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I would like another baby...

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billfred said:
Getting back to business here:

http://www.gwca.org/

My wife and I went through this process. These people know how to get the deal done form both the US and the Chinese side. The one big drawback for you is you will have to spend about 4 weeks in China after you do the adoption to when you can take the child back (that is how long it will take to get her passport etc to get back into the US).
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I could arrange that. Thanks for the info!
 
heatherrae said:
I could arrange that. Thanks for the info!
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You are going to think this is expensive at first but it is no more than what it would cost you to adopt a baby here. I loaned a friend of mine some money back on 1992 to adopt and it was $14k back then.
 
heatherrae said:
But I'm doing okay financially and have reliable insurance, am stable at work, and at home. Devin has a stable home life. My salary now is very good, and so it is equivalent to 2 parents if they just worked middle class type jobs. I'm not dependant on anyone and have taken out life insurance and arranged for things for dev in case I'm ever in an accident or get sick and die. His life is very happy, and I think I could provide this for 2 kids.
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I don't DOUBT that you probably are making more than enough $$$ to cover two kids. Money is the least of the problems with kids, though. And believe me, if anyone understands about wanting to have another child, it's me. But as a responsible adult you have to weigh the dream of what YOU want versus what is truly BEST for the child you have responsibility for now. Siblings do not always get along, in fact sometimes they're positively homicidal to each other. And I'm telling you, boys, in particular, don't get easier. I'm not exaggerating, boys go through a ... stage ... is all I can think it's best called. They turn into total fucking assholes to the adult women in their lives, particularly if they live in a single parent household (personally, I think it's genetic to head off inbreeding), but the teen years are the worst, second only to the headaches of dealing with daycare and elementary school situations.

$$$ are the least of the problems being a parent in general. Fuck dying, what happens if you get in a car accident and can't move for about a month? It's a shit load easier to farm out ONE kid, scrambling to get coverage for two is twice as hard.
 
heatherrae said:
I had a fiance when Devin was conceived. He hasn't helped a bit other than donating sperm and Devin and I are doing well and happy. People CAN raise children as single parents, you know? With more than half of marriages ending in divorce, I would think that the risk of marrying and putting a kid through a bitter custody battle and all that bullshit is even greater than the risks of being reared by a single mom, but call me crazy.
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exactly! iv never seen my dad, and i turned out....no wait i am a very strange young man. my bad.
 
musclemom said:
I don't DOUBT that you probably are making more than enough $$$ to cover two kids. Money is the least of the problems with kids, though. And believe me, if anyone understands about wanting to have another child, it's me. But as a responsible adult you have to weigh the dream of what YOU want versus what is truly BEST for the child you have responsibility for now. Siblings do not always get along, in fact sometimes they're positively homicidal to each other. And I'm telling you, boys, in particular, don't get easier. I'm not exaggerating, boys go through a ... stage ... is all I can think it's best called. They turn into total fucking assholes to the adult women in their lives, particularly if they live in a single parent household (personally, I think it's genetic to head off inbreeding), but the teen years are the worst, second only to the headaches of dealing with daycare and elementary school situations.

$$$ are the least of the problems being a parent in general. Fuck dying, what happens if you get in a car accident and can't move for about a month? It's a shit load easier to farm out ONE kid, scrambling to get coverage for two is twice as hard.
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No need for sugar coating...

I think I'm going to give the two I have away.
 
CMarc said:
No need for sugar coating...

I think I'm going to give the two I have away.
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I did enter the thread saying I had full intension of playing Devil's advocate.

Children are a lot tougher to get rid of than an unruly dog or an unwanted cat. Fucking cops and CSIs ask WAY too many questions these days.
 
Just become a really aggressive cougar and get yourself knocked up by some random bar dude.
 
heatherrae said:
Okay, no more negativity on this thread. This is a serious topic, and I'm not going to waste it defending my parenting as a single mom, etc.
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HR, are you a lawyer because you are naturally hard headed or are you hard headed because you ARE a lawyer.... just askin.
 
I can save you thousands HR... With the new AT home SaladFork make your own baby kit. For 4 payments of $9.95 you get.

- Baby Batter
- Turkey Baster
- Wine cork
- Instructions on how to stand on your head
- 1 paper towel

Call now and get an extra bag of baby batter for FREE!

