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nangiggles

nangiggles

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So my husband asked me to please clean the pool yesterday and I worked late and totally forgot, I went to get a haircut instead which I don't do that often, I get home and he's all pissy about it I acknowledged and apologized.

Went to work night shift and when I get home this morning he fucking reminds me of the pool, I'm dripping in sweat and finished the Damn thing.

I then realize he locked every fucking door to the inside of the house before leaving to a store I'm fucking drenched in sweat, hair style ruined, locked out waiting for him to come open, I'm ready to kick a puppy.

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Why is he always being a stunned cunt?
 
It just started to rain :mad: , I couldnt make this shit up if I wanted to FML

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Sounds like you should go for a swim and find another hubby. You need some control he kinda sounds like the woman in the relationship here
 
EarthRider said:
Sounds like you should go for a swim and find another hubby. You need some control he kinda sounds like the woman in the relationship here
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Our roles are completely reversed in many aspects, he fucking nags like a woman, takes an hour getting ready, wants the house spotless, is always on my case and rejecting my sexual advances, fucking eh

Of course I'm probably making it sound worse because I'm pissed as Fuck, at least I'm in the house now, he comes back with my brother in law and sees the DIAF face I have and asks if I wanna go with them... For fucks sake get a clue!

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nangiggles said:
He wants a housewife, I'm not a housewife, I have two jobs and no days off so I don't fucking vacuum, mop and wash dishes every fucking day

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Lol I wouldn't want a housewife.....especially when the woman doesn't want to be...that's why there is so many divorces nowadays
 
Ima fall asleep now and forget whatever happened when I wake up. One of the few beauties of adhd, I can't retain for long

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Why don't you get a strap on and fuck him up the ass since he is such a bitch.
 
nangiggles said:
He wants a housewife, I'm not a housewife, I have two jobs and no days off so I don't fucking vacuum, mop and wash dishes every fucking day

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No he doesn't. Housewives don't clean pools. Housewives hire someone to do it.

He wants a maid.
 
I don't give a shit about that...as long as the house is clean I don't care. I do my own laundry and put in cleaning time.
 
I wish someone would do all the fuckin laundry in my house....Im to the point that Im gonna start taking it to a laundry service
no lie
 
I'm serious man, I'm very fucking picky about getting my clothes wrecked lol...my gf mom fucked up a couple of my Burberry shirts I was fucking pacing
 
I have a dishwasher, I just don't use it. I also hate dishwashers. I don't feel like they clean stuff thoroughly enough.
 
The pool we both clean, 3-4 out of 5 timed he will do it. He always does the grass cutting and I do the pressure washing.

We did set up like a chore chart a month ago but I usually forget or am too tired to do mine and he does his so I catch shit.

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nangiggles said:
The pool we both clean, 3-4 out of 5 timed he will do it. He always does the grass cutting and I do the pressure washing.

We did set up like a chore chart a month ago but I usually forget or am too tired to do mine and he does his so I catch shit.

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does he work two jobs?

if not, tell him to eat a dick
 
AFeedz said:
I have a dishwasher, I just don't use it. I also hate dishwashers. I don't feel like they clean stuff thoroughly enough.
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I highly dislike washing dishes, just the thought of it makes me want to Pee, I'll go to the bathroom before starting yet get an urge to go all the while my hands are wet, lol I must be easy to prank while asleep

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zwhit said:
does he work two jobs?

if not, tell him to eat a dick
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This ^
I feel like I should get a free pass to do way less than him but he still has engrained the whole "women take care of the house" mentality.

I've had the second job for a year and a half now, in all fairness I was still lazy, forgetful and a slob before that too

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My wife has learned not to make messes because I fly off the fucking handle. I can't shake the OCD about cleaning that the Marine Corps gave me. Everything has to be clean and squared away at all times or I can't stand it.

I usually do all the yardwork but she'll occasionally help, and she does the kitchen mostly by herself. The rest of the house we both keep clean, but it's really easy when we don't make messes to begin with.

Tell your hubs to suck a fat cock if he wants something done that bad he can do it himself
 
I think formally splitting up jobs at all is ridiculous.

I wouldn't/don't mind doing all the housework, especially because he helps us in 100 other ways.
Thank God there's no outdoor work though. :)

Both people don't need to contribute the same way as long as they're both equally contributing, IMO. If you're working more, he should be ok doing more chores around the house.
 
Nan you wouldn't have been locked out if your punk ass had been in the kitchen where you belong.

How the fuck you gonna make a got dam sandwich in the yard?
 
