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What to tell a woman about your sexual history??? Help me out here ladies.
Mr. Black
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Sometimes honesty is not the best way to go regardless of your "honest" predisposition. I would sort of feel out the situation, find out how many people she has been with first and how she responds to people who have high numbers in general. If her number is close to yours (which could be possible considering how "wild" she is/was) then fuck it tell her the truth. If she seems cool with double/triple digits refer to the latter as well. However if you detect some analness, sorry bud your gonna have to lie. As Klueless posted, some women simply can't handle the truth and can't seem to let it fuckin go.
sh4dowf4lcon
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I know you asked the ladies for their reply, but I felt it appropriate to give my 2cc's.
Honesty Is The Best Policy, and Bro, we live in Texas...if she doesn't like it we CAN find others.
Honesty Is The Best Policy, and Bro, we live in Texas...if she doesn't like it we CAN find others.
Christopher X
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This is always a hard one. I've usually tried to be (fairly) honest when a new girlfriend or girlfriend-to-be has asked me this. But before I answer I always counter with a question or two - Why do you want to know? and Will you tell me how many men you have been with?
As you say, not all girls ask. I don't ask them, either, unless they ask me. (Good advice from the court lawyer who said, 'Never ask a question unless you have a good idea what the answer's going to be AND you know that you want to hear that answer'.)
If I were you, I definitely wouldn't say 9. Depending on your age, it sounds low and it also does sound as if you are deliberately trying to keep it to single figures (on the same sort of basis that goods going for $9.95 or $9.99 somehow sound less expensive than they would if the price was $10.00).
Whether you think that 20 or 30 or some such number will sound 'better' than 45, well that's up to you. I suspect that it won't. I think the best thing is to be truthful - after all, a lie is bad basis to start a relationship on. I agree that far more important than 'numbers' is whether you've been faithful while you've been in a relationship that is supposed to be monogamous. You say you have, and I think that's what you should be emphasizing to her. Anyway, from what you say it doesn't sound as if she lets the grass grow under her feet, so you have a good chance that she won't be too bothered. If she is bothered, well maybe she's not the right person for you.
Whatever you decide to do, best of luck!
As you say, not all girls ask. I don't ask them, either, unless they ask me. (Good advice from the court lawyer who said, 'Never ask a question unless you have a good idea what the answer's going to be AND you know that you want to hear that answer'.)
If I were you, I definitely wouldn't say 9. Depending on your age, it sounds low and it also does sound as if you are deliberately trying to keep it to single figures (on the same sort of basis that goods going for $9.95 or $9.99 somehow sound less expensive than they would if the price was $10.00).
Whether you think that 20 or 30 or some such number will sound 'better' than 45, well that's up to you. I suspect that it won't. I think the best thing is to be truthful - after all, a lie is bad basis to start a relationship on. I agree that far more important than 'numbers' is whether you've been faithful while you've been in a relationship that is supposed to be monogamous. You say you have, and I think that's what you should be emphasizing to her. Anyway, from what you say it doesn't sound as if she lets the grass grow under her feet, so you have a good chance that she won't be too bothered. If she is bothered, well maybe she's not the right person for you.
Whatever you decide to do, best of luck!
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Gymgurl, yeah but the 18 would be a lie. LoL Its over twice that. Or are you just saying she would believe 18?
Well, the men I've been with = zero. I don't think she would mind honesty on that one.
Christopher X, she is fairly young (20), but she has already told me she had sex with several guys her freshmen year in high school, so her numbers might be fairly high.
I'll have to put some thought into this. Hopefully she doesn't ask tonight. LoL I don't know what I would say yet.
Well, the men I've been with = zero. I don't think she would mind honesty on that one.
Christopher X, she is fairly young (20), but she has already told me she had sex with several guys her freshmen year in high school, so her numbers might be fairly high.
I'll have to put some thought into this. Hopefully she doesn't ask tonight. LoL I don't know what I would say yet.
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