genuine affection for someone than it just isn't worth it for me to take my clothing off. And a genuine affection (not talking love here) can not happen within 4 hours of meeting someone.

Not passing judgement on anyone. I am only telling yall how I work. :)
 
When I was younger it was very hard to stay faithful. I was always looking for something else, something better, and something newer. Then it all stopped when I realized I found someone perfect for me. Now the thought of cheating never even enters my mind. Mind you I’ve e known my wife almost my whole life and dated most of her friends and we have dated off and on since the 7th grade. We realized there must be a reason we kept coming back to each other and got serious. From that day on there has never been a reason for either one of us to go looking. (Unless we are looking for a hottie for a threesome)
 
bikinimom said:
I can control my urges because for me sex is about so much more than a physical attraction. If I do not have a genuine affection for someone than it just isn't worth it for me to take my clothing off.

Oh come on B'mom. Don't you sometimes just feel like having some stud fuck your brains out and then get up and leave, never to be heard from again?
 
In addition to love and respect, the answers to this question are very simple -- yet hard to establish and maintain.

1. Complete, 100% honesty -- lies, no matter how insiduous, are deceptions that lead to other deceptions in a relationship. There are lies to hide, there are lies to save feelings. The second variety is particularly hard to break -- until you really think about how disrespectful this type of lie is -- it is essentially saying that your partner is too weak/immature to handle the truth and that you must protect them at the expense of your true feelings. Of course, tact and timing is key. Learn how to be positive in potentially negative situations.

2. Agreement on money. (Committed) partners should choose a dollar amount (it's $25 in my wife and me's relationship) where you can buy anything up to that point, but anything else has to be agreed upon by the other partner. And no penalizing if you don't get your way!

3. Partners need to know where eachother are at all times. There's no valid reason why you shouldn't be aware of your partner's schedule. Taking time to talk about eachother's days/weeks is a sign that you care about what the other is doing -- and is necessary in case of emergency.

4. In public/private situations without your partner, don't do anything that would hurt your partner's feelings/anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner.

5. Learn to argue productively; don't worry about who is right, worry about what works to solve the problem; don't throw (resolved) history in the partner's face.

6. Very important -- don't put yourself in situations where cheating can occur. That simple. Just about everybody, no matter how committed, will cheat under the right conditions. Don't let those conditions exist. Not spending enough time together? Sit down, talk about it and spend more time together. Mad about something? Resolve it. Etc., etc...

You have to decide that you want a relationship and work to protect it if you are to remain faithful in anything. Your partner is supposed to be the person closest to you in the world -- it is your responsibiltiy to protect them, their feelings and the relationship, even if it means some perceived personal sacrifice -- what you gain will be much greater than what you lost.
 
THeMaCHinE said:
In addition to love and respect, the answers to this question are very simple -- yet hard to establish and maintain.

1. Complete, 100% honesty -- lies, no matter how insiduous, are deceptions that lead to other deceptions in a relationship. There are lies to hide, there are lies to save feelings. The second variety is particularly hard to break -- until you really think about how disrespectful this type of lie is -- it is essentially saying that your partner is too weak/immature to handle the truth and that you must protect them at the expense of your true feelings. Of course, tact and timing is key. Learn how to be positive in potentially negative situations.

2. Agreement on money. (Committed) partners should choose a dollar amount (it's $25 in my wife and me's relationship) where you can buy anything up to that point, but anything else has to be agreed upon by the other partner. And no penalizing if you don't get your way!

3. Partners need to know where eachother are at all times. There's no valid reason why you shouldn't be aware of your partner's schedule. Taking time to talk about eachother's days/weeks is a sign that you care about what the other is doing -- and is necessary in case of emergency.

4. In public/private situations without your partner, don't do anything that would hurt your partner's feelings/anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner.

5. Learn to argue productively; don't worry about who is right, worry about what works to solve the problem; don't throw (resolved) history in the partner's face.

6. Very important -- don't put yourself in situations where cheating can occur. That simple. Just about everybody, no matter how committed, will cheat under the right conditions. Don't let those conditions exist. Not spending enough time together? Sit down, talk about it and spend more time together. Mad about something? Resolve it. Etc., etc...

