how to get this guy?

[Rugbyrebel]

ok, so i am meeting up with this guy in about 3 weeks (not a date date but a "friend" date) and I am looking at this as an opportunity to 'get him'. I have known him for awhile and I am seriously attracted to him (personality wise as well as looks). I want him! However, my dilema is I don't know how to go about it. I think there is some sexual tension between us but that could just be me Guys, what subtle clues could he have been giving me to show that he likes me? How do i find out if he likes me without making an ass of myself? What subtle clues can i give him? I don't want to just come out and say i am like totally in love with him because if he doesn't somewhat reciprocate it could make things awkward. There is one other reason why I need to be careful in this situation: age. There is a relatively large age difference (not like he could be me father or anything like that) I have gone out with guys his age before but i just need to be sure he is totally cool with it.

Any advice or personal experiences would be totally awesome and help me out a lot.

 

[Thinker82]

With the ammount of info you just gave us it is hard to say.

The way I look at it is. If you find yourself to be attractive as well, I can almost guarentee you the thought of having sexual relations with you has crossed his mind. Just tell him how you feel.

 

[luto199]

just smile and luagh with him and pat him on his legs and if he doesn't get the message he's gay!

 

[Vortexx]

1. Wear something sexy......


2. Be DIRECT,males appreciate that. Tell him that you have developed feelings for him during the friendship, That you find yourself often thinking of him when he is not around. ask him immediately after that if he ever thinks of you when you are not around and, if so, in what way.....

Many times females give these very subtle "inviting" clues to a male . These clues nearly always contain some "escape hatch" for the female , so the guy only finds out if he takes the bait and still he risks the change of the girl saying to him "What you think you are doing GEEK". Some proud macho guys (like me) choose often not to take an ambiguous bait (unless i am loaded with GHB than i don't fucking care , i run them over like a diesel train no matter what)

I don't particuly like these games and I can ALWAYS appreciate a female who plays her card open on the table. Even if i am not in love with her , she will always be my friend for her cool attitude....

 

[Vortexx]

I don't know where you have this "friends date", but i suggest that if things get very friendly that you two go to some wild club where you two can get yourself a bit drunk and physical or even SURPRISE this dude by taking him to some lapdance joint. If you are the kind the kind of girl that can appreciate female beauty as well, you get yourself a lapdance too hehe.

Anyway , both options will inevitibly lead to a wonderfull night....

 

[Rugbyrebel]

thanks for the posts guys, I'm totally going to go for him. I consider myself attractive but I don't really know what guys think. I think i have a really pretty face (i have long, curly hair, awesome complextion) but i am a little self conscious of my body. I have been an athlete all my life (my favorite sport is rugby) and i am very fit and certainly have muscles. However, I have tried unsucessfully over the past year to drop BF % to show off my muscles. I have become obessed with it and it's making me unsure of my image to guys. It's not like i'm huge or anything but i am not barbie! These are my measurements: 5'10", BF about 24% (ahh i wish it was closer to 14%!!!! , 36/38DD, 30 waist, 38 hips. Anyway, i know he likes athletic women, so that plays to my advantage.

I am in the midst of chosing something sexy and i am trying to arrange us going somewhere with drinks because if i was drunk i would have no problem expresing my feelings! Damn i wish we were going to an overnight (tenting) rugby kegger!

I don't know if I would have the confidence to come out and say my feelings but if i gave very STRONG signals (w/o using words *~) ) do you think he would make a move? i REALLY wish he would make a move so i know he is interested!
I'll keep you guys posted...

FUCK! i hope there's going to be beer!!

 

[Frackal]

The fastest way to a man's heart is through your butt

 

[hitmansb]

Ummm.....you're a good looking gal with a big rack. If he's straight, he's gonna try something if you give him even a subtle hint....let alone hit him with serious flirting. After a couple of drinks to negate any potential 'shy guy' factors, he's pretty much guaranteed to at least 'test the waters' by flirting himself. And if you respond positively...guaran-damn-teed he's gonna make a move. If not, he's gotta be queer.

 

[Dr.RobertBanner]

What subtle clues can i give him?

I don't know if I would have the confidence to come out and say my feelings but if i gave very STRONG signals (w/o using words *~) ) do you think he would make a move?

Suck his dick He'll get the idea.

Seriously though, be flirty and direct, these guys are right, the whole games and sublte things sucks. Just go for it. If you're moderately attractive and he's unattached, should be no prob, especially after a few drinks. Good luck.

 

[luto199]

GHB!
no seriously, how'd it go?

 

[Rugbyrebel]

This sucks!

