Calico and Peach, I don't want this to come off as a flame at all,but that is the wrong attitude. If you ask any sex expert they wil tell you that if you want your needs meet, you have to TELL your partner what you want. Women ard famous for this- not verbalizing what they want in bed and then they complain when they don't get it. Always, always say what it is you want. Here it is in black and white. Men aren't mindreaders- stop expecting them to be, or you willl never get what you want.