!!outrage!!

[alien amp pharm]

Some girls only tell you only enough to get you pissed off, but not enough to get them into trouble. I have found out that if a girl will "partial lie" like that, they'll keep doing it and it really shows a selfish person that doesn't care who they hurt. Now your girl may have done the right thing, then again she may not be telling you everything. You know how much you can trust her. If you doubt her actions then leave. trust me the same shit will keep happening.

And yes, guys that will try to score with someone else's chick needs their asses beat. Girls love the attention so normally they have a hard time telling guys no. Good thing I'm not on juice right now or I'd be frustrated just thinking about your situation because I've been in the same one.

 

[HansNZ]

It's so interesting the way guys think their girlfriends are their possessions like a car or wallet. She is a grown woman, let her deal with the situation it's actually none of your business. If she felt threatened then get involved. By involved I mean supporting her while she as a grown independent human lays a complaint with the police.

I realise that few people will agree with me. Women are still considered chattels by most people in our society.

 

[HansNZ]

bro, putting myself in your shoes, I would explode. I am mad from just reading your post. I went through a similar situation a few years back, my best friend's (she is a girl) boyfriend grabbed my girl one night at a club and asked her to go fuck him. I wasnt there and my girl didnt tell me for days because she knew my temper. Anyway when she told me I didnt act mad, but inside I was in a rage. So the next saturday, we went to the club, scum bag was there, my girl made me promise not to cause trouble. I saw him, pushed the girl he was hitting on out of the way and grabbed his drink and split his head open with it. I was in a rage. I even threw a bouncer off me when he grabbed me. I went to the bathroom and picked the glass from my hand and six bouncers came in and asked to leave or the cops would be called.
Anyway I would ask your chick for the no bullshit version, straight and honest what really happened and then go talk to the worm. Scare the piss out of him but be careful with the violence. I almost went to jail for that inncident.

Okay, let me get this straight. Someone hitting on your g/f (who could just tell him to go away) is WORSE than assulting someone, damaging property, assulting a bouncer, and creating a disturbance in a public place thereby interfering with other people's enjoyment and making them feel unsafe? Somehow this value system seems upside down.

As for the thread starter. Why would this guy continue hitting on your g/f if she was doing nothing to encourage him? Maybe you should be angry at her. If she told him to piss off and he kept harrassing her then why didn't she complain to the host. If the host did nothing then she should have left. If she really felt threatened and harrassed then there is always the police to go to. It would seem that if this was the case then this guy would have a history.

 

[katz]

Damn, this sounds weird. Well last month my boyfriends bestfriend grabs my ass while we were out drinking. I slapped him upside the head twice. The bouncer asked him if I was bothering him! I told the bouncer why I hit him and he backed off. Luckily, my boyfriend was drunk and didn't notice. I told him and he was vomiting shortly after that. Too many shots. My boyfriend has black belts in three different styles. Needless to say when they were sober boyfriend asked his friend about it and his friend took off. Luckily I didn't have to bail him out of jail. They've been friends for ten years.

 

[matty]

As soon as you start flipping out you are part of the drama. I have a philosophy of recognizing these negative situations as a component of people's behavior patterns. This is nothing but a symptom, and it will occurr again. Your choice if you want to put up with it or not (i.e. continue a relationship with your g/f and her drama). Personally, I don't want any drama in my life (here comes MJB), I wouldn't date a woman you behaves like that - but then I'm 33, when I was 20 I was a damn mess!

Great advise! glad to see someone else thinks like me lol, im also 33yrs old and have been through many dramatic, headcase relationships, and i now do not put up with ANYTHING except normal behaivor! no alcholcics, chicks with issues from the past, etc.... As for this guys issue here, the only mystery i see here is that she dident see this comming?? she slept in his bed correct? she knew he would be comming sooner or later to sleep!
Besides that i dont think much happend and i think she handled it right, she left and called a cab corrrect? (you can prove she left?), and it sounds like she changed her story only when u call her gfriends answering mach. , probably so u wouldent freak. I would just let it go, tell her your not going to deal with this sort of thing anymore (sleeping over friends houses etc), and see if it happens again....like capinatl said, this is a symptom, see if it resurfaces again! how old ru and her anyways.....?

 

[Bam Bam]

Make sure there are no witnesses. Talk to him, if u don't like what you hear beat the LIVING FUCK outta him! Then call the cops and while he's still passed out say that he took the first swing and you were afraid for your life and using self defense. Then get a good lawyer. FUCKIN' hate guys like that! I always know my boundries no matter how fine a woman is!

I agree, and definately make sure there are no witnesses. I'd be pissed at the gf to for trying to cover up for his punk ass. BamBam

 

[Bam Bam]

I'm also going to add that even if you girl knew he was coming up, and he knew that yall were going out, you should still kick his ass for lack of respect. I would also deal with her because she shouldn't have went back there if she knew he was coming up. BamBam

 

[SirWanksalot]

The two things in your post I find interesting are

1) the "on the witness stand" questioning of your GF

2) Her repeated story changes

Your posting tone indicates (to me) that your GF often finds herself in the witness stand. Once the jealousy monster comes out, trust can never be re-established.

I wouldn't be surprised if you look at her vehicle odometer to see how far she actually drives versus whare she told you she went.

I say since you don't trust her, why not go your seperate ways.

 

[FreakMonster]

Last time some punk harassed my GF sexually he ended up with my .45 in his fucking mouth. Needless to say he was scared shitless and never looked my GF's way again.

It was fun watching this guy shaking like a little puss. And supposedly I had heard he was some martial arts badass.

 

[rodd45]

Okay, let me get this straight. Someone hitting on your g/f (who could just tell him to go away) is WORSE than assulting someone, damaging property, assulting a bouncer, and creating a disturbance in a public place thereby interfering with other people's enjoyment and making them feel unsafe? Somehow this value system seems upside down.

As for the thread starter. Why would this guy continue hitting on your g/f if she was doing nothing to encourage him? Maybe you should be angry at her. If she told him to piss off and he kept harrassing her then why didn't she complain to the host. If the host did nothing then she should have left. If she really felt threatened and harrassed then there is always the police to go to. It would seem that if this was the case then this guy would have a history.

Well the guy was a scum bag, and I overreacted very badly. Thats why I would advise him to talk it out with his girl first. I almost got into a lot of trouble for my actions and was trying to advise him not to make the same mistake I did.