need some women help.....

[84B2]

how important is it to women to get off during sex? ive tried my hardest with the new gf(we havnt done it many times yet) but ive tried almost everything i know, lol, and she still wont get off. its not like im giving up after 15min either, sessions usually last well over an hour. am i doing something wrong? my last gf got off like 4 times before i did, mind you that is over a year ago, but still, makes me feel like im doing something wrong. id like to talk to her about this, but not sure how to go about it.
any help would be greatly appreciated

 

[Gymgurl]

Just keep trying..sometimes it takes awhile to get a groove when you first start having sex......Some women can't cum just by sex alone.....so try different ways

 

[84B2]

Just keep trying..sometimes it takes awhile to get a groove when you first start having sex......Some women can't cum just by sex alone.....so try different ways

so just keep trying rather than talk to her about it at this point?

 

[Gymgurl]

I would just keep having sex and if things don't start to change and she isn't giving you any pointers then talk..

 

[musclemom]

so just keep trying rather than talk to her about it at this point?

Orgasm with women has more to do with "mental space" than it does for men, believe it or not. Sounds like you guys haven't been together long, some women need to feel they can trust a guy before they can totally get into the momen.

You need to realize that not all women are multiorgasmic ( ) even when the big "O" happens, it may only be ONE big O.

Finally, if you want to talk about it, talk about it! For heaven's sake, if you feel comfortable enough with the girl to get naked and rub your naughty bits together you certainly should be able to DISCUSS the rubbing of your naughty bits. HOWEVER, do NOT have discussions about things that go ON in the bedroom, IN the bedroom, EVER! You talk about sex SOMEWHERE else, when you're both in a pleasant, relaxed mood. And don't say it like this, "How come you're not having an orgasm?!" (which turns the situation into her being a) defensive, and b) because the unspoken implication there is that she's doing something wrong) what you want to say is, "I was wondering, our sex is really hot but is there anything more you'd like, or something I'm not doing/overlooking that would please you more?"

 

[Gymgurl]

Great advice......how old is she

 

[redsamurai]

"hey baby, what gets you off??".....it's that simple.....if she has communication issues, then you're in for a very painful ride....as you'll be flailing about trying to find that one magic hoop you have to jump through in order for her to achieve satisfaction.

 

[84B2]

ok, i appreciate all the advice, thanks