Why is it so hard to be faithful??

[PHATchik]

I've never had issues being faithful, but then I've never been in a long lasting relationship. I can't say that I don't think I have been in love. That's a whole other can of worms. I do know that when you are in love or in a relationship or both, you commit yourself to that person. That means look, but don't touch. I don't care if you see someone that is hotter, richer, smarter, whatever. I think it's a choice though. You have to decide if you want that committment to one person. If you aren't ready for it, then stay out of a relationship, thus the tempatation is gone.

 

[b fold the truth]

Being faithful is hard?

I often wonder this myself...about others. I have principles and that is one of them. If I flirt, which I do a lot, it is just that...a flirt. A kiss, a touch, or anything more...it cheating.

B True

 

[Frackal]

Cheat on your bf again friscodick

 

[Bikini Mod]

I was faithfull to one man for over 12 years and it was easy. Honestly, I don't understand what the problem is.

Now that I have been separated (God-willing divorced SOON) for 2 years I still don't have a problem being "faithfull". But I haven't found anyone where that is a requirement of the relationship. So, if I WANT to be with someone, then that is who I will be with. But I also don't go out, just to have something to do. I can control my urges because for me sex is about so much more than a physical attraction. If I do not have a genuine affection for someone than it just isn't worth it for me to take my clothing off. And a genuine affection (not talking love here) can not happen within 4 hours of meeting someone.

Not passing judgement on anyone. I am only telling yall how I work.

 

[the_jarhead]

When I was younger it was very hard to stay faithful. I was always looking for something else, something better, and something newer. Then it all stopped when I realized I found someone perfect for me. Now the thought of cheating never even enters my mind. Mind you I’ve e known my wife almost my whole life and dated most of her friends and we have dated off and on since the 7th grade. We realized there must be a reason we kept coming back to each other and got serious. From that day on there has never been a reason for either one of us to go looking. (Unless we are looking for a hottie for a threesome)

 

[Longhorn85]

I can control my urges because for me sex is about so much more than a physical attraction. If I do not have a genuine affection for someone than it just isn't worth it for me to take my clothing off.

Oh come on B'mom. Don't you sometimes just feel like having some stud fuck your brains out and then get up and leave, never to be heard from again?

 

[THeMaCHinE]

In addition to love and respect, the answers to this question are very simple -- yet hard to establish and maintain.

1. Complete, 100% honesty -- lies, no matter how insiduous, are deceptions that lead to other deceptions in a relationship. There are lies to hide, there are lies to save feelings. The second variety is particularly hard to break -- until you really think about how disrespectful this type of lie is -- it is essentially saying that your partner is too weak/immature to handle the truth and that you must protect them at the expense of your true feelings. Of course, tact and timing is key. Learn how to be positive in potentially negative situations.

2. Agreement on money. (Committed) partners should choose a dollar amount (it's $25 in my wife and me's relationship) where you can buy anything up to that point, but anything else has to be agreed upon by the other partner. And no penalizing if you don't get your way!

3. Partners need to know where eachother are at all times. There's no valid reason why you shouldn't be aware of your partner's schedule. Taking time to talk about eachother's days/weeks is a sign that you care about what the other is doing -- and is necessary in case of emergency.

4. In public/private situations without your partner, don't do anything that would hurt your partner's feelings/anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner.

5. Learn to argue productively; don't worry about who is right, worry about what works to solve the problem; don't throw (resolved) history in the partner's face.

6. Very important -- don't put yourself in situations where cheating can occur. That simple. Just about everybody, no matter how committed, will cheat under the right conditions. Don't let those conditions exist. Not spending enough time together? Sit down, talk about it and spend more time together. Mad about something? Resolve it. Etc., etc...

You have to decide that you want a relationship and work to protect it if you are to remain faithful in anything. Your partner is supposed to be the person closest to you in the world -- it is your responsibiltiy to protect them, their feelings and the relationship, even if it means some perceived personal sacrifice -- what you gain will be much greater than what you lost.

 

[Friscochick]

Cheat on your bf again friscodick

one of these days my lil friend

BANG BAM BOOM TO THE MOON!!!!

 

[Friscochick]

In addition to love and respect, the answers to this question are very simple -- yet hard to establish and maintain.

1. Complete, 100% honesty -- lies, no matter how insiduous, are deceptions that lead to other deceptions in a relationship. There are lies to hide, there are lies to save feelings. The second variety is particularly hard to break -- until you really think about how disrespectful this type of lie is -- it is essentially saying that your partner is too weak/immature to handle the truth and that you must protect them at the expense of your true feelings. Of course, tact and timing is key. Learn how to be positive in potentially negative situations.

2. Agreement on money. (Committed) partners should choose a dollar amount (it's $25 in my wife and me's relationship) where you can buy anything up to that point, but anything else has to be agreed upon by the other partner. And no penalizing if you don't get your way!

3. Partners need to know where eachother are at all times. There's no valid reason why you shouldn't be aware of your partner's schedule. Taking time to talk about eachother's days/weeks is a sign that you care about what the other is doing -- and is necessary in case of emergency.

4. In public/private situations without your partner, don't do anything that would hurt your partner's feelings/anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner.

5. Learn to argue productively; don't worry about who is right, worry about what works to solve the problem; don't throw (resolved) history in the partner's face.

6. Very important -- don't put yourself in situations where cheating can occur. That simple. Just about everybody, no matter how committed, will cheat under the right conditions. Don't let those conditions exist. Not spending enough time together? Sit down, talk about it and spend more time together. Mad about something? Resolve it. Etc., etc...

You have to decide that you want a relationship and work to protect it if you are to remain faithful in anything. Your partner is supposed to be the person closest to you in the world -- it is your responsibiltiy to protect them, their feelings and the relationship, even if it means some perceived personal sacrifice -- what you gain will be much greater than what you lost.

Very WELL SAID!!!!

 

[TEXgrl]

flirting is one thing, actually being unfaithfull is another altogether......its about loving someone, having respect for that person and their feelings, (do unto others) ask yourself, if he was doing this, how would i feel?