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Note: This is long, the full read is worth it and entertaining, but for those who don’t want to, I made cliff notes at the bottom. Also it’s divided into 2 parts. Part 1: background and first time hanging out. Part 2: second time hanging out, and concerns about future.
Part 1:
Well, as many of you know, lately I've been trying real hard to meet some women, break my 23 year streak of singleness (or at least find someone to have fun with, even if it isnt a relationship),
And I started talking to this girl I met online. Her name is Tabby. She's 20 years old, a little chubby but still cute and she started texting me a lot to talk with me. I of course have been messaging and texting tons of women, because I know it takes a high number of attempts before you catch a fish.
I hadn't hungout with this girl yet, because she lives in a small town about 70 miles from here (mapquest says its a 1 hour 40 minute drive)
Well I found out that she likes cuddling, making out, and fun stuff like that from talking with her online, and we sensed some attraction, so I was going to visit her last Friday in her town, and maybe spend the night.
Well, she cancelled on Friday cuz she was a bit nervous, but on Sunday she was in my city visiting her friend, and she texted me and told me to come by her friend's apartment.
So Sunday afternoon, we hung out at her friend's apartment. Her friend happens to be 16. Her dad wasnt home, but her annoying 12 yr old sister was, and we just hungout in the living room watching TV.
Tabby was sorta playing cold/warm/cold, where one minute she acts social and the next minute she doesnt care as much. I've found that when I act cold to her or if I can tease her a bit, she warms up to me more, which seems kind of strange.
Anyways, after some flirting, and me figuring out what she likes, I convinced her to cuddle with me on the floor at her friend's house. 15 minutes later, after being very comfortable spooning, we started making out. She is a vigorous kisser, and we were having a blast. Granted the 12 year old was still in the apartment but she was sitting in another room at this point. Of course her friend got annoyed and went to her room to call and invite some guy friends over.
When me and Tabby realized things were getting hot and heavy, we decided we should go into a room, and the room that was free happened to be the dad's bedroom (he wouldnt be home until after 10pm) so we went in there being warned to not to rearrange his bedsheets too much. Of course his sheets got messed up anyway and her friend got yelled at for it later.
So her friend invited her guys over and they hungout in the living room, while me and Tabby were in the dad's bedroom. I felt a little weird at first, making out and doing stuff on his bed, but I got used to it. We kept on getting interrupted while making out, cuz her friend would pop in to bug Tabby, (which got dang annoying) there was no lock on the door unfortunately.
So eventually we were really petting each other, going down each others pants, but we both knew we couldnt take our clothes off for fear of being barged in on any minute. We both knew we werent going to have intercourse though, since I want to wait with that. But I did get to stick my hand in her pants and rub her clit (first time in my life I got to do that!) while making out with her, and she was rubbing my crotch furiously. I took off my shorts. So she started stroking me, and it felt wonderful, but I couldnt quite get off, probably because i was a bit nervous (being on the dad's bed, with her friend barging in every 15 minutes for some dumb reason) and also I had jerked off a lot that weekend so my system wasnt as touchy as usual. So after awhile we stopped doing that, since it wasnt working, but we continued making out.
Later that evening as we were outside, she didnt want me to leave, so we kissed more, hugged, walked around the block a lot, and eventually parted ways, and she wanted me to come out the next day (after I got off work).
Anyways, I could tell by the fact that she wanted me to come out the next day that she seemed pretty attached. I think she’s fun to hangout with, but I’m not sure how much we have in common besides cuddling, kissing, etc. She happens to live in a town 1.5 hours away, she isn’t a Christian, we don’t have much in common, she’s kinda annoying sometimes and weird to figure out, and kind of clingy at times, so I really don’t see too much potential for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
She told me however that she only is physical with guys she likes, and that she likes me, and has no desire to be physical with anyone else right now, and she kinda hopes that I do the same in return. She understands that I wasn’t sure about wanting a relationship, and she said she doesn’t want to pressure me into one. But at the same time, she yells at me if she discovers I’m reading a text from another girl I’m interested in.
Part 2:
So yesterday (Monday) I called her, and we agreed to meet that night, I would drive up to her town, hangout with her, drive back, and be tired the next day, but I wanted to do it.
I got done with work, ate, left at 6:00pm and got there at 7:30. She had to finish an errand before meeting me, but we met in town and around 7:45 and she drove me out to her small house out in the country. We got to her place and watched tv for awhile while cuddling in her bed. He mom was home but she didn’t care what her daughter does, so we were just in her bed cuddling, making out, etc.
