She can't cum...

[jokerswild]

So new girlfriend, everything is great, we get intimate and for a LONG time, but I could tell she didn't cum, afterwards she tells me she NEVER has? She is 23 and gets so wet and excited but just can't climax, I have tried several times since then but can't get her off either, any women out there know a solution? She says she can't even get herself off, I'm totally at a lose here...

 

[Castro_bigdog]

try the jack rabbit it works for real

 

[KillahBee]

I had a similar chick a while ago. A little younger and probably less experienced (I was her 3rd) tho. Anyway, this girl was the sexiest female I had ever been with. EVER. But you know women, she didn't see herself that way in the least bit. She was totally shut down sexually. We'd have sex and all that fun stuff but she just wasn't 100% open with herself or me.

So....we talked. She told me her issues (build trust) and I told her my experiences. She was just kind of nervous about her lack of experience and her neurotic self image issues. Anyway, 9 times out of 10, when a girl can't cum at all it's one of these reasons:

- She has a poor self image and is too busy worrying during sex to actually enjoy it
- She is thinking too much about it
- She isn't quite comfortable yet with you

It's sometimes all three. Point being - get her comfortable and trusting. Once a woman is comfortable and in a trusting environment all of her sexual doors will be opened.

You gotta make em mentally orgasm before they physically do.

 

[KillahBee]

OH, and you will be her GOD when it does happen.

The girl I mentioned actually made me stop during sex when it finally did happen. She just lay there, looking like she had just seen Jesus. "Do you know what just happened" she gasped to me.

I won't lie, there's no better feeling out there.

 

[Varga]

Just to add here, some women have a hard time coming if they are on the pill
Don't ask why-Have been trying to make a girl come but she could not reach climax, later she got off the pill and bam, she cum with ease!

 

[KillahBee]

Just to add here, some women have a hard time coming if they are on the pill
Don't ask why-Have been trying to make a girl come but she could not reach climax, later she got off the pill and bam, she cum with ease!

Good point, there are medical reasons that lead to a woman not being able to cum some times. But I wouldn't jump to those conclusions to quick. Try the mental game path first.

 

[Varga]

For sure, just wanted to mention my experience not only with one woman but a few who had the same issue and once off the pill the same result.

 

[al420]

I am lost.... can you still cum?

If so please delete this thread.


J/K - I think KB's reason #3 is the biggest. Women, not stupid whore girls, but real women need 100% trust w/ who they sleep with to be able to enjoy it - I am sure they can still cum, but I know that every woman I have been with seemed much more 'fun' when they felt 100% emotionally safe.

 

[jokerswild]

good advice, still trying here, I don't know if is the trust issue as she was married for 2 years and he couldn't get her there although she said he never new the difference, I'm gonna keep trying she said she has came so close the last few times....

 

[hurricane]

stick 1 finger in their azz when u hittin it doggie style ...makes them cum hard every time lol