How do you reject a sweet guy?

[RottenWillow]

This situation continues kick my ass. I have no problem slamming some punk that's working his scam, when when it's a seemingly sweet, sincere guy in whom I have ZERO interest I just do not know how to handle it. Everything I can think of to say just seems like the bullcrap things girls always say to let guys down....I dont like any of them.

There's got to be a better way, right? How do you ladies phrase it and how do you act?

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

I tell them I am flattered but you simply not interested and the last thing I want to do is waste their time or lead them on. Usually it works. Say it with a smile.

Just a few days ago, that didn't work though. I told a guy that I wasn't interested and I wouldn't want to waste his time but he didn't seem to care or maybe he thought I was just kidding.

I was at the gas station pumping my gas when some guy started talking to me. He asked where my boyfriend was and I said at work. He asked me if I was allowed to have friends. I wasn't thinking friends in the same way he was so I said yes my boyfriend doesn't mind if I have friends. He insisted on getting my number. I told him I lived in a city two hours away and it would be long distance for him, which was true, but he didn't care. I ended up convincing him to just give me his number instead of taking mine.

 

[brunette]

you will always come off as the 'asswipe' no matter what.

this is hard because sweeties are the little boys that you'd want to mother and still have their mothers iron their socks, but being boys, a firm hand is needed.

just cut those apron strings, with a firm smile and definite refusal. no leeway or they'll have hope growing in their little hearts

how did it go anyway?

 

[RottenWillow]

.........a firm smile and definite refusal. no leeway or they'll have hope growing in their little hearts

I like the way you articulate that. I'm just getting beaten down a little cause it seems like they're dudes coming out of the effing workout lately, and a lot of them are really sweet guys.

 

[RottenWillow]

Just a few days ago, that didn't work though. I told a guy that I wasn't interested and I wouldn't want to waste his time but he didn't seem to care or maybe he thought I was just kidding.

Now that's what seems to keep happening to me a lot lately. The same exact thing. They're not being assholes, just really persistent after I've already made it like REAL clear they arent gonna be hitting it.

 

[Puddles]

This situation continues kick my ass. I have no problem slamming some punk that's working his scam, when when it's a seemingly sweet, sincere guy in whom I have ZERO interest I just do not know how to handle it. Everything I can think of to say just seems like the bullcrap things girls always say to let guys down....I dont like any of them.

There's got to be a better way, right? How do you ladies phrase it and how do you act?

Just say you're already happily involved with someone. If they don't leave you alone after that, then they're a jerk and you've got the right to be rude.

 

[Werd]

Just say you're already happily involved with someone. If they don't leave you alone after that, then they're a jerk and you've got the right to be rude.

I like your style Mrs P!

 

[Lady Viking]

I like your style Mrs P!

I like too

 

[Raina]

I always used to either lie and say I was involved when I wasn't or else I'd say that I wasn't really up for dating anyone because I was sorting out a lot of personal issues. The later was probably more true. I've been shot down plenty of times and I'm a fairly nice person. I just took it to mean that it wasn't meant to be. I can't think of a time that I really thought someone was an ass over it.

 

[dirty~d~]

Puddles, cheers to you. That's usually what I do with the 'nice guys'. The bolder individuals get a blunt 'no' and all of the reasons to go with it. Nice guys are somewhat of a challenge to turn down, if turning them down is what you have to do.

I did this just the other night actually. A friend of mine tried to set me up with her husband's best friend. He's a nice guy, but not athletic, really geeky and way too clingy (IE not my type at all). He kept trying to drop me hints that we could 'get it on' at his house after dinner. I pretended I didn't notice at first, but then he cornered me (HATE THAT) and asked me "What are the chances we can try a casual thing?" I told him that since I just broke up with my fiance I'm on break... which was a lie, but he bought it. It's really hard to turn them down cold knowing that you'll have to see them again once or twice in the future.