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How can i get my girl to be ok with me going to the gym?

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Alex_4444

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Whats up EF's
Any tips on how i can get my girl to be OK with me training.
I train 6 times a week, is that to much in a relationship?
Shes fed up with:
1 - Me training
2 - me eating so much
3 - my supplements
4 - basically anything to do with bodybuilding she hates

I think its cause she doesnt understand.

Anybody else have this problem?
 
nope. lol

why would she be fed up with something that is making you more confident about yourself, healthier, and better looking?
no offense but she sounds like a hard ass my friend hahaha :)
 
Your probably too obsessive with it. If it's all you talk and think about, she is probably just sick of it. She wants you to be into her. When my wife doesn't like something, it is a good sign that I am talking about it too much.
 
balboa29 said:
Your probably too obsessive with it. If it's all you talk and think about, she is probably just sick of it. She wants you to be into her. When my wife doesn't like something, it is a good sign that I am talking about it too much.
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He's obsessed becaue he is putting in work and living the life 24/7? Maybe you didn't get the memo, but that is EXACTLY what it takes to become a successful bodybuilder!

Screw that bro. Kick this chick to the curb. It is obvious that you love bodybuilding and that it is a major part of your life. Anyone who makes you feel guilty for that, or tries to put you in a position where you need to chose between them and bodybuilding does NOT have your best interest at heart.

It is very tough for us competitive bodybuilders to have successful relationships with "normal" chicks. Why? because they do not, and never will "get it."

You need to lose this chick and do what you need to do for you. Wait until you find a girl who understands and/or is involved in this sport before you settle down again. That is the only way bro. Trust me.
 
I didn't think he was looking to be competitive, just enjoying the lifestyle of lifting weights and using some supps. I personally don't want to die alone with a big bicept, so I live by what I said earlier. I care about my family a lot, and they are obviously my priority. If you don't care about her, then do what heavy said. It's your choice and you choose the path you want to take.

I would like to add, if this really is everything to you, don't date a girl that isn't into it.
heavydutyhit said:
He's obsessed becaue he is putting in work and living the life 24/7? Maybe you didn't get the memo, but that is EXACTLY what it takes to become a successful bodybuilder!

Screw that bro. Kick this chick to the curb. It is obvious that you love bodybuilding and that it is a major part of your life. Anyone who makes you feel guilty for that, or tries to put you in a position where you need to chose between them and bodybuilding does NOT have your best interest at heart.

It is very tough for us competitive bodybuilders to have successful relationships with "normal" chicks. Why? because they do not, and never will "get it."

You need to lose this chick and do what you need to do for you. Wait until you find a girl who understands and/or is involved in this sport before you settle down again. That is the only way bro. Trust me.
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balboa29 said:
I didn't think he was looking to be competitive, just enjoying the lifestyle of lifting weights and using some supps. I personally don't want to die alone with a big bicept, so I live by what I said earlier. I care about my family a lot, and they are obviously my priority. If you don't care about her, then do what heavy said. It's your choice and you choose the path you want to take.

I would like to add, if this really is everything to you, don't date a girl that isn't into it.
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You are correct. If he is not looking to compete, then he needs to readjust his priorities. But, again, if this IS what he loves, he should be able to have a successful relationship and not have to sacrifice it.

And contrary to popular belief, you CAN have a very eventful life OUTSIDE the gym, be a top competitive bodybuilder, AND have a successful relationship AT THE SAME TIME!

I was speaking form personal experience in my earlier post. I have girlfriends before that we not into working out and resented me because my dedication and commitment made them feel lazy and get down on themselves. So instead of stepping up and getting themselves to the gym, they preferred to try and keep me out of it. And if that is what is going on here, then that is not fair to this guy.

And for the record, I am currently in my second year of Medical School, have a wonderful marriage with an IFBB pro figure competitor, and I competed three times last year, winning every class I enter with the exception of one. So, again..., IT CAN BE DONE! You just have to be able to prioritize and balance your time.
 
how old are you?

It boggles the mind what you are saying. all the women I've dated love the fact that I eat healthy and workout. they love a guy with a healthy lifestyle.

I think you are either dating young immature girls who just want all your attention, or need to find women from the gym and not the bar scene.

it makes a difference. i would find someone who believes in a healthy lifestyle because you aren't gonna be happy with her laziness either. I dated a girl last year that was relatively healthy, loved yoga, running. but she was addicted to diet soda. which caused her to have insomnia.. which led to other mental issues. she refused to quit.

just like I wont date a woman who smokes or is a heavy drinker either.
 
