What to tell a woman about your sexual history??? Help me out here ladies.

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

I know how many girls you've been in, as you have told me before.

I would more than likely not date someone who has been with as many partners as you have. However, if a guy was completely honest when telling me his high number of sexual partners, I would take his honesty into consideration. So, if the guy and I got along well, shared a lot of common interests, etc, and the only thing that bothered me was his high number of sexual partners I would consider dating him. His honesty would certainly say a lot about him as a person. People always change. You may have slept around in your younger years and no longer do that.

I feel you should be honest with her, if worse comes to worse she may not ever talk to you again. However, you would feel better knowing that you are starting off a possible new relationship without any lies. If you were to lie to her and later come across something else from your past that she may not like or you think she may not like will you need to lie to her in order to keep her interested? Just tell her the truth. Explain to her that you have never cheated on any of your past girlfriends, etc.

You should be okay. You never know this girl may have surpassed you in sexual partners. Which at 20 would be amazing.

Good luck, BBF!

 

[Mandinka2]

Funny , I've only been with 9, honestly and live alone and am 28. Be sincere, u dont have that , u got nuthin , I dont believe people change tho. I believe if u've been busy then u cant expect ur partners not to have been so I guess that u guys seem matched from the freshman year performance... its not for me but good luck with it.
P.S. Quit bonin married women willya!?

 

[THeMaCHinE]

If you can't have a relationship based on complete honesty, then it's not really worth having.

Lie to her and have a fling if you must, but if you view her as a keeper, tell her the truth...

 

[gingersnap]

I think she'll be fine with the truth. She is only going to care about diseases and you should be honest about that too. She's a little spicy herself so she will be fine I'm sure.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Right, most of the people have had said to be honest, and since she has told me alot of things about her that she was worried might be a problem, and I told her they wouldn't be, hopefully she will feel the same way. Personally, I'm a pretty straightforward person, and feel better when I'm honest with others. If the topic comes up, I think I'll just tell her. HOwever if she doesn't ask, then I'm not going to volunteer the information. She knows that I've been very sexually active in the past already.

Nvr, she already knows about me not being a cheater. The subject is something that already came up in conversation. She knows my view on cheating, the same one I chatted with you about in depth some time back. She didn't completely agree. She says she believes its possible for couples to work things out if one cheats.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

 

[bigsonrising]

I get no love damnit, I RECOMMENDED TRUTH first...ungrateful

 

[Naeem]

Its always a lose lose situation for me. I am very good looking, so its always assumed I get alot of play. Its not true though. So when this topic comes up, and I try to avoid, or change subject, they always go crazy and assume shit.

I cant tell em that I've only been with a few, they wont believe. Too many and im a player. So I tell em im a virgin, its funny and gets em off my back temporarily.

A few generally is the safe answer. I wont give a definite answer though.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Well, this isn't going to be an issue, we had a chat about it today. We've both been with alot, no numbers were given, but we agreed that the other having had lots of partners was not an issue. She actually seemed more worried that her sexual history would bother me. So that settles that. Thanks for the advice guys.

 

[JerseyDevil]

Hey Bro

I dont think this should even be brought up. As long as you dont pass a disease on to her then its no one's business but your own.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

It hasn't come up so far, and I think everything is cool. I appreaciate all the input from everyone. Anyway, we had a really nice date this afternoon. I'm going to try to hold onto this one. I really like her.