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you self-pitified maings. fix up and wise up
markshark said:
Damn dude. That's a pessimistic attitude. No chick is going to be particularly interested in you with that attitude.
Yes you will be shot down, no way around it, but not every time.
well like ive said in my other posts i was never a big guy but i was always ripped and toned and if you take care off your appearance and you show self confidance then you should have no problem with chics and they will notice you, you dont have to be huge to attract chics just ask some of the chics on this forumn.......
if you have poor selfesteem and you dont take to your appearamnce the girls wont pay you any mind, girls want a man not an insecure boy.....
good luck..
if you have poor selfesteem and you dont take to your appearamnce the girls wont pay you any mind, girls want a man not an insecure boy.....
good luck..
I like alot of the points here, but you have to take into fact, that even with the best game, the best looks, money, confidence etc you will run into girls that are just flat out not interested.
Some wont like your color, some will be married/enganged, drooling over somene elses cock or whatever. I'm not advocating a defeatist mentality, but you really have to buck up and just move on after rejection. Its not always just a straight up rejection eitehr, there are always other factors. Never let it get you down, just keep trying. Play the odds etc. Read up on those dating sites on the net, double your dating etc, they are worth their weight in gold (or tail?).
We are into bodybuilding (most of us here anyways) so we are miles ahead of everyone else, just get your game and confidence together and stop over-analyzing the situation so much. Just get out and play the field. Get rejected, learn, and move the fuck on
Some wont like your color, some will be married/enganged, drooling over somene elses cock or whatever. I'm not advocating a defeatist mentality, but you really have to buck up and just move on after rejection. Its not always just a straight up rejection eitehr, there are always other factors. Never let it get you down, just keep trying. Play the odds etc. Read up on those dating sites on the net, double your dating etc, they are worth their weight in gold (or tail?).
We are into bodybuilding (most of us here anyways) so we are miles ahead of everyone else, just get your game and confidence together and stop over-analyzing the situation so much. Just get out and play the field. Get rejected, learn, and move the fuck on
bigtasty25
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evansteve said:
all those things r basically me (and 24 yrs old), at 5'9, but maybe 6% bf tanned and 185. And nah they still wont approach you directly for the most part ( i go to the busiest gym in south fla with the hottest bitches on this side of the usa, besides venice), and theyll look at you like someone said for an extra 3 seconds...and some even stare longer, some are across the gym and stare for over a minute...but for the most part, they won't approach you unless theyre very confident (one approached me like this yesterday and was like 'small legs buddy') it took me by suprise because im not used to this, she was obviously kidding around cuz mine are 26 shredded lol.
the kind of assets described above can intimidate the hell out of women, but they love it, and they might think you're cocky if they dont know you, and whatknot...for the most part you have to start the convo, and if they like you, youll know. They make it easy for you anyway...theyll come right next to you and workout until the second you leave ..then they leave...or youll workout in the mirror and theyll come n workout right next to u, working out seriously in the mirror all the while staring at you while u lift in the mirror as well...lol...its quite funny...it helps when you put on an alpha male approach and act all confident with your head up, taking up space when u lift, and dress to impress, and ignore the shit out of them and focus on ure lifts (that attracts them more) ...be aggressive during ure workout and that annoys the guys n scares some of the skinny shits, but the girls get closer
Im the worst person ever to ask for this because I seriously am the biggest pussy when it comes to talking to girls ever.
i seriously feel like Im in Jr. High and i act all sheepish and stutter and dont know what to say to them.
i get htit on by really really hot girls all the time @ my gym but I never can even have the courage to ask them out or for thier numbers. then i keep kicking myself in the ass every time i leave.
i just gotta stop bein a pussy
i seriously feel like Im in Jr. High and i act all sheepish and stutter and dont know what to say to them.
i get htit on by really really hot girls all the time @ my gym but I never can even have the courage to ask them out or for thier numbers. then i keep kicking myself in the ass every time i leave.
