Is anyone here in a situation where

[Stryker1992]

I have been seeing this girl and we are not exclusive and we live apart by about 5oo miles. We have a really good time together and I like her but I am not sure if it is a long term thing. Anyway she started to see another guy because she was lonely. Fine, now she told me she may have sex with him but wants our relationship to continue. IDK if I can handle that. Anyone else ever have an experience like this?

 

[Blondie85]

Yup, if you cant be committed to each other than 99.9% of the time long distance relationships end in heartbreak.

 

[Blondie85]

Why not just tell her to hold on and you both meet 1/2 way and fuck?

 

[DJ_UFO]

being separated by 500 miles was never a relationship bro. lol If the relationship continues, where it will go? she fuckin over there and you fuckin here? wtf is that. You ain't relocating, she ain't relocating, just keep her as a friend that you can rail when close.

 

[kx250rider]

The only time I'd see a 500-mile relationship working out is if it's temporary, and if you were together a long time before. Like if you went in the military and will go home to her after a tour of duty. Otherwise, it just doesn't usually work out. A friend of mine got with a girl we had working at our place on a student work experience program from Belgium, and they even were talking marriage. But when she went home, it fell apart. She was here for 90 days. He even flew to Belgium and stayed with her over there for a month, but it still fell apart.

So bottom line: If it's a real relationship that you both want to keep, one of you HAS TO MOVE. And just my own opinion on her seeing another dude because she's lonely: Not good. In a real, committed relationship, a temporary hookup with somebody else is not an option for either of you.

Charles

 

[Metasomatized Ijolite]

She's 500 miles away permanently and you actually expect an exclusive relationship? That's crazy.

 

[Stryker1992]

She's 500 miles away permanently and you actually expect an exclusive relationship? That's crazy.

I did not expect an exclusive relationship. But we are having sex and I am not so sure how I feel if she is fucking other guys. and no, I am not fucking other chicks.

 

[Stryker1992]

Why not just tell her to hold on and you both meet 1/2 way and fuck?

Well...because of my schedule I do not get to see her about two weekends a month. I work constantly. At night, during the day. A lot!