I can honestly say that there is such a thing as too big (long). I've had one. It's not fun when it's so long that it hurts. Of course it's even worse when it's so short you can't feel it. Thick is better than long but remember not to short. OK? And really it's all in how it performs. Can you use it then immediately use it again. That's what I want, I want my man to come at least two times if not three or four. And not with 30-60 minutes inbetween. That's not too much to ask, is it?