i just gotta stop bein a pussy
bigtasty25
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Wulfgar said:
now that is funny...because you appear like the most intimidating guy on this board (as far as i know)...since you are f*ckin huge...
i think you don't talk to girls much cuz like me, you have too much pride to do that (and you should have pride), which their is nothing wrong with, id just be selective and go talk to the girl u feel a physical connect with ...you know..not just how she looks..there r hot dumb broadsthat r fuggin hot..dime a dozen..then there r smart, sophistacted, normal (HOT) girls (aka angelina jolie, i like jodie foster too) that can actually hold on a conversation all the while seeming like an overall happy person and a fresh outlook on life...THOSe r the ones you should go after..trust me..lol...although theyre a rarity so youll have to look hard. if you talk to dumb broads thaTS fine to gain a little social flair, maybe theyll want to fuck, but i doubt it, if you dont feel a connection, i doubt they will either. I kinda have a radar for it (the "right" ones)..its not hard to sense it if youve heard them talk to someone else. If they don't talk to anyone at all..be careful...the shy one's arent always as great as they might seem, when some open their mouth they r the most negative pieces of work on earth, first of all they werent shy at all to begin with they were just really cocky and some just plain manhaters (some r really smart n totally normal/sweet though, so try both n youll see, youll prob get half n half, depending on where u train, but if theyre really hot, id be a little more weary). I dont really know what types u go after..but if its just to fuck any random bitch..thats easy...just act like an alpha male.(good article on that in the latest musclemag for free), and act dominant...all girls like that (the slutty bitches..to the shy girl next door bookworm)...then start off slowly with a basic convo ..like "hey ive never seen u be4...you new here?" or..."ive been trying to figure out what you are...are you latin/philpino? (just some basic stuff)..then the next convo say hi again, ask how she is...random questions...if she likes you she'll continue the conversation...and during the next convo she'll be more at ease with you...each time you approach her (if she lieks you)..she'll be more at ease with you and youll get to know one another better in the process...so when u naturally ask her out after a couple weeks, it'll be first nature and she'll be 10 times more apt to say yes. Do this with 10 girls...and in 2-3 weeks youll have 10 dates theoretically...do this in the grocery store, at work, etc..and you increase your chances even more. Me personally I dont do this with 10 girls since i only try to weed out the best ones, which in south fla r rare, far and few between. The amount of hot pussy here is tremendous (as r their thirst for full wallets and an unlimited bank account+credit card expenditure). Althoughm in retrospect, the intelligence and personality factor is substantially limited. Hell im only 24 so what do i know..plus im the one who is looking for advice on a girl to begin this thread lol..but i doubt the above advice can hurt sir, its very simple as you can see
(p.s: had to give u a little advice since u gave me a little in regards to my "filling out" post contect techniques haha..its actually working quite nicely).
In your case though it might be easier for u with girls than with me though since youre twice my size,(give me 5 yrs..LOL) and ive usually found girls that like a muscular guy, no matter how big he is, bigger the best AS LONG as he still looks attractive, keeps his shape/aesthestics/conditioning.. and doesnt turn his face into "markus ruhl-esque...hah..
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bigtasty25
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How to Have CONFIDENCE and POWER in Dealing with People-By Les Giblin
Now if you're serious about really changing the way you do things with girls..and i mean really changing them, so you're the alpha male of all alpha males..where men and women both respect you...at the gym, work, school..wherever...id suggest highly you read this book..."How to Have CONFIDENCE and POWER in dealing with People" by Les Giblin. I need to refresh my skills and read up on it actually as ive been so busy lately and am now only beginning to have some free time since my 2nd to last semester (graduate this summer) of college finished, as well as my bb;ing show is finally done with. Better than some sites that charge you an arm n a leg for advice on bitches (this book is)...this will help you in ALL aspects of your life (and help others as well)...only cost me $10.00 on amazon i think...i read this back when i was 20...and everywhere i went..its like girls had a radar for me...hell i wasnt particuly muscular back then either, i was lean, tanned, but maybe 155 at 5'9 and 10% bf, but not much muscle hardness. But did girls care about that, hell naww. Although at the gym the female workout girls appreciate it alot more (the muscular look-for sure). I remember some of my happiest times came after reading that book because the change in my life was so drastic that it was almost downright scary...
