Strange question....

[Werd]

Opinions please.

When your man keeps beginning statements with words like, "When we are married...." and/or "When you are my wife...." would you all think it is proper for the woman to come out and say, "I haven't been formally asked.... "

Then he goes on to say, "I got your birthday present the other day. I know you will LOVE it." (My bday isn't until the end of the month.)

He is SUCH the pain-in-my-ass.




God, how I LUV it!

 

[jenscats5]

Oh boy, you're all googly now!! LOL (sooooo cute!)

I forsee some hinting going on...... I would be "suspicious" so to speak. But the present could also be something else you may like....Hmmmmm

Keep us updated!!

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Opinions please.

When your man keeps beginning statements with words like, "When we are married...." and/or "When you are my wife...." would you all think it is proper for the woman to come out and say, "I haven't been formally asked.... "

Then he goes on to say, "I got your birthday present the other day. I know you will LOVE it." (My bday isn't until the end of the month.)

He is SUCH the pain-in-my-ass.




God, how I LUV it!

He is so throwing out the hints doll. You deserve the best. Good luck to you and your precious girls.

 

[Raina]

You sound so happy! He sounds awesome! He really does. He's obviously in it for the long run. I guess the question is do statements like those scare you away or make you feel giddy?

 

[Pamela]

You do sound so happy.

Just take it slow though. How long have you known him?

I feel like your Mommy asking you this questions.

 

[Werd]

LOL thanks ladies. I have known him nearly 3 years (in Oct). We met on a job interview. He would have been my boss but he declined offering me the position. He told me that I was too good for the job and that he wanted me for himself LOL! We've had a very unconventional off and on relationship ever since. I don't want to discuss details, suffice it to say that he has had GOBS of life experience and I have had more than my fair share since I had separated from my exhusband.

I am deeply in love and I believe that he is as well....

He is always performing gentle little acts of kindness that speak volumes to me. I have been treated very poorly my entire life by men who I chose to waste my affections on and by many "friends" and even many key members of my family. But life has broken me especially over the last year and has allowed me the ability to build myself back up as a more grounded, healthy person. I now know who truly loves me and who wants to abuse me in order to make themselves feel better. So many people have been so kind to me, never abandoning me, never asking for anything in return, only wanting to see me happy.... some family, some TRUE friends and some total strangers.

There are moments when I feel like the luckiest woman alive, and then when I have mental lapses I can't breath and I want to run.... When I have the mental lapses I actually have audible conversations with myself to see if it is the "old - please abuse me" me or if it is truly a legitimate warning going off...

My family, my therapy, some good friends and some wonderful random strangers have all helped me to arrive at who I am today.

If I do marry again, I will ask my BIL to walk me down the aisle. He is truly a man amongst men. He and my sister are the most wonderful people on the planet. They (and thier kids) have supported me and my kids from the beginning - without question - never wavering. It has been nearly 4 years since this nightmare began....

I dont want a fancy wedding. I dont even know if I want to wear a proper wedding dress. I dont even want a big engagement ring or wedding jewelry. My man has more money than god, has been a VERY successful business man with tremendous influence and celebrity... but that has nothing to do with why I am with him as I had dated many. He made a comment once nearly 2 years ago that REALLY hurt my feelings and I told him to straight up FUCK OFF... AND MEANT IT! It was the best thing I ever did.

It is the little things that mean so much to me.... ie - he ALWAYS asks my permission before he touches me. ALWAYS... He was this way before he knew of my abusive past. But since I told him (I finally had the courage this weekend) he is even MORE mindful of how he treats me...

There is nothing that I want that he will not give me or do for me. But I don't ask or want for anything so he goes out of his way to get little things that please me ie only the flavor gourmet jelly beans and chocolates that I like LOL. He has candy all over his home in very fine crystal. He insists on carrying my bags, waking up with me and making my coffee (even though he doesnt have to wake for many more hours), serving me, helping me do my laundry ...anything I want. He even told me that if I wanted a baby, we could have one! LOL I was like.... ummmmmmmmmm, NO, but thanks for the offer. heheheheheee

My children will NOT be spoiled, just as none of his were. But they will be afforded EVERY opportunity. And best of all, they will see their mother loved and treated like gold... THEY WILL BE LOVED AND TREATED LIKE GOLD.

 

[Pamela]

Then you have my Blessings

This does sound like you two are made for each other and that
he loves you very much!

I am very happy for you.

 

[FigureSkater]

Congrats Sounds like a keeper!!

At this point in my life, I think hearing the "m" word from a guy would make me RUN...very fast, in the opposite direction!!!

 

[brunette]

thats sooooo romantic ..'when you are my wife....', thats what you call a slip of the tongue