Nothing's got better

[AMGETR]

Thanks bros. I'm also at the same time keeping myself from relationships because I know it wouldn't be fair to the girl, since I know I couldn't love her or even care for her at this time.

 

[H_T_]

Jesus Christ. you can't go 2 months without a woman? i think you're looking for a mother instead of a wife....

 

[markshark]

As a few of you guys know, I broke up with my girlfriend last August. Then we got back together a month later and she dumped me on our Anniversary 2 months later. Reason was I caught her cheating.

Then 3 months later we got back together again, and she moved in with me. I was out of town, but she was at the place. A week before I got home, she dumped me again because I found out she brought a guy back to my place.

Now, it's almost 2 months and still nothing is better. I haven't been able to find a girl to replace her in any way at all. Every time I go to a club I either leave empty handed, or with some girl that I don't care about.

Everyone tells me "it's for the best." "things will get better", but yet, nothing has gotten better. I still miss my ex so dearly, even after all the heartache.

When does life start getting better? Cause I'm at the point where I want to call her, or text her, and just tell her I miss her. She has a new rebound boyfriend, the guy is a real loser (I know him).

i still miss someone from 10 years ago. i been thinking about her everyday since. the only way for me to get around it all was to make myself believe that i was only "infatuated" but not in love, so i try picking out things about her that made me infatuated, such as her lifestyle, looks, whatever.

 

[Wulfgar]

i still miss someone from 10 years ago. i been thinking about her everyday since. the only way for me to get around it all was to make myself believe that i was only "infatuated" but not in love, so i try picking out things about her that made me infatuated, such as her lifestyle, looks, whatever.

10 years?
the one that got away Im assuming
wow bro, Im sorry

 

[markshark]

10 years?
the one that got away Im assuming
wow bro, Im sorry

yea..its a bitch. funny thing is i never did anything more than kiss her, but was the only one i felt completely comfortable and at ease with.

 

[ponyfitness]

OMG man. This woman dumped you AFTER you FOUND HER CHEATING twice!? If anything whenever you think of this woman you should be getting really really angry.

It's bordering on pathetic that you would even think about this woman in any way other than pure hatred. Next time you feel like texting her think about her answering that text with some other guy's cock in her mouth laughing at you. Then stand up, get some self-respect and realize that you are not defined by some woman on your arm or in your life.

Eventually you're going to look back and realize what an idiot you were but for now, find something to focus on that will make you feel good about yourself, since it seems like you haven't any idea what that is.

 

[Dekaxx]

Bro, think its time for you to force yourself into a period of self discovery. After my X it took me about 3 years to really get a handle on things but all she put me through and my kids through was insane.

Faking terminal cancer playing out this "Drama" 7/24 even too the point of having our kids seeing counselor at school to help them deal with her pending demise all a big lie.

Consider yourself lucky cut your losses and move on, you need some downtime my man to figure out who the hell you are again and all your doing dwelling on this slut and dragging her back into your life is dragging out the time it will take for your heart to heal.

Good Luck man i have been where you are more than ounce and it sucks and the pain can be really hard to deal with and until the sign is off your forehead you will have trouble meeting someone new.

 

[AMGETR]

Thanks everyone. Definately need some time to figure out everything. I've taken the next semester of school off to get a grip and then be able to focus again.

 

[velvett]

Whoa.

 

[Sassy69]

Its a bitch trying to get past all the memories, the familiar things and all that when its time to move on. You are truly "free" when you have no opinion one way or the other about that person. You may still have to experience the "massive hate" part yet w/ this one. She screwed you too many times - she doesn't respect you as a person at all - and that guarantees you will never have a positive & constructive relationship with her. If you keep trying to talk to her, it will just open you up for more humiliation. If that's what you need to reach that "hate" point and then just get her out of your system, it might be where you end up if you keep pining over her.

As far as taking the next semester off of school - the one thing I can tell you is DO NOT LET THIS PERSON HAVE SO MUCH POWER OVER YOU THAT IT AFFECTS YOUR PROGRESS IN LIFE & YOUR OWN PURSUITS.

Whenever I talk to my dad about ANY problem I have - personal or professional, he ALWAYS responds w/ "Just keep your mind on what you are doing." As much as it drives me nuts, it is so true. When you are working on achieving positive things & progress in your life towards your own pursuits, you always manage to find passion in what you are doing. And that passion breeds better view of life and that always 1) attracts people to you and 2) makes you a happier person in general. I agree that you need some time to "mourn" or let whatever emotions run their course, but if you let it consume your life & your ability to move forward, you're screwed.

JMHO. It sucks big time, but when you least expect it good things start to happen again. In this situation - just take it for what it is. Its not a healthy relationship for you so why would you still want it?