Threesome has got me BAFFLED!!

[Zerxes]

So Im seein this girl who always comes off like she wants me to fuck her rommate while she watches right?! We are all good friends and her roomie(who is pretty hot & really cool) hasn't had sex in over a year. So one day on the phone I say something about asking her(her roomy) if she wants me to "help her out" the next time I come down to see them, and they are both like "ahuh". So I'm down visiting two weeks ago and I am out on the porch late in the evening talking to her roomie, and my GF is in the house getting some drinks. We are flirting BIGTIME, and I'm telling her how sexy her lips are, and she is stroking my calves & leg, as my GF walks out the door. Coincidentaly, we both(me & her roomie) both went silent as she walks out, and my GF gets all pissy with her roomie after I go in the house to grab a beer I guess. Question is: Why is she pissy if she is the one who supposedly wanted to watch me fuck her in the first place?? Is it the fact that there might be some attraction between myself and her roomy that would be MORE than just letting my girl get off while watching? I don't get it...what am I allowed to fuck her but not to actually like her, or was she just pissed because we went silent, and she felt unincluded?! This shit has got me stumped. The day I left I had to take her roomy back to her car, and we were talking about "what if" we ever had sex, and she said that my GF told her that if I were ever to be with another girl, she would want it to be her! Im like "dude, she so WOULD mind". She's all talk, but then afterwards(or in our case even before) the act occurs, she acts like I cheated on her or something. I hope that made sense(lol), and could use some advice on where you guys think she is coming from(my GF), and how I should handle this crap. Thanks.

 

[bigguns7]

If you're going to do it, make sure your girlfriend's involved in EVERYTHING. Don't do anything without her in the room, and without her knowledge. That's the best advice I can give you.

 

[Ceebs]

Question is: Why is she pissy if she is the one who supposedly wanted to watch me fuck her in the first place?? Is it the fact that there might be some attraction between myself and her roomy that would be MORE than just letting my girl get off while watching?

And we have a winner!

Seriously, unless your girl has superhuman anti-jealousy X-ray vision, there's going to be a little bit of tension there. Even if she did broach the threesome subject, in her mind, you're treading a thin line between just getting the second girl off for the sake of sex, and getting the second girl off because you feel something more.

For this reason, I would highly recommend that if you do go ahead with the threesome, to not include the roommate. Your girl probably volunteered the roommate in the first place because it's a person she's comfortable with, but making the leap from living partners to lovers will put the kibosh on any comfort after the fact. Plus the fact that there's already some jealousy a-brewin'... not a good situation. Pick up some random pussy at a strip joint instead, if possible.

 

[tripleV]

hmmmmmmmmmmm i think i may have a clue about this...

u see girls who want this with their bf is purely sexual, and i for one, would have to choose the chic etc, if he did, id think he was after her and this was just a way of him gettin it on with her without cheatin...

so by her stumbling upon you two flirting or whatever, she got pissy, i would too....its supposed to be just sexual!!! know what i mean? no "feelings" with you and the other chick....

and...ur gf must always be there when u r doin anything...u must both be there...

any questions? lol

 

[Spectre]

She felt left out.. Switch the situation around and see what you think. If your in it for the long run communicate, communicate and communicate some more.

 

[rnch]

quotes from my father, on the topic of dealing with women:

"feminine logic is a contradiction of terms"

"what a woman sez is not what she means"

"you cannot apply calm logic and rational reasoning to the feminine mind".

the longer he is gone; the more i miss the ol' man.

 

[Zerxes]

hmmmmmmmmmmm i think i may have a clue about this...

u see girls who want this with their bf is purely sexual, and i for one, would have to choose the chic etc, if he did, id think he was after her and this was just a way of him gettin it on with her without cheatin...

so by her stumbling upon you two flirting or whatever, she got pissy, i would too....its supposed to be just sexual!!! know what i mean? no "feelings" with you and the other chick....

and...ur gf must always be there when u r doin anything...u must both be there...

any questions? lol

Well in this case, the chick was chosen for me pretty much. I just don't get that I'm allowed to fuck this other girl, but I'm supposed to know all the rules that it entails(according to my GF) w/o them ever being given to me beforehand. I think the real problem is this maybe...I actually like her roomy alot more as a person than I do the girl I am seeing. She is alot more intelligent, she is alot funnier, and we get along well. Plus the fact that I hear she is an animal in the sack probably has its' place in my mind, and I'm sure that comes off in what I say about her to my GF. In this case, it would be "purely sexual" for everyone initially, but I think the fact that her roomy and I get along REALLY well comes off as intimidating to my gf, and that I might(in her mind) enjoy being with her alot more than my GF if it ever were to happen. Thing is though, even though that is all relevant and probably true, why would she(my GF) come off like she wanted to watch me fuck her??? Is this a test to see what I am going to say to that offer?? I mean, doesnt she realize that I AM a man, and that every man is going to say yes to that?!?! It is almost like a test to see if I respond the right way to her offer or some shit. Crazy.

 

[TEXgrl]

sounds to me like she's curious, but not exactly ready yet. it would be best to spend some very quality time discussing with her one on one what she wants, what is ok for you to do, not ok, etc. the more time you dedicate in advance discussing issues, the less trouble you have in the end.

 

[Star]

I would also have to wonder WHY she would want to watch you fuck her room mate.......There is NO gratification in that and obviously already some emotional turmoil. It makes more sense to me that perhaps she wants to fuck her room mate and is using you as a way to do it.

 

[Dr.M]

This kinda stuff could turn into a problem, who knows what or why she wants it. Maybe she wanted it but didn't want to see you enjoy it, maybe she wanted to get off on the jealousy or something, hmm. Why don't you ask her what is on her mind?