My Teacher's Husband

[Roxie]

I have met a man of my dream recently and we have spent a lots of time together.
He told me, that he is married, but I do not care a lot.
Lately I found out, that his wife is my teacher of history.
She is a good woman, but I don't know what to do...

 

[SoKlueles]

u are messing with fire be careful and dont get hurt, hes probably using u.

 

[jerseyart]

Roxie,

I don't know you, and am certainly not judging you or the situation. But I agree with Soklueles. Besides the whole karma thing (an expression) where is the upside? Even if this guy ever did leave his wife, assuming that you are looking for more than just a passing fling, why would anyone want to be with someone who did that to his previous wife. Even if she is the biggest bitch on earth, he should at least be man enough, and adult enough, to handle the situation like an honest individual. That assumes she is that way, and it's not just him who's the ass. Ironically he will likely at some point determine that a woman who cheats with a married man isn't "good enough" for him. People tend to rationalize away their own deficiencies, while magnifying those of others.

Also, if it is nothing more than a fling to you, then why screw around with someone elses life? This guy made a commitment to someone that he's chosen to blatantly disregard for his own selfishness. There is no shortage of unattached guys willing to fill that role, and possibly grow into more.

Just my two cents. I'd give the same advice to my sisters. I just don't see this ending well for you.

 

[PBR]

My ex-wife did it to me....dont even go there....she is now in total despair...I wont even go into what it did to me...take the above advice, its a road that leads nowhere. People are not replaced, affairs do not last and the destruction they cause lasts a lifetime-they are not forgotten...

 

[jerseyart]

Sorry to read that PBR. It's terrible that people will practice such disregard for the person they promised to love,honor, and cherish. That's true of men and women.

No offense intended, but it sounds like you are better off without her. Just my not so humble opinion.

 

[milo hobgoblin]

But GOD DAMN the sex is good.

Besides.. if your fuckign around chances are something is missing at home anyways. I found that I regretted the ones I said no to much more than the relationships ending.

 

[Deterass]

I have met a man of my dream recently and we have spent a lots of time together.
He told me, that he is married, but I do not care a lot.
Lately I found out, that his wife is my teacher of history.
She is a good woman, but I don't know what to do...

You cunt!

 

[DieselDan]

You cunt!

ouch!!!

 

[PBR]

jersey...thanks for your concern....it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my life...loosing my wife to another man...(actually boy)
deteras- thats balls-y....maybe youve been down my street before???

Diesel...you ride?

 

[Puddles]

I have met a man of my dream recently and we have spent a lots of time together.
He told me, that he is married, but I do not care a lot.
Lately I found out, that his wife is my teacher of history.
She is a good woman, but I don't know what to do...

Just think...if he cheats on his wife with you, he'll cheat on you with another. Why would you want to be with a cheater?

 

[Longhorn85]

Has he hit it yet?

 

[Gymgurl]

Roxie,

I don't know you, and am certainly not judging you or the situation. But I agree with Soklueles. Besides the whole karma thing (an expression) where is the upside? Even if this guy ever did leave his wife, assuming that you are looking for more than just a passing fling, why would anyone want to be with someone who did that to his previous wife. Even if she is the biggest bitch on earth, he should at least be man enough, and adult enough, to handle the situation like an honest individual. That assumes she is that way, and it's not just him who's the ass. Ironically he will likely at some point determine that a woman who cheats with a married man isn't "good enough" for him. People tend to rationalize away their own deficiencies, while magnifying those of others.

Also, if it is nothing more than a fling to you, then why screw around with someone elses life? This guy made a commitment to someone that he's chosen to blatantly disregard for his own selfishness. There is no shortage of unattached guys willing to fill that role, and possibly grow into more.

Just my two cents. I'd give the same advice to my sisters. I just don't see this ending well for you.

This is wonderful advice...K for you and your wisdom!

 

[Johnnyrocket]

He is probably just lusting after you, not a good thing. Us guys mesh lust and love,being you are young enough to have a teacher of history tells me something already. His wife, probably a slightly conservative teacher, is probably not in your league physically.As you being a different type of woman to him right now that presents him with a new outlook not just physically but also mentally. I have found younger women are much more enthusiastic and receptive, something his wife could not be to him right now. So his attraction without saying is to you but what is drawinghim to you may be something you may want to look at closely. One day you too could be the conservative one and another younger woman wanders into his life...See the cycle... who is the winner.. HIM not really you.

 

[DieselDan]

jersey...thanks for your concern....it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my life...loosing my wife to another man...(actually boy)
deteras- thats balls-y....maybe youve been down my street before???

Diesel...you ride?

Yep I ride. 2001 Zuk TLR.

 

[jubei]

Here's a quarter, buy some class. I hope you get burned and you learn something.

 

[velvett]

I have met a man of my dream recently and we have spent a lots of time together.
He told me, that he is married, but I do not care a lot.
Lately I found out, that his wife is my teacher of history.
She is a good woman, but I don't know what to do...

And when you figure out that you not the woman of his dreams you will helped with the demise of three lives.

Why in the world would you want to be someone else's second?
And if he does respect his wife why would he respect you?

 

[strongsmartsexy]

I have met a man of my dream recently and we have spent a lots of time together.
He told me, that he is married, but I do not care a lot.
Lately I found out, that his wife is my teacher of history.
She is a good woman, but I don't know what to do...

and some time later....


He leaves his wife to be with you. You get married and then... deja vu! He leaves you for the next woman to trollop into his life and you're replaced...

 

[jubei]

And when you figure out that you not the woman of his dreams you will helped with the demise of three lives.

Why in the world would you want to be someone else's second?
And if he does respect his wife why would he respect you?

More importantly, why do you have to point this out?

 

[Roxie]

Wow. You all continue to impress me. I'm very new here. I've read a number of threads thinking that I'd be reading the posts of people fanatically calling down hellfire on sinners. Instead I see reasoned, compassionate and, quite frankly, wise answers to peoples questions and problems. I'm genuinely impressed with this community. Again, I see a lot of wisdom here without resorting to dogma.
You are good people and I'm glad to be here!

 

[gonelifting]

Wow. You all continue to impress me. I'm very new here. I've read a number of threads thinking that I'd be reading the posts of people fanatically calling down hellfire on sinners. Instead I see reasoned, compassionate and, quite frankly, wise answers to peoples questions and problems. I'm genuinely impressed with this community. Again, I see a lot of wisdom here without resorting to dogma.
You are good people and I'm glad to be here!

Hate to sound harsh but before this post, I was losing hope for you. At least you`re somewhat levelheaded if you can appreciate good advice. Good luck.

May I ask your age?