Need a little advice guys

[bballdad]

OK here goes! I have a co-worker that is 39 and really hot and
that is really attracted to me and me to her. Problem is she's
married and so am I I'm 41 by the way. Both of us have kids. I'm just plain unhappy
with my marriage and have been for years, have stayed for the
kids. I had to be near them and spend that time with them, coached their sports teams and all that! I have cheated before
about ten yrs ago and the guilt I felt consumed me. Mainly
the fear of being caught and losing my kids. Ever since my wife has held this over my head and every arguement we have, "It's
I'm leaving and taking the kids"! Well now my oldest is 18 and my
other son is 15! Ok my question is I guess, if I really love this
other woman am I a immoral scumbag if I carried this relationship
further? I know she really wants me bad also. I'm in turmoil
over what to do. I know I'm fixing to get flamed here so go ahead
guys. We haven't done anything yet, but talk and flirt alot.

 

[woollis2]

First of all I can't believe you did that. Second of all, if you are attracted to this woman, do you think it would work out if you were together or do you think it's just a bunch of hormones that we all have and that most of us don't act on? If you think you will be together, then DIVORCE your wife. If you love your wife AND kids either stay married and get those bad thoughts out of your head and go to marriage counselling OR divorce your wife so you don't put your family through the bullshit of another affair.

Also if you respect other men's women, then stay away from her. Would you want your wife to have an affair? If you answer to that question is "it doesn't matter to me", then you need to end this marriage and quit living this lie.

This sounds like a painful, emotional bomb ready to explode.

And yes to answer your question, you are if you carry it any further.

 

[Golfer18--old]

Pussy isnt good enough to me to ruin my marriage or kids lives. ATLEAST wait till there in college. You dont want a child rebelling in high school, thats trouble.

 

[tropicdude]

if she really loves you, and you her, i say go for it, your kids obviously know already that things are not rosy back home. actually, maybe you should talk to your oldest boy first.

 

[kd]

You first have to talk to this other woman.
I mean really point blank ask her stuff. Tell her you are attracted to her. Tell her your kids mean a lot to you, but your relationship with your wife is done (or so it sounds.)

Now ask her about her marriage. Is it over for her?. What is she looking for from you?. A quick hard, sweaty fuck? or is she looking for something else? Does she want you right now?...asap?. If she ends up wanting you for a longer term thing then you'd have to ask her if she would wait until your youngest son is done school before bringing it out into the open and ending your marriages. Will she do that?

If you are still in your marriage for your kids, you will eventually have to pick a point to end it. I would agree that you should let your youngest finish high school (19?), then he would be able to understand the why it happened, better.

If your both just looking for a one nighter with the understanding that, that is all it will ever be, then maybe it would be ok. Who knows it might make both of you re-evaluate the daydream you have going about it now.

peace

 

[vegitto]

your a moron!!!

 

[thebigugly]

Mid life crisis.. By a vette or take up golf, will cost you less in the long run......

 

[luv2workout]

big ugly

best reply yet!!!!

 

[Longhorn85]

Maybe you should have a long sit-down with your wife. You say things haven't gone well for years. Do you guys still have sex? The reason I ask is because if you are staying together just for the kids, and maybe out of friendship and respect or financial stability but not sexual love, then she may understand that you want a girlfriend.

Many marriages have survived for decades because the wife "turns her head" while the hubby fools around a little. Probably quite common back in the day. If you keep bringing home the bacon, are a good father, coach little league, etc, might be a reasonable consideration for your frau.

Of course, when she does get the hots for you (your wife that is) you'd have to deliver!

You should ask her straight up.