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jenscats5
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My hubby asked me this tonite --- What can I do to support you with your weight lifting?? Hmmmm, I'll have to think about that then wondered how others felt?
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
Until my February meet, my husband had never seen me train, or been to a meet. I don't think he was really sure what I did. lol
He understands now, and supports me in his own little way.
I think the best thing he can do is help you stick to your schedule. This means that if it's Thursday night, and you plan to do legs, he doesn't try to talk you into going to the movies instead. Maybe it means that he has a protein shake ready for you when you're done so you can chill out together and talk afterwards. If your family is less than supportive (or friends) he can also act as a role model for how to love you unconditionally and how to respect your goals without having to subscribe to them.
He understands now, and supports me in his own little way.
I think the best thing he can do is help you stick to your schedule. This means that if it's Thursday night, and you plan to do legs, he doesn't try to talk you into going to the movies instead. Maybe it means that he has a protein shake ready for you when you're done so you can chill out together and talk afterwards. If your family is less than supportive (or friends) he can also act as a role model for how to love you unconditionally and how to respect your goals without having to subscribe to them.
spatts said:
Ditto...I am treated the same way.
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jenscats5
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He doesn't like to go to the gym as much as I do, so that's a great idea. He supports how I eat & that I don't drink anymore except for 1-2 glasses of wine with a special dinner out.
SouthernBell
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Well, my husband loves that I take care of my body. He supports me in every way possible in Weight lifting. I am just having a hard time converting him over to support me in my interest in PL. I would love to jump into it full force but I want his total support and cooperation. I don't like doing things at 50% and he is part of my 100% so I really need him there. I am sure he will understand sooner or later. I love BB but something about Strength training just catches my eye.
SB
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We work out at the same time, but do our own thing mostly unless one of us needs a spot. He told me for years to "stop lifting those baby weights, do less cardio, and eat more food..."
Of course I didn't listen to him - but when I read the same thing on this board, I did listen! (Though he thinks I'm following his advice)
Of course I didn't listen to him - but when I read the same thing on this board, I did listen! (Though he thinks I'm following his advice)
bigguns15
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My husband is my biggest supporter. I couldn't ask him for more. Together, we write training cycles and make up diets. He never misses one of my workouts (unless he has class, but he's been known to skip 
). He's my spotter, my coach, and my motivator. He puts up with my ranting and raving about my lifts and encourages me. Too often, I think I take all of this for granted, but putting it in words like this makes me realize how truly lucky I am. So, thanks pwr_machine, for all you do for me
). He's my spotter, my coach, and my motivator. He puts up with my ranting and raving about my lifts and encourages me. Too often, I think I take all of this for granted, but putting it in words like this makes me realize how truly lucky I am. So, thanks pwr_machine, for all you do for me 
JJFigure
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The big thing is supporting your training schedule; I never ask my guy to change his training schedule, and he never asks me to change mine. We also support each other's nutritional needs, and don't try to get the other to eat something off diet. And, listening is a big one; sometimes, you just need to rant about injuries, plateaus, or when you have a great workout, and having someone there who truly listens to you and understands what you're going through is wonderful.
pwr_machine
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bigguns15 said:He's my spotter, my coach, and my motivator. He puts up with my ranting and raving about my lifts and encourages me. Too often, I think I take all of this for granted, but putting it in words like this makes me realize how truly lucky I am. So, thanks pwr_machine, for all you do for me
I want more than anything for you to succeed. When you succeed, I succeed. The ranting and raving is nothing in comparison to the payoff of seeing you get PR after PR. You know I'll always be behind you 100%!
slinky
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It's a unspoken thing in our household.
We "just do it". Besides caring for each other, we also have quite a bit of respect for each other. So we both just rise above for each other when the time calls upon us to do so.
Plus, my man makes sure that the fridge is always fully stocked with beer; my favorite beer(s). And that I'm well fed.
jenscats5: Personally, this stuff is such a part of my nature, that I've never had to deal with that sort of question. I do what I do. Er, rather I do what I LOVE to do.
Just tell him it's a integral part of you; if it is indeed that. As long as he respects that, all will be cool. Right?
We "just do it". Besides caring for each other, we also have quite a bit of respect for each other. So we both just rise above for each other when the time calls upon us to do so.
Plus, my man makes sure that the fridge is always fully stocked with beer; my favorite beer(s). And that I'm well fed.
jenscats5: Personally, this stuff is such a part of my nature, that I've never had to deal with that sort of question. I do what I do. Er, rather I do what I LOVE to do.
Just tell him it's a integral part of you; if it is indeed that. As long as he respects that, all will be cool. Right?
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Interesting question. My last girlfriend wasn't supportive of my lifestyle at all. She thought I spent too much time at the gym, and could never figure out why I ate like I did. Its like, she enjoyed my body but not the sacrifices I make to have it. Just be happy he is willing to be supportive and is understanding of what you do.
