Ok, just because a woman wants you to take her to a strip club does not mean she wants other women. Even straight women get turned on by flirting with the idea of making it with another woman. She wants to live out a little fantasy. I took a girl to a strip club before, she got a couple dances, then we went out to the parking lot and fucked.
Anytime a woman "pretend" puts you in the boyfriend role, it is because she can see you in it.
This chick has thrown you a number oif signs that she wants to fuck, you just have not picked up on them. It is ok, I am pretty bad at catching it when it is in my face too.
GL, just be confident, assertive, and she is yours.