If you think sex is too much trouble, you are gay or too much of a pussy to grab your woman and take what you want from her. Which is what she wants you to do anyway. If you don't want to lick her you are gay. If you can't just pull her panties off and fuck her for your own benefit then you are gay, or you need a new woman, or you are a wimpy little wuss.
If your woman doesn't like it if you just fuck her for the sake of fucking her, then you need a new woman, or you need to train the one you have, or you need to figure out what you are doing wrong. If you actually think your hand is better than pussy you better start thinking about what kind of man you are.