He actually does most of the stuff around the house, but he does it because I don't do it, he feels like he's cleaning up after me and I don't help, which is actually true, I'm a horrible combination between procrastinator and forgetfulness, the meds have significantly helped though

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bigbassturd said:
Nan you wouldn't have been locked out if your punk ass had been in the kitchen where you belong.

How the fuck you gonna make a got dam sandwich in the yard?
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Wtf I wad brushing and vacuuming the pool!?

I managed to save the hair, dry shampoo FTW!

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Right, but I don't think he has much of a right to complain about it if you're working an extra job, and he's not or if he's better suited for looking after those things.
 
I hate to be the one to break it to you...

But your husband does all the housewife duties, nags often, turns your sexual advances away, and the rare occasion he doesn't, he puts it in the poop chute...

I have bad news for you.
 
You knew he was a bassackward traditional mexican male when you married him
 
The only thing I expect from my gf is to love and and make me feel good...if there was an award for this, she would be the winner....fuck after we had a kid the first thing she said to the doc is when am I allowed to have sex again lolololoo..
 
bigbassturd said:
I hate to be the one to break it to you...

But your husband does all the housewife duties, nags often, turns your sexual advances away, and the rare occasion he doesn't, he puts it in the poop chute...

I have bad news for you.
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:worried:

@ woot I'm not exactly a prize in many aspects, I'm a slob, I'm a procrastinator, I'm mouthy sometimes, I forget shit, even important shit, I'm pretty stubborn and like to have shit my way only, remember you're only hearing half of the story here, my half. Ive had some really REALLY bad habits that would turn most men away.

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nangiggles said:
:worried:

@ woot I'm not exactly a prize in many aspects, I'm a slob, I'm a procrastinator, I'm mouthy sometimes, I forget shit, even important shit, I'm pretty stubborn and like to have shit my way only, remember you're only hearing half of the story here, my half. Ive had some really REALLY bad habits that would turn most men away.
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but you happily take it up the dirt chute even when we're a major a-hole...yeah buddy!
 
nangiggles said:
:worried:

@ woot I'm not exactly a prize in many aspects, I'm a slob, I'm a procrastinator, I'm mouthy sometimes, I forget shit, even important shit, I'm pretty stubborn and like to have shit my way only, remember you're only hearing half of the story here, my half. Ive had some really REALLY bad habits that would turn most men away.

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k never mind then lol
 
To all the people telling nan she should tell her hubby to "go suck a big fat cawk" he would be as happy as a fat kid eating cake
 
AFeedz said:
I have a dishwasher, I just don't use it. I also hate dishwashers. I don't feel like they clean stuff thoroughly enough.
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gotta have a bosch dishwasher...

that shit is set on 180 degree..it doesn't even have a dry cycle, the heat inside it literally dries the dishes spotless
eggs on dishes, dried barbecue, the nastiest shit you have ever seen in your life in sippy cups that became lodged under furniture...everything comes off

pans go in depending on level of dirtiness however..and a lot of times they go in there after being cleaned in the sink anyway to sanitize em
 
I've never heard of a Mexican with a pool and I can spit on TJ from my house. This thread sounds made up.
 
nangiggles said:
He was raised the latino way, with an obedient stay at home mom cooking, cleaning and taking care of their every need all day every day.

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Well maybe if he wasn't such a poor excuse for a man, he would a good enough paying career that his wife wouldnt need to work 12 jobs to fucking pay the bills.

I'm fuming
 
I'm so mad as well...sounds like a fucking useless stunned cunt...you should let him come on EF I will give him a nice welcome
 
Also, chore charts are for fucking kids. A husband and wife are adults, you shouldnt need a fucking chart to get shit done. If one person asks for more help in a certain area, regardless of wtf it is, you should be mature enough to fucking do it.
 
Man not all of us can invest in silver and sell appricot seeds for a living we need our wives to being home the bacon
 
kmr20 said:
Well maybe if he wasn't such a poor excuse for a man, he would a good enough paying career that his wife wouldnt need to work 12 jobs to fucking pay the bills.

I'm fuming
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Not everyone can go to med school ;)

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kmr20 said:
Also, chore charts are for fucking kids. A husband and wife are adults, you shouldnt need a fucking chart to get shit done. If one person asks for more help in a certain area, regardless of wtf it is, you should be mature enough to fucking do it.
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He does them, its me who fails :(

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You're not his errand and pool boy. If I said "clean the kitchen" to my gf I'd get kicked in the nuts

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Lmao at a "chore chart", fucking quality!

As my wife and I both work full time we just split the house work 50/50, though she'll generally do more the more cleaning orientated stuff while I do manual shit.
 
stosstruppe said:
Lmao at a "chore chart", fucking quality!

