orgasm help for my wife

[buffdoc]

My wife is 50, and still a major babe; she's having trouble w/ her orgasms. She's perimenopausal and has lowered libido.
She recently started Lexapro (an SSRI similar to Celexa, Prozac, etc.) which has worsened the problem.
She's used a vibrator for years during sex (she likes rear entry the best!), and had no major problems cumming.
So 2 problems:
-diminished desire
-difficult orgasm
Any of you women out there (or men for that matter) have ideas about hormones (she's on est, pro, GH), drugs, devices, 3-somes or anything that can get her revved again? She tried Viagra and came pretty quick, but got a monster headache. (I'm a doc, so most drugs are prescribable).

Thanks

 

[guards]

How about taking her off the SSRI and using an alternate mode of therapy for her depression (or whatever they are treating)?

There is always MDMA joke

 

[buffdoc]

How about taking her off the SSRI and using an alternate mode of therapy for her depression (or whatever they are treating)?

There is always MDMA joke

Problem is, she was having milder trouble before the SSRI; also, if the depression's not controlled, libido gets even worse, not to mention my life

 

[Temple]

I don't know if wellbutrin is enough to take care of her depression but it does not have the sides that the SSRI's do. Has she had her testosterone levels checked? That may be the missing hormone.

 

[buffdoc]

Yes, testost was low normal and I put her on test gel once a day (and also to the clitoris prior to sex; helped, but not enough). We're using an arginine preparation that is supposed to increase nitric oxide (what Viagra does) and that seems to help too.
If we could up the libido, everything might work out.

 

[buffdoc]

Help me out other ladies,
I was hoping to get some more input from you. Aphrodesiacs?
How about it MsPuddles, is it? or Kronkette, or Ceebs? Anyone?

 

[dpart01]

I have a post below about viacream, Ive recently got my hands on some and wanna try it soon, look into it.

Its a cream thats meant to be rubbed around the clit prior to sex and its meant to make orgasms easier. When I try it on my partner Ill post results.

 

[Pamela]

Problem is, she was having milder trouble before the SSRI; also, if the depression's not controlled, libido gets even worse, not to mention my life

How about Zoloft?

And she is 50. Her sex drive is probably not going to be the
same as it was when she was around 30 or 40.

 

[TheStromba]

Try some cialis. It increases clit sensitivity alot for 24 + hours after taking. (at least that's what MrsPuddles tells me)

No headache like viagra.


If you have not already, try different SSRI's and see if one is milder on the sexual sides than another.

 

[Puddles]

As for medications to try, go with what my husband suggested, Cialis. Why? Because it's hard to not feel sexual when your clit keeps sending off throbbing sensations when you're least expecting them! I'll take it in the morning and by late afternoon I'm feeling it's effects without even thinking about anything sexual. The sensations will last through the night and into the following day. During sex, it just engorges the clit and makes it feel wonderful and like it MUST be taken care of. The next day I'll be driving or what ever and it's like WHAM...my clit just reminds me it's there and wants some attention. I would imagine if I was a guy I'd have a raging hard-on popping up out of my pants. The only thing that bothered me about cialis was at first I was having some odd dreams and it was difficult to fall asleep, but that doesn't happen anymore. I was taking a whole one, but I've downsized to a half. Mentally, the cialis will help your wife if she's lacking general interest in having sex because her clit will be reminding her it's there and wanting to be played with.

What makes me orgasm really well is more mental than physical. It might be the same way with your wife. Instead of foccusing on what will bring her to orgasm, focus on what turns her on...what gets her juices flowing! Being really turned on will bring on a better orgasm than the best vibe in the world. Take it easy and focus on having fun together, giving each other pleasure, but not necessarilly focussing on the orgasm as a final destination. What used to get her freaky? Think back. What are her biggest turn ons? Is she more into sex at a certain time of the day than others?

I'd also suggest a little slowdown in your attempts at having intercourse and just spend a little more time flirting with her. ( ie. the usual kiss hello or good-bye could be a teasing kiss, press your groin up against her and rub slowly, but that's it, not intending it to lead to more, carress her ass, slide your fingers to her pussy from behind when you kiss her, but that's it...just cop a feel. Fun stuff like that.)

The meds she's on...I don't know about how different ones react, but I know when I was on Zyban (form of Wellbutrin) it didn't affect me negatively. Being depressed will lower her desire to have sex, so good luck to ya both with that part of it.