I have lurked here for several months but I never thought I would join yet here I am because I need some advice.
I married my husband two years ago for all the wrong reasons. Basically sex and money. He is a very handsome man and on paper everything looked wonderful. He has a six figure a year job. We have a beautiful home, three cars, a cottage and a boat. We had what might be called a whirl wind romance and things were also sped up by our mothers. His liked me and mine thought he was a great catch. So did I. Also there was never a mention of a prenup so I thought what could go wrong? We have been in the papers several times as one of the city's beautiful couples and from the outside looking in it must seem perfect.
In truth since we've been married we hardly communicate. We are both busy working ( I have a good career but don't make nearly the salary my husband does), we hardly have sex let alone make time for affection and lastly I soon came to realize my husband is in debt up to his eyeballs.
Last year I started having an affair with a man I work with. He's my boss. He's married and older. He spoils me rotten and I love it. What girl wouldn't? We travel under the guise of work and he has bought me many beautiful pieces of jewellery. I tell my husband I bought it or it's fake. Not that he's interested. Lately though I see things coming to an end but my boss doesn't want to end it and he is becoming very irrational. Calling me and texting. Acting jealous like he's my husband. Two weeks ago he told me he is going to ask his wife for a divorce so we can marry. I told him no, but he just goes crazy. He has threatened to tell my husband everything.
It gets worse.
A few months ago I came home and my husband informed me he is leaving his job to pursue his lifelong dream of opening a bakery! Since then he has scaled back in his job and spends most of the time in the kitchen or talking recipies with old ladies around the country online. Two days ago I arrive home to find all of my clothing and shoes that still has tags on them lying on the bed. My husband tells me I must start pulling my weight and wants me to return everything. I bought some of these things months ago. I don't swear but I promptly informed him where to go. He stormed out and told me I'd better reconsider things. I did and as soon as he left I packed and left. I sold some jewellery so I have quite a bit of cash.
Also I should mention that a month ago I started a thing with the guy who fixes my car. He's a real hunk and I thought it would just be fun but already he is getting super serious and I have him calling me non-stop as well.
So now I'm sitting in my beautiful room at a gorgeous resort. I finally turned the phone off because everyone has been harassing me. My husband, my boss, the mechanic, my mother (who thinks I'm the crazy one) and my friend. I had a mani/pedi today then I met a wonderful man by the pool. We had massages, then lunch and then he took me shopping and dropped a fortune at Chanel. I now own all the makeup they make. We had dinner this evening and I wore my new dress. It was fun but now I'm sitting here wondering why I'm so miserable. I have no idea what I will do. I have money but I can't stay here forever. The man is showing alot of interest and I'm tempted to just go off with him but who knows what this means to him. I'm 26 ladies, this can't last forever but I'm so confused about the future. I just wanted a nice, simple life and to be provided for properly and it seems everything is such a mess. Every man I meet is so selfish.
What would you do?
S.
I rarely wonder much about anything anymore, except for that house I was in the other day that had no interior doors - that was weird and I can't explain that or those that live there (note to self: do not do any work in that house).
Oh and this thread is for Stilleto (no relation to the S in the quotes) because I wub her too and she always calms me down.
Hope this makes you smile.