Here's some things i wrote down in my online blog from a few yrs ago after reading that book, gives you an introspective look at how i looked at things diferently after reading it (its only 130 pages or so...im a slow reader so i read one chapter a day-1-2 hours worth. took a week or a tad more)...remember i was 21 at the time of reading it, 20 going on 21 (this was essentialy 4 yrs ago)..but i still adhere to the same exact principles and my philosophies on life have never changed at all really, just tweaked, just like pro bodybuilders tweak their looks/physiques from getting a pro card, to gettin on the olympia stage, or how you tweak your diet 3 weeks out (speaking bodybuilder-esque now LOL)...
" ...like to give everyone a chance..so...nothing wrong with friends..u can never have enough of those =0. Lately i seem to be making so many friends...i dont know who to call on what day, because there are so many new options now! Overall i definately like my new personality and the joys it brings not only myself, but others around me. I definately feel like a more giving and interesting as well as mature person now, and i like expressing the subtle details that fascinate and interest me, about little everyday things dealing with life. Anyways...im dieting now and it's taking a slight toll on my mental energy..but all is well!! Im looking better, feeling happier, and more motivated than ever to improve myself in not only my physical appearance, but mental, psychological, and personality wise...overall..i want to be a better person..and this is my lifetime goal im definately working towards as we speak...everyday i improve upon the day before...and learn from my past mistakes..which i think is part of growing up and maturing. Sure im not totally matured...but i think ive matured alot, emotionally, than where i was a couple years ago...say...even a year ago...no comparison hands down. Anyways...gotta finish a little studying then get my hour of cardio in walking the dog soon....take care all and have a great week!!!"
Thursday, March 17, 2002
"Id also like to continue on briefly before i get my hour of cardio in with the dog and mention that I feel so blessed and lucky to live the life that i do. I have two wonderful parents that love me and of whom im very, very close with...I couldnt ask for better parents to have and to know. Not only that but my brother and his girlfriend are totally awsome to me, and i think shes downright awsome with a killer personality and he's lucky to have her =). Im also thankful for my friends, accepting me for whom i am, as well as the education i have and the house my parents gave me. Most kids dont have one that are my age but i do, and for that im especially thankful...I can only hope to be this generous when I have children..for i know if i have the funds my dad does, i will most definately spoil them as much as possible (when deserved..hehe)=). Even if I dont...I know it's not all about money, but living comfortably, and being happy in your surroudings. I feel so motivated these days...my schedule has become so important to me...and graduating college..less than 3 yrs left!!! Then time to work..and look for a good graquate program in Physician Assistant school to look into...3 years of that and wham...making 6 figures...the thought of that just makes my mouth water...i know it'll be lotsa work to get into it, and a long time b4 that happens...but with my persistant ambitious, dedication, and mentality that i put into my training and nutrition..i feel it extends into other aspects of my life such as education/career as well...as ive always put my utmost effort into any endeavor i put my mind to, when i want to achieve a goal, and PA school is definately on that list. Thats #1 priority, but only right below that is my bodybuilding competition #2 that i want to enter into next year! Ahh the joys of competing...yes the diet is rigorous and tortorous...the cardio is long...the days are long...but...in the end...the dieting...training...eating...practicing posing routine...for one day..it's so worth it..when you get on stage in front of hundreds and or thousands of people..and it's just you...the catharsis that emulates in you travels beyond all realms of the chakras and is perpetually a force unknown but so great...that is lasts a lifetime in your memory, and in your heart. I know I'll love it when I'm up there. Thats all for now!! Cardio time! "
Thursday, April 1st, 2002