As my wife and I both work full time we just split the house work 50/50, though she'll generally do more the more cleaning orientated stuff while I do manual shit.
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I know charts are for children but unfortunately I have the attention span of a goldfish. I'm the kind of person who needs structure and charts, reminders, sticky notes, etc. It's pretty bad but I've improved with ADHD meds and charts.

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nangiggles said:
I know charts are for children but unfortunately I have the attention span of a goldfish. I'm the kind of person who needs structure and charts, reminders, sticky notes, etc. It's pretty bad but I've improved with ADHD meds and charts.

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You probably wouldn't need charts if your husband was better and more understanding about how someone with ADHD processes the way they need to get things done.

Treating someone like a child (chore charts, scolding them when they don't do what you wanted) typically makes someone want to do the requested task less, ADHD or not.

Ask him to try giving you small, specific tasks, not big or vague ones like "clean the pool/deck". Try asking him to be specific like Day 1: Check the chemicals, Day 2: Sweep the pool, etc. But have him only tell you what needs to be done one day a time, and ask him not to tell you about any that need to be done after that one task.

I'd actually think a chart would make things worse for someone with ADHD. A large part of the reason people with ADHD act the way they do is because they take in everything at once: like tasks on a chart. If it's Monday, they can't ignore what's on the chart for Tuesday - Friday like others can, and they become overwhelmed and end up doing none of it.

You should try it with him because it works for us - as a couple, just paying attention to one small thing at a time, instead of everything that needs to happen in the future or in general, and letting the person who's able to process tasks one at a time (non ADHD) privately oversee that all those smaller tasks are accomplishing the bigger picture/goal.
 
Also, I've told you about this book before, but both you and him should read it together. Unlike most books, it doesn't take the "Here non-ADHD person, learn what's wrong with your partner and how to cope" stance.

It really explains that neither person is wrong, but that a person with and without ADHD need to be communicated with differently because they process information and tasks and needs differently, and once you understand that, you feel much better because you know how to talk to them to be effective - both the ADHD -having person to the non and vice versa.

The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps: Melissa C. Orlov: 9781886941977: Amazon.com: Books
 
AFeedz said:
You probably wouldn't need charts if your husband was better and more understanding about how someone with ADHD processes the way they need to get things done.

Treating someone like a child (chore charts, scolding them when they don't do what you wanted) typically makes someone want to do the requested task less, ADHD or not.

Ask him to try giving you small, specific tasks, not big or vague ones like "clean the pool/deck". Try asking him to be specific like Day 1: Check the chemicals, Day 2: Sweep the pool, etc. But have him only tell you what needs to be done one day a time, and ask him not to tell you about any that need to be done after that one task.

I'd actually think a chart would make things worse for someone with ADHD. A large part of the reason people with ADHD act the way they do is because they take in everything at once: like tasks on a chart. If it's Monday, they can't ignore what's on the chart for Tuesday - Friday like others can, and they become overwhelmed and end up doing none of it.

You should try it with him because it works for us - as a couple, just paying attention to one small thing at a time, instead of everything that needs to happen in the future or in general, and letting the person who's able to process tasks one at a time (non ADHD) privately oversee that all those smaller tasks are accomplishing the bigger picture/goal.
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The chart was actually MY idea and its worked really well, the approach you suggested is what we were using and it was awful, resulted in him feeling like he's my dad and not my husband, also I'd feel like he was telling me what to do, too much tension

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Too bad you arent married to Bill Parcells or Vince Lombardi then there would be no problem with motivation

Hahaha
 
nangiggles said:
The chart was actually MY idea and its worked really well, the approach you suggested is what we were using and it was awful, resulted in him feeling like he's my dad and not my husband, also I'd feel like he was telling me what to do, too much tension

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But he feels less like a dad being mad at you for not following your chore chart?
 
AFeedz said:
But he feels less like a dad being mad at you for not following your chore chart?
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Again, the chore chart is for me, I asked for it, I made it and Its helped me tremendously, having visual reminders in frequently seen areas helpes me stay on task, I use it at work too.

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nangiggles said:
Again, the chore chart is for me, I asked for it, I made it and Its helped me tremendously, having visual reminders in frequently seen areas helpes me stay on task, I use it at work too.

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Right, I get it. I just don't see why he feels like a dad asking you to do things, but doesn't feel like a dad getting mad at you for not doing them.
 
we could use a few more pages of very smart strangers telling you about your life and how you should handle it.

nan, you're a terrible person, but so is your husband, so it balances out.
 
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