Ladies, please help me with this relationship dilemma...

[PinkPanther]

Yes, why is it that we second guess our choices. I do that ALL the time - even with very little decisions. When there's a big decision to be made, watch out!! he he he...

Thanks for your input!!

Karma to you

 

[boscoe wilson]

Agreed...If you aren't having trouble sleeping at night, then you're in the right. If you're previous relationship (the two year one) was particularly hard on you, then you may have needed someone to help you get over that hump...I know the "rebound" bit is trite, but I think alot of people do it. I almost married the rebound guy. I don't know much about your situation so I may be wrong.

I was in a very serious relationship for a couple of years and the breakup was devastating to me...after about a year of dating here and there, I met someone who treated me with nothing but respect and kindness. After about seven months of being with him and a broken engagement (I know what you're thinking...can't believe I was going to marry that quickly either!) I realized how wrong he was for me and that I was only using him to make myself feel better. I later found the love of my life and am happily married w/child.

Whatever you decide, just make sure that you are putting yourself first. Don't waste time on someone you don't see a future with...especially if there are feelings involved. I hope everything works out for the best for both of you.

 

[jenscats5]

Yep, sounds like you are making the correct decision. I just think he would make more of an effort to be in your world if he cared as much about you as his words say he does.....Words are easy....actions can be hard....actions take you out of your comfort zone (being nice to kitties, being in the city even if you don't like it, etc)

Hehehe -- "it's not you it's me" reminds me of George on Seinfeld....

 

[PinkPanther]

ha ha ha...gotta love Seinfeld!!! I agree...I think he does care about me, but I don't think he is really willing to adjust things to make an effort to change things between us. I tried to do the small town thing, and I am so sick of it, I could puke. And, I was only there mostly on the weekends, so I don't know what I would do if I lived there all the time.

Boscoe, you totally hit the other (2 year) relationship on the head! We were together for probably like a year and a half longer than we should have been, and I just didn't have the strength to get out of it. When I finally did (AMEN!!) and I met this guy who was the complete opposite of who I was dating, I thought it was great. I hate to think that I was "using" him, but maybe I was, sub-consciously. He did make me feel great, and after my previous relationship, that boost of confidence was exactly what I needed. I may be seeing him over the weekend to drop some of his things off at his house. I haven't decided if I want to do that yet though. I have to go to my parents' house for some other family events, so I will already be in town. I would like to just drop it off and have that be it, but I don't know if I can get out that quickly. I think I will have to tell him I have to be somewhere! he he he...are girls really the devil?? Cuz I feel like one with all this thinking this way!!!

Thanks Again EVERYONE!!!

PinkPanther

 

[Werd]

There really isn't much for me to add that the other ladies and you haven't said. You knew before you ever posted, but it is nice to have either affirmation or an opposing point of view that will either help you to "defend your position" so to speak or offer you another way of looking at the same situation.

You sound like a smart cookie with a good head on her shoulders. I know you don't mean to hurt the guy and by you sitting down and talking this out with him it will help you both to get closure and move on the another healthy relationship - very important IMHO.

 

[PinkPanther]

Thanks Werd! I appreciate that I guess you are right about me pretty much knowing before I even posted. I guess I am just feeling bad about the whole situation, and I needed a little girl support to help me feel better. Which...you all totally did that, so once again I THANK YOU!!! It really helped to hear your thoughts on this and allow me to see things from a different eye.

PinkPanther

 

[velvett]

Now let's all get a margarita!

 

[PinkPanther]

Aahhhh..that would be GREAT! I wish I could do that after work...go sit outside and munch on some chips and salsa while sipping on a margarita...that would be the perfect ending to my day

 

[jenscats5]

Now let's all get a margarita!

Now THAT is a fine idea!! (i'm having a beer right now but it's my first so I can switch no problem!!)