Everywhere i go lately i walk around with a smile and my head up high..and constantly look at girls that pass me, smile..and sometimes they smile back and or blush...hey...someone's gotta do it! =)
FYI friends of mine...dont take life too seriously..dont analyze every little aspect of it and try to contemplate why things are or arent the way they are....everything happens for a reason! And chances are..if they happened for that reason..if negativity arises from that...learn from it...and from that, your maturity will determine your own desiny and future outcomes from situations...since WE DO create out own realities. The best thing to do is think positve..and realize...not everyone is accepting of us...but who cares? We are who we are..if someone cant accept or handle that..fuck em...seriously...we're better than that and we shouldnt be ashamed for who we are and or what we have to offer. I say...personally...every person on this earth is one of god's children..and thus...should be treated with respect. So, respect others...as you'd want to be treated yourself..thats my motto and knack for getting along with others. Also...the answer isnt merely getting along...it's being social and putting yourself out there...that's the only road to happiness..don't be shy or afraid to be yourself..afterall...that's what people actually want from you...is your true personality/self. I must again stress that things happen for a reason...and a certain event that took place in skokie IL some 5 weeks ago totally changed my life...the last 5 weeks have been the happiest of my life! Ive met more ppl the last 5 weeks than i have my entire life...seriously...i feel like im living a dream, as if im in someone elses shoes...but it feels so right..and it feels so damn good...and i get happier and more confident and excited each day, to start anew =). When i was in skokie, and i was down, my friends that were true to me, came to me for support..and gave me advice...especially wendi..my bro and his gf..and i learned alot from that experience as well. basically..i learned from all this, there's no point in holding back your true personality, and being shy instead to protect yourself..because...how is someone supposed to get to know you if you're holding back, based on your personal insecurities/self esteem issues, etc? fact is the other people dont know your baggage issues...so basically...drop that shit..and be yourself...and let others get to know the real you...plus being yourself shows confidence/assertiveness...two traits these days i feel are basically my middle name . I also learned from this that life is precious..and you should live every day as if it'll be your last! Why let time fly by, by the clock, day to day, letting our lives be lead by the clock? My mission and goal now is and has been the last 5 weeks, to be a more fun and interesting, and more importantly even, a happy person. So far ive exceeded that in my opinion even and i've helped so many people...and it makes me feel so good to know that i can take the attention off myself and help others in need, since ive already taken care of my own personal needs..now i want to help others to become happier...thats my goal as well =)
Im keeping my house spick n span, my car minty clean n shiny, and getting my homework all done on time...my schedule is set. Plus my workouts these days were great...i barbell rowed 275lbs today for 5! The next 3 weeks ill diet down and do a model shoot 3 weeks from this coming monday...life is treating me well at the present time...talk to you all later!! Take care and god bless! =)
"Everyday above ground is a good day!"
-Mike
P.S: there r all above quotes from back in 2002 from my online blog...its been a good while since then and with this atittude I was able to compete finally in 2005, take 5th in the novice but still get a trophy (as well as 3rd in the juniors..i was exstatic and overjoyed)....THIS year..i took 1st in the novice as well as the overall winner at the show and to this day, it's still hard to take it funny...every day i wake up, im someone reconnected to it, and the happyness it brought me.
But nonetheless people...realize..."Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength". Arnold Schwarzenegar
and this applies to ALL areas of life...
hope i helped some of you guys out a little...thanks again for the advice on the latin hotty...time to go whackoff to some cute teeny bopper 18 yr olds i just downloaded off limewire licking each other's cunts...
(sorry ladies...i am a guy dont forget! )
Goodnight!
