What do you think?

[Juice2121]

My wife and I have been married for almost 2 years and been dating for 4 years. We are both very young 20(her) 23(me).

Well about a week ago we were talking about our fantasies since our sex life is very open(no swinging just comfortable around each other). She told me a bunch of typical things but then told me how her biggest fantasy is to see 2 girls have sex in the same room.

She doesn't want to join in or me to, just to watch. I teased her telling her she was just to embarrased to join in and then she said "Well honestly I would kind of want to join in I'm just not sure if I could let you".

She has 2 hot friends that are bi that have tried to get us to have an orgy with them in the past so it wouldn't be a problem really to get something like this going on, But I'm not sure what to think. If she did join in but I couldn't I'm afraid it might cause problems, hell even if I did I might get jealous. But in all honesty I'm not the jealous type at all, just everyone tells me it will get to me so that has me worried.

Really this is crazy and has me completely confused. I want to and trust the fact that I wouldn't get jealous but with every one of my friends saying don't do it, it has me worried maybe I don't know myself that well.

Give me some advice.

Juice21

 

[KillahBee]

I guess it depends on your personal level of jealousy. I, personally, am a pretty jealous person so, even though I would LOVE to see that happen, I might not do it just to save future problems.

 

[presguy]

yeah, could be fun at the time, but the future problems that could come back to haunt you arent worth it.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

By your post it is obvious that you are uncertain as to what exactly your feelings would be if this situation took place. It also sounds as if its something you have thought about a lot.

Although it may sound fun and seem like a "once in a lifetime" opportunity, "oh great two women together (or even three)... exciting", what happens afterwards if you decide to go through with this can ruin what you have with your wife or it can bring you closer in some ways after experiencing one of her fantasies together.

It's a hard decision to make, for sure. Think about every pro and con in this situation.

You already know that you are not typically jealous but you could be jealous in this particular situation.

Think about what would bother you ( or cause jealously) if your wife went through with this.

Think about what is most important to you. A continued,healthy, fullfilling, satisfying, trusting relationship with your wife or the excitment you will both experience during the duration of said sexual activity?

If you do decide to share this opportunity with your wife and her friends (although you won't be involved directly) you should be ready for anything that happens post encounter. You may find that post encounter problems that could arise make this fantasy not worth it.

Will your relationship with your wife change drastically because of your possible jealous feelings?

Will your wife want to do something similar again?

Will you wonder if your wife enjoyed the experience so much that she may go behind your back and do this again with her friends or ever other girls?

It could also be a good thing if you think you are ready for such an experience. It could be the beginning of you and your wife having threesomes. It could also be the end of your relationship.

Have you expressed your concerns to your wife? Does she know that you could possibly get jealous? Voice your concerns to your wife. Talk about everything you would be okay and not okay with if this is going to happen. You may even be able to compromise to come up with a solution that would work for both of you to avoid jealousy issue on your part and for her to feel like she has satisfied her fantasy.

Remember, fantasies are just that. Sometimes they are better left as that. Things like this are NOT suitable for every couple.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

 

[Juice2121]

We talked about it she hasn't pushed it at all. She's told me several time she wouldn't mind a 3some since that's my fantasy but would have to be with a girl neither of us would have to be around in the future.

Which I wouldn't do that because my wife is the jealous type and I can definately see that causing problems.

On the other hand our sex life has changed drastically as of lately. We have great sex and are alot more open to things. I don't know exactly how to describe it. I guess basically we have an understanding that sex is for pleasure and we try to do everything we can for each other in that matter.

I know I wouldn't get jealous but my true problem is I don't understand her thinking. It's ok for her to have sex with her friends but it's not ok for me to. haha. Not that I wouldn't enjoy watching. She has said that she won't join in she just wants to have sex while we watch them. But also she has expressed that she would like to join in just doesn't know if she can bring herself to do it.

I guess I still have a lot of thinking to do.

Juice21

 

[THeMaCHinE]

#1 If there's group sex, everbody's included since it's not your natural inclination to sit out.

#2 Don't include friends; no matter how solid you think your relationship is, she may have a hard time not fucking them behind your back once the line is crossed. Likewise for you if you were included.

 

[Gymgurl]

Somethings are left better as fantasies when you are married. She may deceide that she likes sex with women better and your going to left going....what the F**k just happened. I don't advise it for your marriage, but it is up to you guys.

 

[Juice2121]

Thanks for all the help.

We talked it over last night and she says she doesn't want to plan it but if the opportunity arises she wanted to know if I would want to do something like that. I told her I wouldn't get jealous but it might cause our relationship problems.

That was basically the end of the conversation, she couldn't get over the fact that I wouldn't get jealous. She said that I need to be more protective? Now I'm very confused. First she says she wants to then when I say it's ok she is mad at me.

She calmed down and said she just can't picture me knowing its going to happen and just watching and accepting it. It made her feel like I don't care about her. She did say if something happens like before where her friend is trying to get us to mess around with her and we are both into it then it would be ok to go with it. She still wouldn't want me to be involved other then kissing she said.

Oh well I'm confused and think it's a very bad idea at this point. Like you all said it's not worth the risk of losing my soul mate over a fantasy regardless of who's fantasy it is.

Juice21

 

[Spooky238]

You're not looking at the whole picture here. She told you she didn't want you to join in, right? Why do you suppose she said that? It sounds like although you may not have a problem here, and you could deal with it just being sex, she feels differently. It seems to get into the whole venus and mars thing with men and women. Reverse the situation and think how youd like it if she joined three other guys in some wild sex. Probably not a good plan, right? It sounds like she may have some reservations about you joining when she wants you to get that kind of thing from her alone. You aren't a woman, so in her mind she's not doing the same thing as you would be doing by joining those other two women. While most guys are easily adapted to no emotional attachment sex, most women are not. That's why she doesn't understandyour lack of jealosy here. (be careful here, she may wonder why it doesn't bother you and start thinking you don't feel the same for her as she does for you.......that spells trouble)
I'd think that if this was to happen at all, given your reservations at this point, you wouldn't want it to be with people that you'll be seeing again in non-sexual circumstances. It might be that she loses her friendship with those two other girls. In any event, it would be awkward at best. There's no going back once you do it. Things will change, and nobody knows where that will take you. For now, I'd just get a bunch of girl/girl porno and have fun with that. You're both pretty young, don't rush it, enjoy yourself a little while before you mess with things too much.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

don't do it bro, I mean a fantasy is one thing, but the actual act of cheating is wrong. It sends a message you are comfortable with the cheating or messing around with others. It will change things to some degree.

Fantasy is a thought or and idea...I dont think you should act out on the thoughts.