Eventually things get heavy again and I started massaging her. I managed to slowly massage my way into her pants and I took my finger and began rubbing her pussy and clit while making out with her. She was very wet and was definitely moaning with pleasure and increasing in intensity while squeezing me harder, so I don’t have any doubt in my mind that she was faking anything. She told me what to do, and I managed to get her off.
So after I got her off, we stopped that for a bit, watched more tv, and then started making out again. This time she was massaging me and trying to get me off. It was taking awhile, and I wasn’t sure if the orgasm was going to happen (its hard for girls to give proper handjobs) but I just kept focusing on the pleasure, and eventually about 20 minutes later I knew I was going to cum and I told her to keep going. I blasted my load up in the air all over her bed and I laughed afterwards (because of the mess I made on her sheets). She smiled and we just continued to makeout. Then we got up, cleaned ourselves off, and then just went back to cuddling after that. I think she was happy that she got me off, because that didn’t happen the night earlier because I was nervous and stuff.
So later that night she is dropping me off to my car in the parking lot and asked if I wanted to hangout with her on the weekend. Of course I didn’t know what to say right away, I was exhausted at this point because it was midnight and I had to work again the next day. I also just wasn’t sure if I wanted to drive out to her town on the weekend, because I didn’t know what my plans were, so I told her I wasn’t sure. She asked me what was wrong and wanted me to explain, and I told her that I just didn’t know if I wanted to drive that far, and that its tough to hangout because of the distance and that I wasn’t sure how much we had in common or what I was looking for. I could tell that she felt pretty sad. I told her that I could hangout this weekend if she wanted to, but she said “well I don’t want you to unless you want to. That’s weird that you just changed your mind in a couple minutes, I could tell you didn’t want to before”
She was pretty upset and didn’t talk to me, I tried for 10 minutes trying to get her to talk and open up but she was just sitting in the car silent and kept turning her head the other way.
I told her I had to go, so I said bye, got out of her vehicle, and got into mine, and she tore out of there. I started driving and not even a couple minutes later she calls and said she wanted me to come back and talk to her.
She explained that she just felt bad that I wasn’t sure about hanging out with her, she told me she thought I was real cool, that she could talk to me about anything and that she wants to get to know me better and hangout more. I told her I guess I just didn’t have an answer for her and that I needed to think about it.
So we parted and I went back home and she texted me on the way home and said she was sorry. I texted her back saying the apology wasn’t necessary.
Today I texted her to see how her day was and she said “ok, why?” and I said I just wanted to say hi. She said “why are you texting me?” and I said cuz I wanted to talk to her, and she said “ok, whatever” Later tonight I talked to her briefly on the phone (she called me first, and I was busy so I called her back later) but she had to go when I called her back cuz she was ‘busy texting friends’.
I guess I do want to hangout with her again, I just am not sure if I want to do it every weekend. I have this feeling that she wants a relationship. Unfortunately I’m not looking forward to having to turn her down and hurt her feelings. She knew I wasn’t looking for a relationship with her from the start, but I still feel bad that she may get hurt if I don’t pay her much attention.
So in a way I feel like I put her in a bit of a rut, and I feel bad that she wants me more than I want her. I don’t want her to feel like I used her and if I did I didn’t mean to, I didn’t think about that.
I don’t see myself pursuing a relationship with her. Again the fact that she isn’t a Christian makes it tough for me to date her. Also she gets jealous if she knows I’m talking to a girl I’m interested in. And she would feel bad if she heard I kissed another girl.
But I think she could be a fun friend to hangout with every now and then (since she lives 1.5 hours away) and maybe a friend with benefits too (if she wants to keep doing that).
I’m not sure how I should react now, if I should hangout with her to be nice or what. I hope I didn’t do anything wrong, but I would feel bad if I’m responsible for any hurt she is experiencing.
Cliff Notes:
1. Met a girl online, she lives 1.5 hours away. We texted and chatted some.
2. We wanted to meet, with no expectation other than being friends, and maybe some cuddling and kissing.
3. She was in my town visiting a friend on Sunday so we hungout, made out, and screwed around in her friends apartment. I got to finger her (first girl I ever fingered!)
4. She started feeling attached to me and let me know as we were walking outside together at the end of the night.
5. On Monday I drove to see her after work.
6. We cuddled, watched tv, madeout, and I fingered her and made her orgasm (first time doing that to a girl!) , and I was jerked and received my first orgasm from a girl!
7. At the end of the night, she asked if I wanted to hangout again this weekend, and I told her I wasn’t sure (didn’t have a good reason). She felt upset, was silent for awhile, talked briefly, and I left. I am just not sure how much I should do with her, since I don’t see myself wanting to be in a relationship with her.
