Serious Sex Problems

[Sweet_Bitch]

This is the other thread....

My husband is in the middle of a cycle. It's been causing serious issues with our sex life and I'm soooo at my wits end. (Not good since there's still 5 weeks left I think.) Here's the deal-he can get it up, pretty hard but not up to par, which I can deal with. He can get off after QUITE a while. Most nights this is alright, but sometimes it's downright painful. I can deal with this too for the most part. Biggest problem-unless he's in complete control he can't stay hard. This only happens on cycle, never any other time. I happen to like being in control sometimes, what bothers me more is that it really seems like I don't even need to be there. I'm the wet hole that he pounds to get off, that's all. This is fucking with my self-esteem and sex drive in a HUGE way.

What to do? I'm seriously contemplating just cutting him off until after the cycle, I've got enough problems without this fucking with my self-esteem too. But then it pisses me off because I happen to really like sex.

 

[Sassy69]

Have you tried viagra or cialis? (I mean he uses it while he's on the cycle ...) Otherwise because you totally know what is the source of the problem, don't take it personally!!!!!

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

No, to be honest, I hadn't thought about it. I wonder if he would???? Mmmm...thanks

 

[L_Seven]

try it

 

[Kroliczek]

Have you spoken to him about your feelings??

Maybe the two of you can come to some sort of solution together?

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Have you spoken to him about your feelings??

Maybe the two of you can come to some sort of solution together?

What she said.

 

[Sassy69]

Have you tried viagra or cialis? (I mean he uses it while he's on the cycle ...) Otherwise because you totally know what is the source of the problem, don't take it personally!!!!!

My sources say it works. But interestingly, he might have personal confidence issues if he has to resort to viagra. .. But I guess that tells you how integrated sex and emotions. It certainly is something you should be comfortable talking about in a strong relationship. Especially if you KNOW what the source of the problem is. It is explicitly NOT anyone's fault. So don't let it become something it isn't. It basically presents a challenge to you both & as such, you should BOTH try to come up with a solution. And for God's sake, have FUN with whatever you do. As soon as sex isnt' fun, well, it isn't fun anymore.

 

[Puddles]

What is he using in his cycle? Deca sucks for this stuff. My husband was on Deca plus Test so the test added in gave him serious wood but it was often impossible for him to cum because of the deca.

Usually when a guy's on cycle he's gonna be hornier than usual so your more tender lovemaking may just be out the window for the time being. Do NOT take it personal. If anything, try to enjoy the role of just anamalistic fucking, kinda whorish, pure physical gratifications. Get yourself a good lube so you don't get sore.

He may have post cycle problems if his natural test levels are shut down when he comes off with a lack of interest in sex and difficulties getting an erection or reaching orgasm, but with good PCT that will only last a few weeks.

When he's done with all this, talk to him about alternative cycles. Do some research. Not all AAS are created the same. Some have more severe sides than others, some are harder to come off of, etc. You can post some questions to the guys yourself too if he's not wanting to.

Good luck hun. Just a few more weeks left!