Prices subject to change without notice. Customers may substitute turkey baster for my cawk.

:p
 
SaladFork said:
I can save you thousands HR... With the new AT home SaladFork make your own baby kit. For 4 payments of $9.95 you get.

- Baby Batter
- Turkey Baster
- Wine cork
- Instructions on how to stand on your head
- 1 paper towel

Call now and get an extra bag of baby batter for FREE!

Prices subject to change without notice. Customers may substitute turkey baster for my cawk.

:p
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il order two now
 
"oh look at me, i'm lonely and need a man in my life to knock me up, feed me attention"
 
heatherrae said:
I've been thinking that my little family is not yet complete and would like another baby. Being that I'm not in a relationship and will be 39 in March, I'm thinking of adopting a baby girl. I've been praying for God to give me a sign and to bring a baby who needs me into my life. We will see.

Anyone here adopted or have adopted children? What are your experiences?
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I would like A baby. :worried:
 
heatherrae said:
sounds lovely.

you are special men. :heart:
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Thank you for the kind words but I don't really feel that we are special. We are simly mature, responsible men who have learned what it really important in life. For all the banter and our differing political views, I see that you are cut from the same cloth.

S
 
musclemom said:
Twice the joy, twice the cases of sniffles and everything else (when one gets sick the other does, plus they share the love with every adult within touching distance), twice the expense, twice the time, twice the energy, twice the activities fees, twice the daycare expenses and twice as many kids needing help with homework and projects.

This is a single parent with no reliable support system. Stop encouraging her!
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This has not been my experience but they're both under 7 YO still.
but still a good post from MM.
 
SaladFork said:
I can save you thousands HR... With the new AT home SaladFork make your own baby kit. For 4 payments of $9.95 you get.

- Baby Batter
- Turkey Baster
- Wine cork
- Instructions on how to stand on your head
- 1 paper towel

Call now and get an extra bag of baby batter for FREE!

Prices subject to change without notice. Customers may substitute turkey baster for my cawk.

:p
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Dude thats the funniest shit Ive seen in awhile, Thanks for the laugh. Ive got three great looking kids, il send you picks and hook you up with a recipe for making one, FREE. Salad Fork wants three payments too many.
 
heatherrae said:
I've been thinking that my little family is not yet complete and would like another baby. Being that I'm not in a relationship and will be 39 in March, I'm thinking of adopting a baby girl. I've been praying for God to give me a sign and to bring a baby who needs me into my life. We will see.

Anyone here adopted or have adopted children? What are your experiences?
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Every adopted kid I know had something not right with them. Sorry but the ones I know are a strange bunch. One was arrested last halloween for burning a big fire in his back yard saying it was to keep the evil spirits away. Well, the police spirited him a way alright. LOL.

Have to realize kids put up for adoption in the US are usually the product of less than smart people. Sometimes crazy or addiction problems. Want to end up with a crack baby?
 
All joking aside, I would totally help a woman if she wanted a baby.
we have no illness in our family, I mean zero.
all us men are under 6' tall which means we're going to live a long life :)
My grand-dad passed at 89 and my dad is now 85 with zero sickness.
So yah I would help a friend in need even if I didnt get to actually fuck her :D :D :D
 
SaladFork said:
I can save you thousands HR... With the new AT home SaladFork make your own baby kit. For 4 payments of $9.95 you get.

- Baby Batter
- Turkey Baster
- Wine cork
- Instructions on how to stand on your head
- 1 paper towel

Call now and get an extra bag of baby batter for FREE!

Prices subject to change without notice. Customers may substitute turkey baster for my cawk.

:p
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Do you take a check?
 
nefertiti said:
Being a single mom is going to make adoption nearly impossible for you. And adopting from vietnam would be cheaper than adopting in the states..."Juno" almost ever ever happens, and even in that movie the couple still payed her medical expenses.

ps - Not trying to rain on your parade at all, heather...but realistically you're looking at a major undertaking.
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yeah unless youre willing to go the route of adopting a special needs child You'd first have to become a licensed foster parent and then there are no guarantees you'd ever come across a infant female and caucasian (if that matters) or one whose parents lost their parental rights. Ive seen all too often foster parents get into it with the intention of adopting and they care for kids for years and have hope of making it permanent only for the useless parent to show up when word gets out that they may lose their rights.

yeah, you definitely dont want to go that route.....
 
musclemom said:
Twice the joy, twice the cases of sniffles and everything else (when one gets sick the other does, plus they share the love with every adult within touching distance), twice the expense, twice the time, twice the energy, twice the activities fees, twice the daycare expenses and twice as many kids needing help with homework and projects.