Now if you're serious about really changing the way you do things with girls..and i mean really changing them, so you're the alpha male of all alpha males..where men and women both respect you...at the gym, work, school..wherever...id suggest highly you read this book..."How to Have CONFIDENCE and POWER in dealing with People" by Les Giblin. I need to refresh my skills and read up on it actually as ive been so busy lately and am now only beginning to have some free time since my 2nd to last semester (graduate this summer) of college finished, as well as my bb;ing show is finally done with. Better than some sites that charge you an arm n a leg for advice on bitches (this book is)...this will help you in ALL aspects of your life (and help others as well)...only cost me $10.00 on amazon i think...i read this back when i was 20...and everywhere i went..its like girls had a radar for me...hell i wasnt particuly muscular back then either, i was lean, tanned, but maybe 155 at 5'9 and 10% bf, but not much muscle hardness. But did girls care about that, hell naww. Although at the gym the female workout girls appreciate it alot more (the muscular look-for sure). I remember some of my happiest times came after reading that book because the change in my life was so drastic that it was almost downright scary...
Here's some things i wrote down in my online blog from a few yrs ago after reading that book, gives you an introspective look at how i looked at things diferently after reading it (its only 130 pages or so...im a slow reader so i read one chapter a day-1-2 hours worth. took a week or a tad more)...remember i was 21 at the time of reading it, 20 going on 21 (this was essentialy 4 yrs ago)..but i still adhere to the same exact principles and my philosophies on life have never changed at all really, just tweaked, just like pro bodybuilders tweak their looks/physiques from getting a pro card, to gettin on the olympia stage, or how you tweak your diet 3 weeks out (speaking bodybuilder-esque now LOL)...
" ...like to give everyone a chance..so...nothing wrong with friends..u can never have enough of those =0. Lately i seem to be making so many friends...i dont know who to call on what day, because there are so many new options now! Overall i definately like my new personality and the joys it brings not only myself, but others around me. I definately feel like a more giving and interesting as well as mature person now, and i like expressing the subtle details that fascinate and interest me, about little everyday things dealing with life. Anyways...im dieting now and it's taking a slight toll on my mental energy..but all is well!! Im looking better, feeling happier, and more motivated than ever to improve myself in not only my physical appearance, but mental, psychological, and personality wise...overall..i want to be a better person..and this is my lifetime goal im definately working towards as we speak...everyday i improve upon the day before...and learn from my past mistakes..which i think is part of growing up and maturing. Sure im not totally matured...but i think ive matured alot, emotionally, than where i was a couple years ago...say...even a year ago...no comparison hands down. Anyways...gotta finish a little studying then get my hour of cardio in walking the dog soon....take care all and have a great week!!!"
Thursday, March 17, 2002
"Id also like to continue on briefly before i get my hour of cardio in with the dog and mention that I feel so blessed and lucky to live the life that i do. I have two wonderful parents that love me and of whom im very, very close with...I couldnt ask for better parents to have and to know. Not only that but my brother and his girlfriend are totally awsome to me, and i think shes downright awsome with a killer personality and he's lucky to have her =). Im also thankful for my friends, accepting me for whom i am, as well as the education i have and the house my parents gave me. Most kids dont have one that are my age but i do, and for that im especially thankful...I can only hope to be this generous when I have children..for i know if i have the funds my dad does, i will most definately spoil them as much as possible (when deserved..hehe)=). Even if I dont...I know it's not all about money, but living comfortably, and being happy in your surroudings. I feel so motivated these days...my schedule has become so important to me...and graduating college..less than 3 yrs left!!! Then time to work..and look for a good graquate program in Physician Assistant school to look into...3 years of that and wham...making 6 figures...the thought of that just makes my mouth water...i know it'll be lotsa work to get into it, and a long time b4 that happens...but with my persistant ambitious, dedication, and mentality that i put into my training and nutrition..i feel it extends into other aspects of my life such as education/career as well...as ive always put my utmost effort into any endeavor i put my mind to, when i want to achieve a goal, and PA school is definately on that list. Thats #1 priority, but only right below that is my bodybuilding competition #2 that i want to enter into next year! Ahh the joys of competing...yes the diet is rigorous and tortorous...the cardio is long...the days are long...but...in the end...the dieting...training...eating...practicing posing routine...for one day..it's so worth it..when you get on stage in front of hundreds and or thousands of people..and it's just you...the catharsis that emulates in you travels beyond all realms of the chakras and is perpetually a force unknown but so great...that is lasts a lifetime in your memory, and in your heart. I know I'll love it when I'm up there. Thats all for now!! Cardio time! "
