If your parent became disable would you put them in a nursing home or take them in.

[gregory]

Careful that's a lippery slope.

 

[Robert Jan]

any reactions to my post?

 

[ktansey]

It depends if it was my mom or my dad.

j/k.

I would have to agree with bunny....it would definately depend on which parent


but i dont think i would have a problem taking my parents in...i wouldnt trust my brother or my sister to do...someones got to step it up

 

[PBR]

Either this is a board of heroes or hypocrites. In reality, very few take them in.

I think some of you may not realise what you are talking about

*You do NOT have time for this. If you MAKE time, you may lose your job and not be able to do this anyway

*They might be in a mental state where they are in no position for gratitude. In fact it's quite likely they take everything out on you and complain about everything you do.

*Nursing homes are nursing homes for a reason. There are nurses, and at least one doctor. They all went to school for this. You did not.

*Ever change your own fathers nappy? While he complains you are a bastard as he is losing his mind?

*What's this mean for vacations? What's this mean for having any kind of an own life whatsoever?

If you are still convinced you'd do it, hats off to you. but its not so simple as ah sure you can move in with me. If you are an only child especially, this is your new dayjob here.

Not all nursing homes are as scary and crappy as they're made out to be. If you take a high end one, and simply DO ACTUALLY COME VISIT VERY OFTEN, I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about, it may even be the better option for your parent too.

You have some very valid points here. My mother died this last year of a very very slow death due to a terminal illness...she was completely incapacitated and incoheirent...my dad could not afford 6-8K per month to have her taken care of in a care home, plus all the medical expenses on top of it, tho insurance helped...he brought her home....they had been married 53 years...it almost killed him...there is alot to think about when this occurs...i think 1st reaction is absolutely i would take care of them...but as they deteriorate-it becomes a bigger picture as you pointed out...but i have set myself up and so has my dad in case this happens...i hope it does not for the both of us....

 

[jenscats5]

Re: If your parent became disable would you put them in a nursing home or take them i

If either one of my parents had lived longer (they are both deceased) with the illnesses they had, I'd have to put them in a "home" as their illnesses were so severe that home care was impossible. My mom couldn't even be released from the hospital most times.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'd throw them down a flight of stairs, say it was an accident, and collect the insurance.
I wouldn't take them it.

 

[JohnRobHolmes]

into a home. i have been instructed to do so by my mom, as my grandmothers last 20 years of life have been devoted to taking care of my 109 yr old great grandmother. she doesnt want that for me.

 

[bran987]

I agree with robert jan

 

[eat big]

any reactions to my post?

yeah i have one, tehy are your parents you wouldnt be here if it werent for them. mine are assholes right now, i cant imagine when they are old, but id sack up and deal with it, plus they have enough money so that they can go into a nursing home.

 

[The Outsider]

I'd put them in the old folks home.