This is a single parent with no reliable support system. Stop encouraging her!
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she's a grown woman. i think she can make her own decisions. who are we (internet strangers) to tell her what she can and cant handle?
 
heavy_duty said:
true that
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I'm always flaberghasted at how fast total strangers will jump at the chance to tell someone else how to live their life. especially when (let's face it) we've all got our own struggles so who are we to tell anyone else what to do - especially when that person is a stranger? unreal how easy it is for people to project their own unhappiness about the way their life turned out onto others. She didnt make this thread asking the members of EF whether she SHOULD or SHOULDNT consider adopting or having another baby, she asked if anyone here had any personal experiences with adoption. end
 
heatherrae said:
I've been thinking that my little family is not yet complete and would like another baby. Being that I'm not in a relationship and will be 39 in March, I'm thinking of adopting a baby girl. I've been praying for God to give me a sign and to bring a baby who needs me into my life. We will see.

Anyone here adopted or have adopted children? What are your experiences?
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You can afford it or is your clock and mid-life crisis ticking and that's more improtant?

r
 
im single but have my own babies..did i mention i love being single?
 
Mr. dB said:
Just become a really aggressive cougar and get yourself knocked up by some random bar dude.
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^^^This is still the obvious solution.^^^
 
heatherrae said:
actually, I'm considering that too. I'm also considering telling devin that I had him via artificial insemination too. That way he won't feel like anyone abandoned him. That is too hard on a kid.
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He'll be pissed when he finds out the truth though. His dad will probably show up when he' about 17 and want to make up for lost time. That would be a mess.
 
heatherrae said:
I've been thinking that my little family is not yet complete and would like another baby. Being that I'm not in a relationship and will be 39 in March, I'm thinking of adopting a baby girl. I've been praying for God to give me a sign and to bring a baby who needs me into my life. We will see.

Anyone here adopted or have adopted children? What are your experiences?
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I am adopted. :)
 
txbondsman said:
HR, are you a lawyer because you are naturally hard headed or are you hard headed because you ARE a lawyer.... just askin.
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Only hard headed people become lawyers.
Oh, and being a smart ass is also a prerequisite.
As is liking to drink.
 
Smurfy said:
I'm always flaberghasted at how fast total strangers will jump at the chance to tell someone else how to live their life. especially when (let's face it) we've all got our own struggles so who are we to tell anyone else what to do - especially when that person is a stranger? unreal how easy it is for people to project their own unhappiness about the way their life turned out onto others. She didnt make this thread asking the members of EF whether she SHOULD or SHOULDNT consider adopting or having another baby, she asked if anyone here had any personal experiences with adoption. end
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I still want her to have my baby instead.
 
silverstar1025 said:
My girls are 3 years apart and sometimes they drive me to take a xanex ;) Omg they fight all day long. One always wants what the other has,etc. It drives me mad. I hope they still grow to love each other. Right now I am not so sure. lol
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my sister and I are 11 months apart. My older sister is 4 yrs older.
My Mom said when we were kids, we fought all the time.
One time, in the car driving up to our country home, my Dad pulled over on the highway toll station, told us to get out (we were like 6 and 7 and 11) and he drove off. Left us there for 30 mins alone Then they came back.
Needless to say, we never acted up in the car again

The way parenting should be......haha!
 
CMarc said:
No need for sugar coating...

I think I'm going to give the two I have away.
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oh stop teasing me ;-)


HR, Marc has two kids. I'm not a great lover of kids and it took me a while to accept even being with Marc b/c of this fact.
You're not a young woman and if you meet or want to meet a man who's in his 40's, it's not going to be easy to find a relationship with a grown man who wants to be around babies.
Now having said that, if you want to focus on being a mom and love kids that much, then I would say adopt another child, not a baby, but a child.
There are a ton of kids out there who have no love and would love to be loved.
Babies get adopted, kids rarely do. They live in a system and get shuffled around endlessly.
If it's all about love and not a selfish desire, then adopt an older child.
 
