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vinylgroover
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relax......i've saved plenty of people who 'didn't' need help over the years, guys and girls.
Buddy_Christ
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maybe it's the "damsel in distress" thing...they think they're going to save you so you will sleep with them.
vinylgroover
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crak600 said:
i usually follow a spot with a dinner invitation.
If anyone comes near my bar, they get scared away real fast.
Mexicasa Plexiglassa
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When I was working out in a gym a couple of years ago it happened all of the time.
It was like hidden code or something, if you witnessed someone get hurt in the gym, it was your fault they got hurt just as much as it was there's. Because you could have either stopped them and given advice as a hint to smarten up, or you could have ran over and spent 5 minutes of your day spotting someone.
A lot of people would see someone lifting something reletively heavy and they would wait to start their set on whatever they were doing, and wait until the other guy/lady was done just incase.
I don't know, maybe it was just at the gym I was at. But all I know, is that some days you are either not thinking straight, or it is one of those horrible days where everything goes wrong even if God is on your side, and I got my ass saved many times.
And I appreciate it to this day.
It was like hidden code or something, if you witnessed someone get hurt in the gym, it was your fault they got hurt just as much as it was there's. Because you could have either stopped them and given advice as a hint to smarten up, or you could have ran over and spent 5 minutes of your day spotting someone.
A lot of people would see someone lifting something reletively heavy and they would wait to start their set on whatever they were doing, and wait until the other guy/lady was done just incase.
I don't know, maybe it was just at the gym I was at. But all I know, is that some days you are either not thinking straight, or it is one of those horrible days where everything goes wrong even if God is on your side, and I got my ass saved many times.
And I appreciate it to this day.
rogerthedog
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Smurfy said:
That's not it. I get the same from time to time. Even growling 'don't touch the bar' doesn't seem to deter some people. Shouting 'For F**ks sake' at them at the end of the set usually limits them to only one go.
FYI: the guy's name is Alan. Alan introduced himself to me and we shook hands after giving me the wave today while i was warming up. He proceeded to follow me over to the squat rack and asked me if i was feeling better (i think i somehow mentioned that i was getting over bronchitis yesterday). So, obviously, Alan has a thing for big bottom white girls.
Scotsman
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Smurfy said:
You act surprised that someone has a thing for big bottom white girls. I thought that was the norm
I will only step up to spot someone if it looks like they are in eminent danger of hurting themselves. Usually I'll wait until their done with their set and let them know I can spot them if they want to do more reps next time.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Synpax
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You are right, it wouldn't happenif you are a man. I've been stuck under a heavy bar for over a minute before someone noticed me shouting for help. Now I always use a spotter for life-threatening exercises and often finding one is a chore.
So I would rather have your problem than mine.
Odds are, the guy wants to hit on you and also has the desire to protect you, even if you don't really need it. I give my seat up on the train to work/home for the same reason (unless the woman is really fat and unhealthy and would benefit more by standing up).
However - just because he asked you your name and spoke to you the next day doesn't mean he is interested in you whatsoever, so don't act overly defensive about it.
So I would rather have your problem than mine.
Odds are, the guy wants to hit on you and also has the desire to protect you, even if you don't really need it. I give my seat up on the train to work/home for the same reason (unless the woman is really fat and unhealthy and would benefit more by standing up).
However - just because he asked you your name and spoke to you the next day doesn't mean he is interested in you whatsoever, so don't act overly defensive about it.
JavaGuru said:
Bingo.
Smurfy, Alan just thinks you're cute! (Seen your avatar lately? We can't condemn him for that
.)Offering a spot's the perfect way to talk to a gal, at least in a guy's mind. It:
--shows off in a semi-subtle way, since he can easily "help" you with your work weights. Wooo, he's strong!
--lets him get into your personal space, and probably to stand over you. Both establish an unspoken pecking order; even if he doesn't realize what he's doing, partly it could be to show dominance/taking charge.
--shows he's [mock?] considerate, at least inasmuch as he could say his intentions are good.
It's also kind of like a complex question, e.g., "Do you still kick your dog every day?" That is, you can't just answer yes or no, or you'll come off like a heel.
OTOH, accepting his help lets him talk to you a bit, so he "wins"; but refusing it in all but the most polite manner, and he could whine that he was just trying to help (again "winning" as the pretend nice guy).
I know it's goofy, but from many guys' eyes, it really is a win-win situation. He thinks he looks sensitive AND tough at the same time.
That, and dejection doesn't sting so much. Asking for your number and being slammed is one thing...being turned down for a spot's something even the most ego-driven guy can shrug off in 30 seconds
strongsmartsexy
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So many people at the gym work without spotters. Most of them don't lift enough to worry about. If someone appears to be lifting a lot and doesn't have a partner, I'll ask them if they'd like a spot. If they're in the middle of reps and look to be struggling, I will go to a spotting position and make sure they don't hurt themselves. WHen they're done with the set, I'll make sure they know that I'd be happy to spot them in the future.
I've only had a couple of guys tell me to fuck off. I just smile at them and tell them to bite my ass.
I've only had a couple of guys tell me to fuck off. I just smile at them and tell them to bite my ass.
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