8. I talked to her today briefly, but she had to go. I’m trying to think about what I should do this weekend, if I should hangout with her, and what to do about this situation in general.
Part 1:
Well, as many of you know, lately I've been trying real hard to meet some women, break my 23 year streak of singleness (or at least find someone to have fun with, even if it isnt a relationship),
And I started talking to this girl I met online. Her name is Tabby. She's 20 years old, a little chubby but still cute and she started texting me a lot to talk with me. I of course have been messaging and texting tons of women, because I know it takes a high number of attempts before you catch a fish.
I hadn't hungout with this girl yet, because she lives in a small town about 70 miles from here (mapquest says its a 1 hour 40 minute drive)
Well I found out that she likes cuddling, making out, and fun stuff like that from talking with her online, and we sensed some attraction, so I was going to visit her last Friday in her town, and maybe spend the night.
Well, she cancelled on Friday cuz she was a bit nervous, but on Sunday she was in my city visiting her friend, and she texted me and told me to come by her friend's apartment.
So Sunday afternoon, we hung out at her friend's apartment. Her friend happens to be 16. Her dad wasnt home, but her annoying 12 yr old sister was, and we just hungout in the living room watching TV.
Tabby was sorta playing cold/warm/cold, where one minute she acts social and the next minute she doesnt care as much. I've found that when I act cold to her or if I can tease her a bit, she warms up to me more, which seems kind of strange.
Anyways, after some flirting, and me figuring out what she likes, I convinced her to cuddle with me on the floor at her friend's house. 15 minutes later, after being very comfortable spooning, we started making out. She is a vigorous kisser, and we were having a blast. Granted the 12 year old was still in the apartment but she was sitting in another room at this point. Of course her friend got annoyed and went to her room to call and invite some guy friends over.
When me and Tabby realized things were getting hot and heavy, we decided we should go into a room, and the room that was free happened to be the dad's bedroom (he wouldnt be home until after 10pm) so we went in there being warned to not to rearrange his bedsheets too much. Of course his sheets got messed up anyway and her friend got yelled at for it later.
So her friend invited her guys over and they hungout in the living room, while me and Tabby were in the dad's bedroom. I felt a little weird at first, making out and doing stuff on his bed, but I got used to it. We kept on getting interrupted while making out, cuz her friend would pop in to bug Tabby, (which got dang annoying) there was no lock on the door unfortunately.
So eventually we were really petting each other, going down each others pants, but we both knew we couldnt take our clothes off for fear of being barged in on any minute. We both knew we werent going to have intercourse though, since I want to wait with that. But I did get to stick my hand in her pants and rub her clit (first time in my life I got to do that!) while making out with her, and she was rubbing my crotch furiously. I took off my shorts. So she started stroking me, and it felt wonderful, but I couldnt quite get off, probably because i was a bit nervous (being on the dad's bed, with her friend barging in every 15 minutes for some dumb reason) and also I had jerked off a lot that weekend so my system wasnt as touchy as usual. So after awhile we stopped doing that, since it wasnt working, but we continued making out.
Later that evening as we were outside, she didnt want me to leave, so we kissed more, hugged, walked around the block a lot, and eventually parted ways, and she wanted me to come out the next day (after I got off work).
Anyways, I could tell by the fact that she wanted me to come out the next day that she seemed pretty attached. I think she’s fun to hangout with, but I’m not sure how much we have in common besides cuddling, kissing, etc. She happens to live in a town 1.5 hours away, she isn’t a Christian, we don’t have much in common, she’s kinda annoying sometimes and weird to figure out, and kind of clingy at times, so I really don’t see too much potential for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
She told me however that she only is physical with guys she likes, and that she likes me, and has no desire to be physical with anyone else right now, and she kinda hopes that I do the same in return. She understands that I wasn’t sure about wanting a relationship, and she said she doesn’t want to pressure me into one. But at the same time, she yells at me if she discovers I’m reading a text from another girl I’m interested in.
Part 2:
So yesterday (Monday) I called her, and we agreed to meet that night, I would drive up to her town, hangout with her, drive back, and be tired the next day, but I wanted to do it.
I got done with work, ate, left at 6:00pm and got there at 7:30. She had to finish an errand before meeting me, but we met in town and around 7:45 and she drove me out to her small house out in the country. We got to her place and watched tv for awhile while cuddling in her bed. He mom was home but she didn’t care what her daughter does, so we were just in her bed cuddling, making out, etc.
Eventually things get heavy again and I started massaging her. I managed to slowly massage my way into her pants and I took my finger and began rubbing her pussy and clit while making out with her. She was very wet and was definitely moaning with pleasure and increasing in intensity while squeezing me harder, so I don’t have any doubt in my mind that she was faking anything. She told me what to do, and I managed to get her off.
