"What is your view on the relationship between "sex" and "love"?

[Cutiebaby]

lol at all the ladies talking about not cheating but the majority of breakups due to cheating results from the lady cheating.

I never not once said that I have never cheated, nor have I said that my husband has not..
What I said is that if you love someone enough and are willing to make it work after cheating than you will!!!! Although, there is a point where someone makes mistake after mistake..that is when enough has become enough

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Here's one-what about if you find out the person you're seeing is also seeing someone else.... I think when sex is involved, there has to also be choosing in this scenario. It has more to do with social responsibility than hurting someone's feelings.

 

[samoth]

social responsibility

In america?

LOL.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

In america?

LOL.

*sigh*
True

 

[Stefka]

What counts as cheating?

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

What counts as cheating?

My definition has always been "anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other".

 

[samoth]

What counts as cheating?

Cheating (biology)

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Cheating, also known as exploitation, between organisms is a form of parasitism or specialized predation in which an organism engages in what appears to be a mutualistic relationship with another organism, but does not in fact provide any benefit to the other organism. The relationship between the organisms may be symbiotic, in which case cheating is a form of parasitism, or non-symbiotic, in which case cheating is a form of predation or herbivory.

Cheating is often found in situations where there are generalized non-specific mutualisms between broad classes of organisms, such as the relationship between flowering plants and animal pollinators or between mycorrhizal fungi and plants.

Examples
Some insects and birds engage in a behavior called nectar robbing in which they harvest nectar without pollinating the plant; nectar robbers are often close relatives or mimics of pollinating species. Another example would be myco-heterotrophic plants that take carbon from fungi in a shared mycorrhizal network without contributing anything to the fungal symbiont. These parasitic plants act as "mycorrhizal cheaters" in such systems.



HTH

 

[Stefka]

My definition has always been "anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other".

Well, in that case...I expect cheating to happen.
I dont like it - but people are people.
It happens.
This may be why I do not trust anyone.

 

[Lestat]

i've thought about this a lot myself.

Seems like sex drive is something that is engrained in all of us, period. The desire to be with one person your entire life really isn't. Think about it, one is a trait that as evolved over millions of years and is one of the strongest drives that humans (or any other animals) have.

Choosing one person for your life partner is a much newer thing, and is NOT something that increases the survival of your DNA, what if your one partner was not fertile, etc. That would be weeded out through natural selection.

Seems like ONLY in modern times has this type of monogomy been the norm, think of tribal leaders they had TONS of women they had sex with. Same with biblical times, Abraham had a wife, but many other concubines with whom he procrated with. This seemed to be exactly what his "god" had in mind and it worked for him.

As far as loving people, I can love many, but there are some things within a relationship that are unique and special to the dynamic. I could find something similar with someone else, but it would never be exactly the same.

having an orgasm is different, you can have big ones, small ones, intense ones, less intense ones. I've had sex with a few people and different people just connect together totally differently. Had I gotten married at 18 I would have missed out on a whole ton of things that I am glad to have experienced. So now are you supposed to wait to get married until you get all of that out of the way, how will you ever know?

The main issues I think about are health ones. Sex can come with adverse health effects, that is something I am conscious of when selecting sexual partners for sure. I am not married, and not in a serious relationship, so I don't have to worry about the cheating aspect right now, but I have in the past and basically I just surpress the desire to fuck other women and make the best of what I've got. Sounds shitty I know, but come on, just because you are married some switch doesn't flip that makes your brain NOT want to bang other people! Its exciting. Who can deny that. Sure sex with someone you are in love with is great, a connection of sorts, special, all of that. But people can be married for 50+ years, that is a LONG time to go without any new pussy/cock, I'd argue its unnatural.

 

[Stefka]

Cheating (biology)

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Cheating, also known as exploitation, between organisms is a form of parasitism or specialized predation in which an organism engages in what appears to be a mutualistic relationship with another organism, but does not in fact provide any benefit to the other organism. The relationship between the organisms may be symbiotic, in which case cheating is a form of parasitism, or non-symbiotic, in which case cheating is a form of predation or herbivory.

Cheating is often found in situations where there are generalized non-specific mutualisms between broad classes of organisms, such as the relationship between flowering plants and animal pollinators or between mycorrhizal fungi and plants.

Examples
Some insects and birds engage in a behavior called nectar robbing in which they harvest nectar without pollinating the plant; nectar robbers are often close relatives or mimics of pollinating species. Another example would be myco-heterotrophic plants that take carbon from fungi in a shared mycorrhizal network without contributing anything to the fungal symbiont. These parasitic plants act as "mycorrhizal cheaters" in such systems.



HTH

Oh - nectar robbers...I like it.