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Anyone here been through a divorce before? I seriously don't know what to do. I'll explain what is going on "after" I see some people reply. I don't want to type my life away and then not have anyone reply. LOL
Think I might want a divorce
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needtogetarmy
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I almost went through a divorce earlier this year.
We went to counseling. After the first meeting she said she 'didn't want to change.' Things got a little better for a while.
Fast forward 8 months later things are back to where they were. I am ready for a divorce but I have a 6 month old and 2 yr 5 mth old that need their pappi in the home.
I do not know how much longer I can go on though. I am planning on ending it next summer. I have been telling myself that for years. Hopefully I will be ready when the summer comes around.
Our problem is that we do not have much in common anymore. I am a neat and organized person, she is a hoarder. I like sex fairly often, she can go without sex for months. The list goes on. My children are the only reason why I am here.
I'd have an affair but I am not the cheating type. I wish she would cheat so I would have an instant reason to leave.
We went to counseling. After the first meeting she said she 'didn't want to change.' Things got a little better for a while.
Fast forward 8 months later things are back to where they were. I am ready for a divorce but I have a 6 month old and 2 yr 5 mth old that need their pappi in the home.
I do not know how much longer I can go on though. I am planning on ending it next summer. I have been telling myself that for years. Hopefully I will be ready when the summer comes around.
Our problem is that we do not have much in common anymore. I am a neat and organized person, she is a hoarder. I like sex fairly often, she can go without sex for months. The list goes on. My children are the only reason why I am here.
I'd have an affair but I am not the cheating type. I wish she would cheat so I would have an instant reason to leave.
cw801
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I was married to my kids' dad for about 7 years, but it was all wrong right from the start. Got married because we had a baby.......our relationship was dysfunctional and one sided from the beginning, and he had addiction issues that I hadn't even realized fully until after we were married. I had my boy a couple of years later, while things were still decent......but it just went downhill from there. As a mom of two young children, I stayed at first for the kids, and for financial reasons, of course. But there came a time when I was OK financially, and I finally figured out that it wasn't better for my kids to grow up thinking that my relationship with their dad was how all relationships and marriages should be (no love, no intimacy, no respect - just coldness and fighting). A happy parent is a GOOD parent. Life is far too short to be miserable and lonely in a marriage.......and my kids needed to see what a real, loving relationship was like. I left.......never looked back. It was absolutely the right decision......but it was hard - emotionally, it was horrible........guilt, second guessing, not knowing the future, dealing with court, the soon-to-be ex, watching the kids learn to adjust....it was definitely NOT easy or painless. But it WAS worth it........
I have been with my current husband for almost 9 years now, and he has been an integral part of my children's lives. We have a normal relationship.....with love....and respect....and my kids got to grow up seeing that THIS is what a relationship is supposed to be like. So......as hard as it was in the beginning........it was absolutely the right choice.
I don't condone divorce......but there are certainly times when it's just better to sever the ties and move onto something better for EVERYONE.
If you are fair, honest, respect your significant other, and are true to yourself......divorce isn't always a negative thing.
I have been with my current husband for almost 9 years now, and he has been an integral part of my children's lives. We have a normal relationship.....with love....and respect....and my kids got to grow up seeing that THIS is what a relationship is supposed to be like. So......as hard as it was in the beginning........it was absolutely the right choice.
I don't condone divorce......but there are certainly times when it's just better to sever the ties and move onto something better for EVERYONE.
If you are fair, honest, respect your significant other, and are true to yourself......divorce isn't always a negative thing.
I agree. My bro is in a horrible marriage. He stays for the kid, but so not worth it. I've watched many a friend divorce. Just make sure the river is dry before u go there.
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