Puddles
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My husband and I train together. We usually follow the same diets too. We do a few different exercises in the gym, but we're on the same schedule, so it works out great. We're even on cycle together at times. Our lives are so intertwined, living together, working together, lifting together, it just makes every day go smoothly. Training together is great because we get to share out successes and the other one understands. We can be supportive when things aren't going as planned. We can push the other when they need it.
I've only been training for a year, but my husband has trained off and on since he was a kid. When I was younger I didn't really understand his need to go to the gym 4 or 5 days a week, but I never argued with him about it. He did his thing and I did mine. I'd compliment how he looked, I'd make sure he had food, and be really patient when he was trying to find dress shirts for work or get fitted for a suit. LOL
I've only been training for a year, but my husband has trained off and on since he was a kid. When I was younger I didn't really understand his need to go to the gym 4 or 5 days a week, but I never argued with him about it. He did his thing and I did mine. I'd compliment how he looked, I'd make sure he had food, and be really patient when he was trying to find dress shirts for work or get fitted for a suit. LOL
circusgirl
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My husband isn't interested in lifting, but he asks me every day to detail my workout when I get back as he knows it's important to me. He also thinks the whole lifting/sports thing is really cool.
He also tells everyone about his "weightlifting martial artist wife". He says I'm his personal bodyguard lol. If he's going to the pub with people from his work and I'm going to the gym he doesn't ask me to drop my training session.
He thinks I don't eat enough carbs though.... still can't get through to him that a distance runner doesn't eat like a lifter and vice versa....
He also tells everyone about his "weightlifting martial artist wife". He says I'm his personal bodyguard lol. If he's going to the pub with people from his work and I'm going to the gym he doesn't ask me to drop my training session.
He thinks I don't eat enough carbs though.... still can't get through to him that a distance runner doesn't eat like a lifter and vice versa....
My hubby used to be totally passive about my fitness goals, which was really okay because I never really asked anything of him toward that end. But as he saw his own health and physique going into the shitter and seeing me in the best shape of my life, he became a lot more actively participatory in my goings on with the gym and diet. Right now, the fact that he is minding his diet at all ("honey... is this good or bad?") and going to the gym with me semi-regularly is his way of supporting me and it really is helpful - especially since he now understands why I got irritated that he asked me if I wanted to go for ice cream a couple times a week!!
Mine has been kind enough to purchase almost all my supplements. May have bought a bar or 2 for myself from time to time. He's my training partner as well as my nutrition guru. No one can motivate me in quite the same way.
Only complaint... his bulking phase(s). Not sure why he finds it necessary to eat junk in front of me. I run for 60 minutes, sit down then watch him devour a bowl of ice cream. Oh well... I have nicer abs!
Only complaint... his bulking phase(s). Not sure why he finds it necessary to eat junk in front of me. I run for 60 minutes, sit down then watch him devour a bowl of ice cream. Oh well... I have nicer abs!
LittleKitty
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Hi all! New to the board..
My BF isn't a bodybuilder, but he is very much into fitness. He is a certified trainer but doesn't do that for work anymore. He hits the gym on a regular basis, but mostly concentrates on his karate. He just competed in the nationals and did very well! Yea!
He has been GREAT in supporting my fitness goals.. he understands when I say "This is MY food for the week on this shelf, don't touch it." He does stuff like make me shakes, heads with me to the gym once a week to be my partner to help me get a bit more out of my workout.. helps me work out my routine and weights, etc.. And, get this... he'll call me up at work and say, "I took care of the kitchen and changed the sheets so take your time and enjoy your workout this afternoon."
I have to say that him putting in the time around the house has made a the biggest difference to me. If I can get in an extra 30 mins of cardio because I'm not stressed that the laundry has to be done when I get home or whatever, it just makes all the difference. I am sooo lucky!
My BF isn't a bodybuilder, but he is very much into fitness. He is a certified trainer but doesn't do that for work anymore. He hits the gym on a regular basis, but mostly concentrates on his karate. He just competed in the nationals and did very well! Yea!
He has been GREAT in supporting my fitness goals.. he understands when I say "This is MY food for the week on this shelf, don't touch it." He does stuff like make me shakes, heads with me to the gym once a week to be my partner to help me get a bit more out of my workout.. helps me work out my routine and weights, etc.. And, get this... he'll call me up at work and say, "I took care of the kitchen and changed the sheets so take your time and enjoy your workout this afternoon."
I have to say that him putting in the time around the house has made a the biggest difference to me. If I can get in an extra 30 mins of cardio because I'm not stressed that the laundry has to be done when I get home or whatever, it just makes all the difference. I am sooo lucky!
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jenscats5
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Great discussion! It's great how we all have someone who supports our goals. I just made myself a protein shake & had my hubby taste & he asked for one! (Trying to get him to up his protein -- he doesn't eat meat) The most support I need is with my diet -- no suggestions on cheating, no drinks after work, etc. The diet is always the hardest part for me....
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