Creepusmaximus said:
Every adopted kid I know had something not right with them. Sorry but the ones I know are a strange bunch. One was arrested last halloween for burning a big fire in his back yard saying it was to keep the evil spirits away. Well, the police spirited him a way alright. LOL.

Have to realize kids put up for adoption in the US are usually the product of less than smart people. Sometimes crazy or addiction problems. Want to end up with a crack baby?
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I hope Marc does not mind.........but he was adopted and he's the most upstanding person I know.

This is totally ridiculous!
 
blueta2 said:
my sister and I are 11 months apart. My older sister is 4 yrs older.
My Mom said when we were kids, we fought all the time.
One time, in the car driving up to our country home, my Dad pulled over on the highway toll station, told us to get out (we were like 6 and 7 and 11) and he drove off. Left us there for 30 mins alone Then they came back.
Needless to say, we never acted up in the car again

The way parenting should be......haha!
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LOL that is awsome
 
Smurfy said:
I'm always flaberghasted at how fast total strangers will jump at the chance to tell someone else how to live their life. especially when (let's face it) we've all got our own struggles so who are we to tell anyone else what to do - especially when that person is a stranger? unreal how easy it is for people to project their own unhappiness about the way their life turned out onto others. She didnt make this thread asking the members of EF whether she SHOULD or SHOULDNT consider adopting or having another baby, she asked if anyone here had any personal experiences with adoption. end
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forums are = to group therapy

One tosses around an idea and gets feedback, it's what people do

Oh and I have all the answers don't ya know
 
blueta2 said:
forums are = to group therapy

One tosses around an idea and gets feedback, it's what people do

Oh and I have all the answers don't ya know
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true

i just know that i wouldnt take too kindly to peeps on an internet forum whom i dont even know, trying to tell me what i can and cant handle in my own personal life. especially people who are struggling with their own lives as it is, catch my drift? i guess its a pet peeve of mine when people insist on imposing themselves on others like that.
 
heatherrae said:
I've been thinking that my little family is not yet complete and would like another baby. Being that I'm not in a relationship and will be 39 in March, I'm thinking of adopting a baby girl. I've been praying for God to give me a sign and to bring a baby who needs me into my life. We will see.

Anyone here adopted or have adopted children? What are your experiences?
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My uncle adopted a 4 month old North Korean child. He is 12 now. Just visited him and the family this past week. He is a great kid.

All they need is love. That is all that matters. You would be an excellent candidate for adopting a child. :)
 
Smurfy said:
true

i just know that i wouldnt take too kindly to peeps on an internet forum whom i dont even know, trying to tell me what i can and cant handle in my own personal life. especially people who are struggling with their own lives as it is, catch my drift? i guess its a pet peeve of mine when people insist on imposing themselves on others like that.
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Imposing is not always good, but suggestions are ok, but yes I catch your drift (wink wink) ;-)

hahah
 
blue, i remember my dad threatening to stop the car and leave us on the side of the road. but thats all he ever had to do. he instilled this fear in us and we did not for one minute doubt that he would do it. still to this day he brings this up with pride that he would threaten us like that and we would actually fall for it!
 
Smurfy said:
blue, i remember my dad threatening to stop the car and leave us on the side of the road. but thats all he ever had to do. he instilled this fear in us and we did not for one minute doubt that he would do it. still to this day he brings this up with pride that he would threaten us like that and we would actually fall for it!
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My Dad was a softy and we were not afraid of him.
My Mom on the other hand, all she had to do was give us the Irish look of death and we knew.
She actually gave it to me today cause I pissed her off.
She left me on the side of the road ;-)

haha
 
blueta2 said:
My Dad was a softy and we were not afraid of him.
My Mom on the other hand, all she had to do was give us the Irish look of death and we knew.
She actually gave it to me today cause I pissed her off.
She left me on the side of the road ;-)

haha
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lol my parents are the opposite
well my Dad was the authoritarian
my Mom wasnt a softie at all but she didnt do much if any disciplining
 
