How do you..........

[tryin2tone]

Stay friends with a person who talks bad about you behind your back, but they do it in a way they think you won't find out. Do you just try to put on a smile and let it be, or do you say something? Especially when the person is important to you . Advice please.

 

[tryin2tone]

I think it depends on the subject. Not sure if u want to share ur story?

For now, ill just say its someone I shouldn't have to worry about this from. It's like they talk shit to their "friends" but to my face its a different story.

 

[*ebony*]

if it bothers you, what you think they are saying about you, how about just telling them what you think is going on, request explanation, tell them to stop or quit them.

Sounds simple but I know how hard the above could be. I am one of those people that value harmony in my life very much. However, plenty of good people out there, no need to put up with all that drama and stress.

 

[tryin2tone]

if it bothers you, what you think they are saying about you, how about just telling them what you think is going on, request explanation, tell them to stop or quit them.

Sounds simple but I know how hard the above could be. I am one of those people that value harmony in my life very much. However, plenty of good people out there, no need to put up with all that drama and stress.

Harmony, that's a good word. I like when things are simple and easy and just flow. I finally did just say something to them, it was def heated to begin with but I put out there how I felt about it, there was I'm sorrys, and its over now. I know there are plenty of fish out there, but everybody comes with some sort of bagggage or drama, you just find one you can deal with.

 

[*ebony*]

Harmony, that's a good word. I like when things are simple and easy and just flow. I finally did just say something to them, it was def heated to begin with but I put out there how I felt about it, there was I'm sorrys, and its over now. I know there are plenty of fish out there, but everybody comes with some sort of bagggage or drama, you just find one you can deal with.

Im so glad it went well. I've learned things are simpler when I just ask for what I want. Everybody has their own baggage but its theirs, don't let them make you carry it around and bring you down. I tend to stay out of other people's drama because I didn't befriend them because of that or they me because of it. Just don't need it, I watch TV to get my dose of drama and the best part is I can change channels or turn off TV when im done.lol

 

[tryin2tone]

Im so glad it went well. I've learned things are simpler when I just ask for what I want. Everybody has their own baggage but its theirs, don't let them make you carry it around and bring you down. I tend to stay out of other people's drama because I didn't befriend them because of that or they me because of it. Just don't need it, I watch TV to get my dose of drama and the best part is I can change channels or turn off TV when im done.lol

Lol. Yes I always get a hard time for watching cop dramas. I still need to learn to ask for what I want, I know I won't get it unless I ask, I've just been in some shit places with some shit people. My bf keeps telling me that ill never get what I want unless I ask, that I just need to not be scared.

 

[*ebony*]

Lol. Yes I always get a hard time for watching cop dramas. I still need to learn to ask for what I want, I know I won't get it unless I ask, I've just been in some shit places with some shit people. My bf keeps telling me that ill never get what I want unless I ask, that I just need to not be scared.

I totally understand. you'll be shocked at how little you get turned down. practice on your bf, family, friends with little things and branch out from there.

 

[tryin2tone]

I totally understand. you'll be shocked at how little you get turned down. practice on your bf, family, friends with little things and branch out from there.

Thanks love. I've pretty well just stayed to myself for a lot of years, been just me and my son. I've had bfs but none that wanted to be equal like this one. I'm just not used to how it feels or works yet.

 

[*ebony*]

Thanks love. I've pretty well just stayed to myself for a lot of years, been just me and my son. I've had bfs but none that wanted to be equal like this one. I'm just not used to how it feels or works yet.

sounds like a keeper! an encouraging partner is wonderful to have.

 

[tryin2tone]

Definitely, and its about time I found one.