Lower class people and having more kids than you can afford...

[75th]

Gross.

 

[mrplunkey]

Read the post before you get all pissy and judgemental.

So one of the guys in our office has a part time assistant that organizes paperwork and other low end stuff for him. She is a 25 year old Latino girl with a 11 year old, a 9 year old, a 6 year old, and a 4 year old. She just got married to a guy who is the father of none of them (2 other folks fathered her various children).

I overhear her often talking about how her and her husband are broke, their phone was shut off, etc which I always feel bad about because she's a decent enough girl.

Yesterday I asked her how her vacation was, and she tells me her and her husband just got the ball rolling on the in vitro process. Seriously.

I can understand that if you get preggo accidentally when you're broke and not wanting a shmushmorshin for personal reasons, but come on.

Does this make sense to anybody here?

Go watch the movie "Idiocracy". You'd totally appreciate it.

It's got 75th written all over it. I couldn't decide if I should laugh or cry during the movie. The only inaccuracy was they forcasted 500 years into the future and I'm thinking it's more like 100 at most.

 

[75th]

Ya I saw it when it first came out.

It is a vision of the near future.

 

[SpyWizard]

Read the post before you get all pissy and judgemental.

So one of the guys in our office has a part time assistant that organizes paperwork and other low end stuff for him. She is a 25 year old Latino girl with a 11 year old, a 9 year old, a 6 year old, and a 4 year old. She just got married to a guy who is the father of none of them (2 other folks fathered her various children).

I overhear her often talking about how her and her husband are broke, their phone was shut off, etc which I always feel bad about because she's a decent enough girl.

Yesterday I asked her how her vacation was, and she tells me her and her husband just got the ball rolling on the in vitro process. Seriously.

I can understand that if you get preggo accidentally when you're broke and not wanting a shmushmorshin for personal reasons, but come on.

Does this make sense to anybody here?

Where did she get the $25k for the proceedure?? i guess you now know where her money goes.. and why your group insurance premium just went up..

 

[cindylou]

I would never admit to any insurance company that I was infertile unless I was SURE of it

 

[Bikini Mod]

To be honest, my feelings are mixed. I do believe that if one is on welfare then they should NOT be given any increase if they have more kids. You want kids, then YOU pay for them. But I was also a welfare mother for no more than 2 years after my divorce. Funny so many judged me for how I supported myself and my children for a short period of time before I chose a secretarial/gym opener/certified fitness professional where I was FORCED to apply for welfare benefits to support my four children (all conceived in marriage to ONE MAN - marriage spanned 11 years) even though I worked full-time and was receiving *some* child support from my exhusband. But it seems that so many more judge those mothers who are on welfare. Ya'll can't BEGIN to imagine the burden of shame - for nearly EVERY situation of my adult life... but hey, I bore it gladly while I had my girls.

Anyways, I also had NO DESIRE to have any more children once I separated/divorced their father. I mean, in a fantasy way - YES as I LOVE LOVE LOVE children. But not actually enough to do something FOOLISH to fulfill that fantasy.

And now I am married to a very loving man. But we are both too old... Ya'll don't know how much it saddens me that I didn't meet him 20 years ago and chose HIM to father the only children I will ever have, the ones that I haven't had for nearly 3 years, the ones that though they were born healthy, normal, gifted to a loving, capable and fit mother have been slowly and systematically destroyed in every imaginable way.... and now I can't have anymore.

Could I try? Yea, but the cost financially, emotionally and physically would be too great for both me AND my husband. Hell, the costs just trying to get my existing children back are inconceivable on all fronts... even to us and we are living it.

I suppose that I do feel on the one hand that the couple in question is very immature but on the other hand if they have found NON-TAXPAYER money to fund their *fantasy* then who are we to judge? Would I want that life for any of my 4 daughters? NO... but if the man is good to her and they are good parents then I suppose this isn't the worst situation for them.

(How is THAT for lowering my hopes and expectations for my children? )

 

[Raptorex]

as an FYI, I have posted before that I can eat a dozen eggs in one sitting.