Men. any idea?

[-SD-]

You've mentioned this "salvage" concept before.


I admit it, I would NEVER be able to salvage ANYTHING in our relationship if he cheated on me- EVER. I would never respect or trust him again. Yeah, it's that cut and dry with me!

What is left to salvage if someone can not get past the type person I am? I trust easy, I love easier, I do not forgive AT ALL. It's a flaw I have and it'll never change.

Spouses forgive marital indiscretions all the time when there is children involved. Is it not so far fetched for parents to stay together after a mistake, for the children? Some things are greater than how bad you feel after getting cheated on, like tghe raising of a child in a two parent household. If the other spouse is truly repentant and atoneful then there shouldnt be a reason why the parents cant stay together. Parents have done it for centuries before now and they will continue to. Assuming you are a strong person not looking to cut and run as first option.

 

[nimbus]

Maybe he picked her up at the laundry?

A lot of slutty single moms there.

Roll in there with a roll of quarters and they think you are a movie star.


It also helps to throw some at the kids so they can play video games while you work it.

LMAO

 

[vixensghost]

Spouses forgive marital indiscretions all the time when there is children involved. Is it not so far fetched for parents to stay together after a mistake, for the children? Some things are greater than how bad you feel after getting cheated on, like tghe raising of a child in a two parent household. If the other spouse is truly repentant and atoneful then there shouldnt be a reason why the parents cant stay together. Parents have done it for centuries before now and they will continue to. Assuming you are a strong person not looking to cut and run as first option.

Sorry, I'd not want to expose my lil girl to the fights or the lies being told in our home at the time! I'd rather have her visit her dad on the weekends than expose her to "my" hang-ups since I'm a very vocal woman. I'd not get past it- ever. Guess my "strong points" come in various degrees.

I might have a different opinion IF I were a woman who needed a man in her life though. Feel me?

 

[-SD-]

Sorry, I'd not want to expose my lil girl to the fights or the lies being told in our home at the time! I'd rather have her visit her dad on the weekends than expose her to "my" hang-ups since I'm a very vocal woman. I'd not get past it- ever. Guess my "strong points" come in various degrees.

I might have a different opinion IF I were a woman who needed a man in her life though. Feel me?

Then I guess you are the type that wouldnt get past it and choose to raise your kid without her dad. Its not about you needing a man, its about the child needing both parents. Child would have minimal exposure to the fights, how long do you plan on having it out with him? You have your fight, preferably while your kid isnt around, and you come to some understanding then you get on with life.

 

[cindylou]

Spouses forgive marital indiscretions all the time when there is children involved. Is it not so far fetched for parents to stay together after a mistake, for the children? Some things are greater than how bad you feel after getting cheated on, like tghe raising of a child in a two parent household. If the other spouse is truly repentant and atoneful then there shouldnt be a reason why the parents cant stay together. Parents have done it for centuries before now and they will continue to. Assuming you are a strong person not looking to cut and run as first option.

it would be tough to say the least. Props to any woman or man with self respect who has the strength and patience for that.

 

[musclemom]

I would like just ONE "logical" explanation as to how a stranger's intimate apparell could possibly end up in a family's wash.

I could care less if it were male/female. Just come up with ONE scenario that isn't completely "out there" and I would say that MABYE the dude isn't exercising extremely poor judgment during his extra curricular activities.

Oh, that? I can come up with a scenario: Imagine his buddies at work know his wife is the jealous type. They bust into his locker at work and slip a pair of panties into a pocket. If it's not a pocket he keeps his wallet or keys in uses, he'd probably never notice them.

99% of the time the woman does the household laundry, and everyone usually checks pockets. Ha ha, big funny on MyWay's husband when she confronts him with the panties.

 

[cindylou]

Oh, that? I can come up with a scenario: Imagine his buddies at work know his wife is the jealous type. They bust into his locker at work and slip a pair of panties into a pocket. If it's not a pocket he keeps his wallet or keys in uses, he'd probably never notice them.

99% of the time the woman does the household laundry, and everyone usually checks pockets. Ha ha, big funny on MyWay's husband when she confronts him with the panties.

wow do guys really do that shit to eachother?

 

[musclemom]

wow do guys really do that shit to eachother?

Men pull pranks. Guys in "fraternal" type jobs (e.g., cops, firemen, military) prank on each other hard.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

I you MuscleMom.

 

[vixensghost]

Then I guess you are the type that wouldnt get past it and choose to raise your kid without her dad. Its not about you needing a man, its about the child needing both parents. Child would have minimal exposure to the fights, how long do you plan on having it out with him? You have your fight, preferably while your kid isnt around, and you come to some understanding then you get on with life.

Kids pick up on things going on in the home without a word overheard. They have a very keen sense even though they are kids!

She'd have her father in her life. I would imagine that we would do the joint custody "if" somethng like this would happen to us. He loves his daughter VERY much and I'd NEVER not allow him to have her anytime he wanted.

I pray I never have to worry about this kinda crap.