Smurfy said:
lol my parents are the opposite
well my Dad was the authoritarian
my Mom wasnt a softie at all but she didnt do much if any disciplining
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Are you a softy with your son?
 
blueta2 said:
Are you a softy with your son?
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No. well, im lenient i guess and some things i let slide. but for a lot of things i have stringent rules that i picked up from my childhood lol poor kid.
he's spoiled and i know it. but he's a great kid
 
Smurfy said:
No. well, im lenient i guess and some things i let slide. but for a lot of things i have stringent rules that i picked up from my childhood lol poor kid.
he's spoiled and i know it. but he's a great kid
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ok so cool, you got a mix of your Mom and Dad in how you are with your son
I bet you're a COOL mom!
 
blueta2 said:
ok so cool, you got a mix of your Mom and Dad in how you are with your son
I bet you're a COOL mom!
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im cool except when its time to do homework, clean your room, take a shower, brush your teeth, etc. lol
 
Smurfy said:
im cool except when its time to do homework, clean your room, take a shower, brush your teeth, etc. lol
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IME, momz without the baby daddy in the house tend to be soft on discipline. My mom disciplined me but she always had the fall back of,"Wait until your father gets home."
 
javaguru said:
IME, momz without the baby daddy in the house tend to be soft on discipline. My mom disciplined me but she always had the fall back of,"Wait until your father gets home."
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im not soft on discipline IMO. there's definite consequences. Im big on that.
 
Smurfy said:
im not soft on discipline IMO. there's definite consequences. Im big on that.
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My mom would make me pick out the switch but dad was on a whole different level. Not that I was beaten, I probably had "the switch" about six times growing up, but dad was an oh shit fear factor. The threat I felt of disappointing them was probably the best discipline tool the had.
 
javaguru said:
My mom would make me pick out the switch but dad was on a whole different level. Not that I was beaten, I probably had "the switch" about six times growing up, but dad was an oh shit fear factor. The threat I felt of disappointing them was probably the best discipline tool the had.
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yep
my dad took the belt out on numerous occasions and snapped it or draped it around his neck just as a warning. and thats all he ever had to do. i dont think he ever actually hit us with it lol
 
chris302001 said:
My punishment was always chopping firewood.......And that fucking ax was about as sharp as my cawk.....
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Punishment? That was a weekly chore for me. The house was heated via old school renewable energy, wood furnace.
 
javaguru said:
Punishment? That was a weekly chore for me. The house was heated via old school renewable energy, wood furnace.
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Yeah.........but my dad had a gas powered log splitter........he just made me chop it with an ax to be a dick........did help build some shoulders tho.....lol
 
chris302001 said:
Yeah.........but my dad had a gas powered log splitter........he just made me chop it with an ax to be a dick........did help build some shoulders tho.....lol
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We had one of those too but I preferred to use the maul, it was faster.
 
Bino said:
fug it give me a sledge and a wedge
better yet a splitter
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I used the wedge with the sledge but IMO the maul combined everything. You get a tough knot then I would switch to the wedge. I've always been a big guy so I can deliver some wood pwnage with a maul.
 
javaguru said:
Or date puddles and tell him she's on the pill....he likes short brunettes.
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Gag. Thanks for the disturbing mental image. :rolleyes:
 
javaguru said:
The threat I felt of disappointing them was probably the best discipline tool the had.
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My son is exactly like that, I've spanked him twice in his life and he's 10 now. He just HATES the thought that I may be dissapointed in him, almost to the point that it concerns me. That kid (only child) gets more hugs and kisses and I love you's in one day than I got in a lifetime. I'm not real sure where it comes from.
 
Walter Szczerbiak said:
"oh look at me, i'm lonely and need a man in my life to knock me up, feed me attention"
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and yet I still wouldn't fuck you, Killahbee.
 
LOOL....this thread took off in my absence.

Thanks everyone! There are some really good responses here and some really funny ones too.

(Then there is the retarded KB alter swinging on in to my thread for some e-ttention, but he doesn't count, just like IRL...lol).
 
LOL....I got some pretty cool offers via pm's and k messages from this thread. Man, I could have a few PRETTY babies from the offers I got. Oh yeah, and Dialtone said I need to have a black baby...LOL.
 
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