That darn double standard again....

[starfish]

You know how the guys always complain about how, after marriage, the sex declines?? Have they ever thought about why? Or, if there's anything they can do about it??

I know not every woman is the same sexually, but for me, physical non-sexual affection turns me on. Kissing, general affection, etc..... I've noticed that, in the 3 years I've been married, it has declined..... And, the "Hey, you want to go upstairs & do "it"?" just isn't that exciting....

I've mentioned it and he doesn't seem to "get it."

That would bother me too. All that "other stuff" makes the sex part 1000x better because you feel closer to that man.

Tell him to get with the program

 

[MissJanet79]

LOL...I luv it Janet...guys are something else..my dude and I have met a happy medium...I give him oral pleasure while he is watching sports during the week...and on the weekend it's all the kissing and caressing I can handle...but it took many conversations, many misunderstanding, and many mansterbating nights (when we weren't living together).

LOL Thanx!!

Yeah he & I are into pretty much the same things, sports, movies, SEX etc. So we bump heads on other issues... but I did have to "train" his brain b/c there are times they just want to get to it right away & I'm like we got time damnit... take your time! It's amazing...after A MILLION reminders, I've noticed that he does kiss me etc., more! Wow, they really CAN be taught. Just takes way too much patience sometimes!

 

[jenscats5]

That would bother me too. All that "other stuff" makes the sex part 1000x better because you feel closer to that man.

Tell him to get with the program

I HAVE told him......that is what's so frustrating.....I have changed the way I do things cuz he likes it that way....COMPROMISE.....so why can't I have what I want? My ex-husband didn't get it either....

MEN!?!?! Jeez!!

 

[brunette]

if you have told him, and nothing, then how about showing him?

 

[FigureSkater]

And of course, if a woman doesn't want to or isn't in the mood, it's HER fault.
If a guy can't get it up, it's HER fault for not doing something right.
And so on...

 

[jenscats5]

if you have told him, and nothing, then how about showing him?

Oh he knows what I want done....I think he's just dense or something..... LOL

 

[Pamela]

Men get to comfortable.
So I believe they see it as a job to romance, take you out. etc. They make it sound like a chore. Instead of planning like they did before they leave it up to the women to make the plans. And it's not as exciting as it was.

But men and women are different. I was once married before. And my husband didn't enjoy sex. I use to think it was me. I would try and wear sexy clothes the heel and make the moves on him. ( I think I use to scare him) lol! But he just wasn't interested.

Go figure!

 

[Werd]

I swear the guys that complain the worst about how "my wife just doesn't understand me" are the ones with the 2inch dicks who think that foreplay = ,"Honey, could you get me another beer?"!

I have a voracious sexual appetite. The only time I dont want sex is when I am sick w/my GI troubles. Simple solution to that: drink a little, medicate a little and fuck till you cough blood.

I have to admit though, I am a bit wierded thinking about what it will be like w/my kids in the house after I marry my bf. They know we are "dating" LOL and REALLY REALLY like him - THEY WANT ME TO MARRY HIM and also know that when adults are married they share a bed. I was always always very affectionate w/their father and they would giggle and think it was funny. Now they think that when my bf and I show innocent affection it is even funnier!... but still that is NOT sex.

Methinks I need to start another thread about this....

I am not losing sleep over this issue, but still I do wonder how this will play out.

 

[sexkitten]

i love sex, and i am a very affectionate person. my bf will complain about sex and not even stop to realize that the reason it isnt always good is all his fault. mayb they should put a little moreeffort into it instead of just humping us like an uneutered dog

 

[jenscats5]

i love sex, and i am a very affectionate person. my bf will complain about sex and not even stop to realize that the reason it isnt always good is all his fault. mayb they should put a little moreeffort into it instead of just humping us like an uneutered dog

BAM!! Nail on the head.....