Thursday, April 1st, 2002
Everywhere i go lately i walk around with a smile and my head up high..and constantly look at girls that pass me, smile..and sometimes they smile back and or blush...hey...someone's gotta do it! =)
FYI friends of mine...dont take life too seriously..dont analyze every little aspect of it and try to contemplate why things are or arent the way they are....everything happens for a reason! And chances are..if they happened for that reason..if negativity arises from that...learn from it...and from that, your maturity will determine your own desiny and future outcomes from situations...since WE DO create out own realities. The best thing to do is think positve..and realize...not everyone is accepting of us...but who cares? We are who we are..if someone cant accept or handle that..fuck em...seriously...we're better than that and we shouldnt be ashamed for who we are and or what we have to offer. I say...personally...every person on this earth is one of god's children..and thus...should be treated with respect. So, respect others...as you'd want to be treated yourself..thats my motto and knack for getting along with others. Also...the answer isnt merely getting along...it's being social and putting yourself out there...that's the only road to happiness..don't be shy or afraid to be yourself..afterall...that's what people actually want from you...is your true personality/self. I must again stress that things happen for a reason...and a certain event that took place in skokie IL some 5 weeks ago totally changed my life...the last 5 weeks have been the happiest of my life! Ive met more ppl the last 5 weeks than i have my entire life...seriously...i feel like im living a dream, as if im in someone elses shoes...but it feels so right..and it feels so damn good...and i get happier and more confident and excited each day, to start anew =). When i was in skokie, and i was down, my friends that were true to me, came to me for support..and gave me advice...especially wendi..my bro and his gf..and i learned alot from that experience as well. basically..i learned from all this, there's no point in holding back your true personality, and being shy instead to protect yourself..because...how is someone supposed to get to know you if you're holding back, based on your personal insecurities/self esteem issues, etc? fact is the other people dont know your baggage issues...so basically...drop that shit..and be yourself...and let others get to know the real you...plus being yourself shows confidence/assertiveness...two traits these days i feel are basically my middle name . I also learned from this that life is precious..and you should live every day as if it'll be your last! Why let time fly by, by the clock, day to day, letting our lives be lead by the clock? My mission and goal now is and has been the last 5 weeks, to be a more fun and interesting, and more importantly even, a happy person. So far ive exceeded that in my opinion even and i've helped so many people...and it makes me feel so good to know that i can take the attention off myself and help others in need, since ive already taken care of my own personal needs..now i want to help others to become happier...thats my goal as well =)
Im keeping my house spick n span, my car minty clean n shiny, and getting my homework all done on time...my schedule is set. Plus my workouts these days were great...i barbell rowed 275lbs today for 5! The next 3 weeks ill diet down and do a model shoot 3 weeks from this coming monday...life is treating me well at the present time...talk to you all later!! Take care and god bless! =)
"Everyday above ground is a good day!"
-Mike
P.S: there r all above quotes from back in 2002 from my online blog...its been a good while since then and with this atittude I was able to compete finally in 2005, take 5th in the novice but still get a trophy (as well as 3rd in the juniors..i was exstatic and overjoyed)....THIS year..i took 1st in the novice as well as the overall winner at the show and to this day, it's still hard to take it funny...every day i wake up, im someone reconnected to it, and the happyness it brought me.
But nonetheless people...realize..."Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength". Arnold Schwarzenegar
and this applies to ALL areas of life...
hope i helped some of you guys out a little...thanks again for the advice on the latin hotty...time to go whackoff to some cute teeny bopper 18 yr olds i just downloaded off limewire licking each other's cunts...
(sorry ladies...i am a guy dont forget! )Goodnight!