So we were all set for this 'date' and about 2 hours before we were going to leave and he was on his way to pick me up, his aunt died! He had to ditch me and drive to Ottawa to see his family or whatever. What the fuck! Is this not a bad omen? Ahhhh that was such bad timing! Why couldn't she have died some other day. My sincere condolences to the family, yadadada, but come on, not the day i'm gonna make my move! Oh I was so disappointed. I ended up going out by myself, getting piss ass drunk and picking up some dumbass guy, not the evening I had planned (Well not to an extent, lol.) Oh, I even wasted three days trying to find the sexiest outfit possible. (I looked awesome if I may say so myself and he would have been all over me this sucks Anyway, I guess I will have to find another opportunity.

 

[Deepsquat]

Yeah ...right ...his aunt died...sounds to me like he stood you up...hey , maybe next week he will have to wash his hair!

 

[lilperronis]

start to rub his leg and when you feel the time is right then you kiss him

 

[Rugbyrebel]

No, I am pretty sure his aunt really died because one of my close buddies were supposed to be going on a camping trip for about a week (starting the day after we were going to get together) but they had to postpone it due to the death. I really don't think he would go to the extent of changing his plans for the next couple of weeks just to get out of a date with me. Or at least I hope not! lol

 

[WIDELAT]

HEY IF IT DON'T WORK OUT WITH HIM YOU CAN ALWAYS CALL ON ME GIRL I'LL TAKE CARE OF YA I LOVE TALL GIRLS AND YOUR BF% SOUNDS PERFECT OR EVEN LEAN FOR YOUR SIZE. WHAT IS THE AGE DIFFRENCE BETWEEN YOU AND THIS GUY?

 

[Rugbyrebel]

I'm 18, he's 27/28-ish, you do the math!

 

[manny78]

Assuming you're cute then just ask him about a wild night in a jacuzzi. If he's says no, then he's gay. Here ya go

 

[WIDELAT]

HE MIGHT LOOK AT YOU TO BE A LITTLE YOUNG BUT YOU WOULD KNOW BETTER THEN US DOES HE TREAT YOU LIKE A YOUNGER PERSON OR EQUAL? YOU COULD JUST STRAIGHT UP ASK HIM OR THE BEST THING TO DO IS YOU THROW THE FIRST MOVE ON HIM THAT IS VERY SEXY TO ME WHEN A GIRL MAKES THE FIRST MOVE IT TAKES A LOT OF PRESSURE OFF THE GUY, HE PROBABLY IS THINKING THE SAME THING AS YOU. HE MIGHT THINK YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS AGE OR WHAT NOT BUT I THINK IF YOU TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF HIM HE WILL RECIPROCATE YOUR FEELINGS.

 

[Rugbyrebel]

I think the age thing is what is in the way. He does treat me as equal though, we have good converstations. I am mature for my age and most of my really good friends are at least 5 years older than me. I really don't look my age either. (i have been drinking in almost every major bar/club in my area for the past couple of years and i have only just recently purchased a good fake ID) It can actually be kind of awkward looking and acting older because i'm a really big flirt sometimes but have to watch myself. Guys will start to 'pursue' (sp?) me and then i'll realize they think i am way older than i actually am. It's just awkward because I don't know if they will be scared off by it so i become stand off-ish.

I think the worse case of something like this was about last year (I just turned 17) and got really drunk at a rugby kegger. I ended up with this really hot guy (with really good hands ), who i thought was about 20 or so. Anyway, during a 'breather' he mentions something about work and i ask him how old he is... 26!... OK well, I can deal with that... they he asks me how old I am and I totally thought he knew before hand (He had the repitation of being a bit of a whore, he's a nice guy, just a whore, so I thought it was his goal to 'welcome the New fresh meat' to the rugby club) I ask him how old he thinks i am and he says 23/24..OH SHIT!... I didn't want him to freak out. We were both too drunk to really care so it ended up being okay. (Fun night ) It was pretty fucked up. It didn't end there though, later I realized why he seemed so familiar.... he refereed a couple of my high school rugby games! I have a feeling my team is going to win the finals next year........lol

 

[Deepsquat]

Okay , if you really think he did not stand you up ...then I will giove you a good answer.YOU NEED to ask him out on a date! You pay ..you take hime to dinner and a movie..I know this will freak some guys out ...but hey ...the last 2 women that ended up with the right to call me "boyfriend" both made the first move on me! Hell one of them is now my wife...
Now for me personally, the first of these 2 girlfriends ,made the first move on me ( I just could not believe that one of the most beautiful women I had ever seen (top 5 !) wanted me!
Though my sister in law said the girl did ...I thought I was being jerked around(had rather low self estime at the time ...I was going through divorce)Anyway I would have never had the courage to ask this girl out so it is a damn good thing she did!
So my sugesstion is you make the first move ...and if it fails then at least you tried and you stopped wasting your time ,on ssomeone that has no interest in you
Or you could just tell him you swallow! It is the quickest way to a guys heart.