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How do you figure out how much to spend on an engagement/wedding ring? Girls and guys feel free to chime in please.
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Frisky said:
And that's how it should be. People seem to be stuck in some kind of "uh oh check it out, mine costed more than yours" attitude. I remember one of my employee (female) complaining how her ring was nice but still about half of what her best friend got (something like 5k vs. 2k). Well believe it or not but she broke up with him few weeks later cause "he wasnt showing her enough love". Please gimme a break bitch. Same with weddings, you have folks trying to figure out the costs by looking at their friends/relatives experience because Oh what a shame if Tony&Sarah had more flowers and lobsters than you. Oh and whatever...
Frisky said:
see that's not okay with me.
ITs important way to see how he feels about you in these ways.
You are not important enough to him if he cant buy you at least a 500.00 ring. I dont care who you are, if you cant save 25 bucks a week for a couple months, either you dont really want to marry her, or you are so bad with money you have no business getting marred.
he can buy a 3,000 TV and cant spend more on my ring?
I dont think IM materialistic per se, but a realist in how people are with money, and not that money buys my love, but if he cant sacrifice a little today to make me happy tomorrow....i dunno?
Re: How do you figure out how much to spend on an engagement/wedding ring? Girls and
Frisky pretty much summed up my thoughts.
My point is that a marriage proposal with a ring is a litmus test for a womans character and how she REALLY feels about her man. How she acts during that "white moment" of getting proposed to cant be faked since it carries so much weight. Thats why it has to be a surprise to catch her off guard so the reaction is genuine.
So what exactly do you sacrifice for your man? Give and take baby.
cindylou said:
Frisky pretty much summed up my thoughts.
My point is that a marriage proposal with a ring is a litmus test for a womans character and how she REALLY feels about her man. How she acts during that "white moment" of getting proposed to cant be faked since it carries so much weight. Thats why it has to be a surprise to catch her off guard so the reaction is genuine.
So what exactly do you sacrifice for your man? Give and take baby.
hmmm. Well, I would not accept NO ring thats for sure, or one purchased from a pawn shop or anything else.
As much as we would like to think that money does not matter in a marriage it does. IF he cant shell out or save up a couple of bucks for a ring; but he has enough money to drive a nice car, whatever, then that shows what he thinks of you and how important you are to him.
I would not marry anyone who could not afford to buy me a ring. If he cant afford it then its def. not time to marry. Money issues suck in a marriage. It takes more than love. You will start to wonder later on years later why he could not save a mere 1,000 bucks a ring. Its the one piece of jewlery you wear for the rest of your life!!
I just dont think anyone should settle for some loser who wont buy a decent ring claming any woman who wants to be special and treated more important than his car or TV or weekly beer habit as high maintenance.
As much as we would like to think that money does not matter in a marriage it does. IF he cant shell out or save up a couple of bucks for a ring; but he has enough money to drive a nice car, whatever, then that shows what he thinks of you and how important you are to him.
I would not marry anyone who could not afford to buy me a ring. If he cant afford it then its def. not time to marry. Money issues suck in a marriage. It takes more than love. You will start to wonder later on years later why he could not save a mere 1,000 bucks a ring. Its the one piece of jewlery you wear for the rest of your life!!
I just dont think anyone should settle for some loser who wont buy a decent ring claming any woman who wants to be special and treated more important than his car or TV or weekly beer habit as high maintenance.
What are you doing with a car ? Many things including going from A to B. And you can sell it and get something for. A ring ? That's like money spent at the casino. it's gone and serves no real purpose. I'd be pissed if my girl spent 5k on a ring, necklace or any jewellry for me. That money could be spent on a car/mortgage/furniture.
Re: How do you figure out how much to spend on an engagement/wedding ring? Girls and
Of course money matters in a marriage. What matters more is each persons attitude towards their spouse and the marriage when money isnt always there, or never was there in the first place. Money shouldnt be a dealbreaker for a woman with regards to her man.
And are you really going to wonder many years later why he couldnt save $1000 for a ring? Thats harboring a lot of resentment when you could be cherishing each other and being thankful for the things you do have, like each other. Maybe you wanted to marry each other but didnt have any money so he couldnt get a nice ring but later in the marriage he came around and finally got you a really nice ring, like an anniversary or something. That would be a nice surprise wouldnt it? But all you would be thinking about is "About damn time you got me a nice ring you loser".
You should really listen more to women like Frisky. The more you post the more I can see why your man was dissapointed when he proposed.
cindylou said:
Of course money matters in a marriage. What matters more is each persons attitude towards their spouse and the marriage when money isnt always there, or never was there in the first place. Money shouldnt be a dealbreaker for a woman with regards to her man.
And are you really going to wonder many years later why he couldnt save $1000 for a ring? Thats harboring a lot of resentment when you could be cherishing each other and being thankful for the things you do have, like each other. Maybe you wanted to marry each other but didnt have any money so he couldnt get a nice ring but later in the marriage he came around and finally got you a really nice ring, like an anniversary or something. That would be a nice surprise wouldnt it? But all you would be thinking about is "About damn time you got me a nice ring you loser".
You should really listen more to women like Frisky. The more you post the more I can see why your man was dissapointed when he proposed.
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Re: How do you figure out how much to spend on an engagement/wedding ring? Girls and
key word being woman there. Girls obsess over high priced items just to reassure themselves that they are as important as they think they are. It's all about reaffirming that they don't have self esteem issues when they really do. When girls need to have a bigger rock than their friend, they aren't marriage material to me.
If the guy drives an expensive car, then I can see the problem if he was cheap and bought something way under his level of affordability. If the guy doesn't make a lot of money and really couldn't afford more than a couple grand, no woman should ever fault him for that, only a girl would.
superdave said:
key word being woman there. Girls obsess over high priced items just to reassure themselves that they are as important as they think they are. It's all about reaffirming that they don't have self esteem issues when they really do. When girls need to have a bigger rock than their friend, they aren't marriage material to me.
If the guy drives an expensive car, then I can see the problem if he was cheap and bought something way under his level of affordability. If the guy doesn't make a lot of money and really couldn't afford more than a couple grand, no woman should ever fault him for that, only a girl would.
mountain muscle
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Am I the only one who thinks 25k for a damn little ring is insane?
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