So after I got her off, we stopped that for a bit, watched more tv, and then started making out again. This time she was massaging me and trying to get me off. It was taking awhile, and I wasn’t sure if the orgasm was going to happen (its hard for girls to give proper handjobs) but I just kept focusing on the pleasure, and eventually about 20 minutes later I knew I was going to cum and I told her to keep going. I blasted my load up in the air all over her bed and I laughed afterwards (because of the mess I made on her sheets). She smiled and we just continued to makeout. Then we got up, cleaned ourselves off, and then just went back to cuddling after that. I think she was happy that she got me off, because that didn’t happen the night earlier because I was nervous and stuff.
So later that night she is dropping me off to my car in the parking lot and asked if I wanted to hangout with her on the weekend. Of course I didn’t know what to say right away, I was exhausted at this point because it was midnight and I had to work again the next day. I also just wasn’t sure if I wanted to drive out to her town on the weekend, because I didn’t know what my plans were, so I told her I wasn’t sure. She asked me what was wrong and wanted me to explain, and I told her that I just didn’t know if I wanted to drive that far, and that its tough to hangout because of the distance and that I wasn’t sure how much we had in common or what I was looking for. I could tell that she felt pretty sad. I told her that I could hangout this weekend if she wanted to, but she said “well I don’t want you to unless you want to. That’s weird that you just changed your mind in a couple minutes, I could tell you didn’t want to before”
She was pretty upset and didn’t talk to me, I tried for 10 minutes trying to get her to talk and open up but she was just sitting in the car silent and kept turning her head the other way.
I told her I had to go, so I said bye, got out of her vehicle, and got into mine, and she tore out of there. I started driving and not even a couple minutes later she calls and said she wanted me to come back and talk to her.
She explained that she just felt bad that I wasn’t sure about hanging out with her, she told me she thought I was real cool, that she could talk to me about anything and that she wants to get to know me better and hangout more. I told her I guess I just didn’t have an answer for her and that I needed to think about it.
So we parted and I went back home and she texted me on the way home and said she was sorry. I texted her back saying the apology wasn’t necessary.
Today I texted her to see how her day was and she said “ok, why?” and I said I just wanted to say hi. She said “why are you texting me?” and I said cuz I wanted to talk to her, and she said “ok, whatever” Later tonight I talked to her briefly on the phone (she called me first, and I was busy so I called her back later) but she had to go when I called her back cuz she was ‘busy texting friends’.
I guess I do want to hangout with her again, I just am not sure if I want to do it every weekend. I have this feeling that she wants a relationship. Unfortunately I’m not looking forward to having to turn her down and hurt her feelings. She knew I wasn’t looking for a relationship with her from the start, but I still feel bad that she may get hurt if I don’t pay her much attention.
So in a way I feel like I put her in a bit of a rut, and I feel bad that she wants me more than I want her. I don’t want her to feel like I used her and if I did I didn’t mean to, I didn’t think about that.
I don’t see myself pursuing a relationship with her. Again the fact that she isn’t a Christian makes it tough for me to date her. Also she gets jealous if she knows I’m talking to a girl I’m interested in. And she would feel bad if she heard I kissed another girl.
But I think she could be a fun friend to hangout with every now and then (since she lives 1.5 hours away) and maybe a friend with benefits too (if she wants to keep doing that).
I’m not sure how I should react now, if I should hangout with her to be nice or what. I hope I didn’t do anything wrong, but I would feel bad if I’m responsible for any hurt she is experiencing.
Cliff Notes:
1. Met a girl online, she lives 1.5 hours away. We texted and chatted some.
2. We wanted to meet, with no expectation other than being friends, and maybe some cuddling and kissing.
3. She was in my town visiting a friend on Sunday so we hungout, made out, and screwed around in her friends apartment. I got to finger her (first girl I ever fingered!)
4. She started feeling attached to me and let me know as we were walking outside together at the end of the night.
5. On Monday I drove to see her after work.
6. We cuddled, watched tv, madeout, and I fingered her and made her orgasm (first time doing that to a girl!) , and I was jerked and received my first orgasm from a girl!
7. At the end of the night, she asked if I wanted to hangout again this weekend, and I told her I wasn’t sure (didn’t have a good reason). She felt upset, was silent for awhile, talked briefly, and I left. I am just not sure how much I should do with her, since I don’t see myself wanting to be in a relationship with her.
8. I talked to her today briefly, but she had to go. I’m trying to think about what I should do this weekend, if I should hangout with her, and what to do about this situation in general.
