i don't think it really matters, some of us are better in some areas of lifting and worse in others. I can deadlift with the strongest guys in the gym, i have maxed at 675lbs on deads, but i've never benched over 350lbs! People tell me i look as if i can bench over 400, but right now i probably couldn't do 315 for 3 reps or so. It's all about how you look in my oppinion. I quit doing the heavy ass exercises a while ago. I go now for slow reps, feeling each one deep within the muscle. That's what i think makes me look the best