You have to decide that you want a relationship and work to protect it if you are to remain faithful in anything. Your partner is supposed to be the person closest to you in the world -- it is your responsibiltiy to protect them, their feelings and the relationship, even if it means some perceived personal sacrifice -- what you gain will be much greater than what you lost.


Very WELL SAID!!!!:D
 
flirting is one thing, actually being unfaithfull is another altogether......its about loving someone, having respect for that person and their feelings, (do unto others) ask yourself, if he was doing this, how would i feel?
 
Frisco, I have almost always had a GF and I have never cheated on any of them. I get TONS of chances and my friends tell me I'm an idiot for not taking them.
I know how bad it hurts to be cheated on and I will not do that to someone I care about.
Just the other week I passed on three good looking girls who wanted to take me to a hotel and do me, I'm not going to lie it was VERY hard (pun intended) to turn that down but that's who I am .

Now you just make sure and keep your sweet little ass outta Grand Rapids and I will be able to keep it up no problems. lol
 
LivinLarger said:
Frisco, I have almost always had a GF and I have never cheated on any of them. I get TONS of chances and my friends tell me I'm an idiot for not taking them.
I know how bad it hurts to be cheated on and I will not do that to someone I care about.
Just the other week I passed on three good looking girls who wanted to take me to a hotel and do me, I'm not going to lie it was VERY hard (pun intended) to turn that down but that's who I am .

Now you just make sure and keep your sweet little ass outta Grand Rapids and I will be able to keep it up no problems. lol

Thats because your such a stud!! Well your gf or wife is very lucky to have such a wonderful man! :D

Thanks for your kind words love
 
TEXgrl said:
ask yourself, if he was doing this, how would i feel?

Reminds me of a line from an LL Cool J song called Mr. Goodbar. While LL is trying to make a play for another man's girl he says to her:

" Who? My girl? I don't know, she might be with your man, you know what I'm saying? But I'm with you."
 
ttlpkg said:


Reminds me of a line from an LL Cool J song called Mr. Goodbar. While LL is trying to make a play for another man's girl he says to her:

" Who? My girl? I don't know, she might be with your man, you know what I'm saying? But I'm with you."


I LOVE LL!
 
ttlpkg said:


Oh come on B'mom. Don't you sometimes just feel like having some stud fuck your brains out and then get up and leave, never to be heard from again?

Honestly, no. In my 35 years I have had 2 one night stands. Both around the time that I was 34. Both times the sex was either "eh" or "GEEZE! I took my clothing off .... FOR THIS?!?!"

THE BEST SEX I EVER HAD was with an amazing man who was severely broke (not in the money sense, but in the toaster sense LOL). I loved him very intensely and I know he returned my feelings.

My current beau is a close second. He could do some things that even the dude before him couldn't do.

And I have had some pretty decent sex with guys who I had an affection for....

Sorry, for me it isn't necessarily about love. PUH-LEASE I am waaaaay too old for that. But there MUST BE A GENUINE AFFECTION or I will just go home and play with my toy. I get off bigtime with as much or little effort as I choose, roll over and go to sleep or depending on the time of day, get dressed and go about my business with a smile and a little less frustration. :)
 
Sorry, for me it isn't necessarily about love. PUH-LEASE I am waaaaay too old for that. But there MUST BE A GENUINE AFFECTION or I will just go home and play with my toy. I get off bigtime with as much or little effort as I choose, roll over and go to sleep or depending on the time of day, get dressed and go about my business with a smile and a little less frustration. :) [/B][/QUOTE]


YOUR WAAYYY TO CUTE!:p
 
WELL I THINK I LIKE WHAT IM READING HERE. SWEEP YOU OFF YOUR FEET HUH WELL WITH ME YOU WONT BE ON YOUR FEET ALL NIGHT AND SOMETIME IN THE MORNING TOO OH THAT CAME OUT WRONG HMMM OR DID IT:)
 
WIDELAT said:
WELL I THINK I LIKE WHAT IM READING HERE. SWEEP YOU OFF YOUR FEET HUH WELL WITH ME YOU WONT BE ON YOUR FEET ALL NIGHT AND SOMETIME IN THE MORNING TOO OH THAT CAME OUT WRONG HMMM OR DID IT:)


i'm sure we'll know soon enough tiger! :p
 
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