As a Brian that was raised in the same evangelical faith as cindylou, there is a certain "spin" that is put on all of the scripture to make it positive and relevant to believers in modern times.
Raised in the church here too. Went to private christian school K-3, till we moved. When we moved the public school system where we were was actually pretty good, so off I went. Pretty much stopped going to church too. Oh I went a few times with parents or friends, but wasn't interested.
Around age 20 I started going to church again, got "saved", "baptised" yada yada. Was real into church, studying the bible, learning as much as I could from pretty much every "teacher" I could listen to. Of course I had enough sense not to just believe every interpretation. Funny how the same scripture can be interpreted so many different ways to fit whatever need/want arises.
I lead bible studies, prayer groups, people to christ. I served a few roles in the church over the course of several years. I was very involved. Oh and I didn't see myself as "religious", I had a "relationship".
I used to "judge the fruit" too, cindylou (I can speak christianese fluently). At least for a while. But then I was reminded that I don't know the hearts, only god does. But it sure is easy to say, "he's going to hell, and she is too!" and justify it through scripture. Thank god I wasn't condemning people to hell for all that long.
But hey, I kept learning and studying. I mean, I had questions about inconsistencies in the scriptures, so I had to. As I began studying actual history, oh were my eyes opened.
All of what I say in regards to the bible and religion or spirituality will be disregarded by christians of course, because I don't believe in the "holy trinity" and many other reasons. I am merely a heretic, who is damned to hell (well at least by christians).