Truth be told, from what I have been told by some dirty old birds who were BIGTIME into deflowering virgins, it's something that I really wouldn't care to get into.
... but that's just me. I am about to turn 41 and am still (happily) learning.
My ex. It was a bitch. She had very tough hymen. After trying for 3 days, I had to tear it with my fingers. There was bleeding, but surprisingly, it didn't hurt her that much.
I don't think that virginity is a big deal. After child birth, it does become a little loose.