Im 21. The thing is i think is that when i got with my fiance i wasnt into the gym at all i got introduced to it while i was with her. She likes me being healthy its just she see's me constantly doing something, and she feels its not with her.
I am very dedicated to the gym im not competing but im known as the fitness freak in work and weirdly i like that lol
'Heavydutyhit' i think your on the ball bro maybe she does feel lazy. I prob am obsessed but its wats necessary at the end of the day. I just wish life was that easy lol
 
For example on a monday (my chest day) say my misses said come home after work (when i would train) to do something or whatever, i would say NO! because i couldnt miss out on my training but she doesnt understand that. I think only people with a BB mind set see it.
Does anyone else come across this problem?
 
Well I have young kids and a whole differen't life right now. I now workout whenever I can. I am very flexible with my schedule. I still get 4-5 workouts in a week. Just learn balence.
 
yeah at 21 you are dating girls still. this might seem nuts for me to say and totally out of line but you need to chillax and not even think about marrying this girl. once you get older you will get what I'm saying. you both are gonna change. once you get my age you become very picky and will not stand for stuff like this.. at your age you just put up with it cause you are so obsessed with chasing pussy and you think that is all that matters.

like i said above at 21 I just wanted teh pussy but today in my 30's I look for someone who matches my lifestyle. she better be willing to go with me to the gym.. she better eat well... she better not smoke or drink. she better be a water drinker and not a coke drinker. these are strict requirements. if you are a truely dedicated to a healthy lifestyle you won't stand for anything less.

i see this bs with friends who are married. one person is in great shape and dedicated to fitness, the other is not. used to run with a girl who was a very strong athlete and her hubby was fat.. so she spent sunday mornings training with me, while her hubby would stay home. that is time away that could of been spent together. so you need to think about that. its very important that you match your mate's lifestyle or its just gonna tick you off as you get older.
 
meh, honestly, you could find some compromise here too if you really want to stay with her... 6 days a week in the gym is too much anyways... all the best splits are based around 3 or 4 days a week of lifting as well...
i like to live the lifestyle myself, but i dont like to flaunt it around other people that arent into it...
my wife will always be telling everyone, everywhere we go, 'oh, i cant eat that because of my diet' or stuff like that... I wish she would just say 'no thanks' and keep it at that... im not saying thats what you are doing, but just try to find other things to talk to her about.... that is if you still want to stay with her... which probably isnt in both of your best interests by the sounds of it...
 
What these guys have said is all great stuff. Realize your going to need to learn how to schedule your time better. Once you get maried and have kids, when you get home at night there is going to be a lot more to do then go hang out. Find someone who is into this lifestyle if its something your choosing to always be a major part of your life. Now if your into this chick, don't push it on her. Like I said earlier, she probably wouldn't care if you didn't talk about it all the time. I know some people say screw that lifting is everything. This simply isn't true for everyone, and that is ok. I would also say what the one guy said in the forum, thd heavy dude. There are even a lot of pro bodybuilders that are dedicated, but have a normal social life, Learn this because that is good stuff.

I know that I can be obsessive over things, it's natural for me. So what I tend to do is, it's all I talk about, think about, want to do. What I don't realize is not everybody around me cares as much as I do, and they don't want to obsess over it like I do.
 
Sounds like typical BBing OCD to me.

You do realize you can gain quite well training three days per week eating three solid meals a day, right?

It sounds like training six times per week and eating around the clock is straining what's really important in your life.
 
the gym I go to i see the same people in there day in and day out. so there are plenty of people who lead this kind of lifestyle.. and I live in a southern town where health isn't that important to most people.. not like I live in NY or LA.

so you would be better served finding someone who shares your love of fitness if its that important to you. there are plenty of them out there.. you are just looking in the wrong places. you can look in the bar or club or you can look at a 5K race or a gym. its up to you.
 
I hate seeing threads like this grow some balls bro if she doesn't let you have you time or guys night out kick that b*tch to the curb!
 
This screams of a controlling woman. Be careful, Bro! It won't stop with your training... It will worm it's way into other parts of your life, until you no longer own your own life. Been there/done that. At age 44, I smell those things miles away; even over the internet.

Charles
 
kx250rider said:
This screams of a controlling woman. Be careful, Bro! It won't stop with your training... It will worm it's way into other parts of your life, until you no longer own your own life. Been there/done that. At age 44, I smell those things miles away; even over the internet.

Charles
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Damn right on that one.. at 50 divorced and remarried i can state that as a fact.. now after 12 yrs when she starts to complain about something i always say "I was like that when we met and you married me right?? why would i change now?"

women are taught by many a mother that they can change a man, that if they are good enough, or loved enough the man will change and do whatever the woman wants.. if she's "important enough" .. (sorry ladies) point being you need to treat her as she is important, but you have to be you too..

the secret to a great relationship if you both try to outgive the other one.. give more than she can give you and she gives more than you can give her..

that's the secret to a great relationship..
 
kx250rider said:
This screams of a controlling woman. Be careful, Bro! It won't stop with your training... It will worm it's way into other parts of your life, until you no longer own your own life. Been there/done that. At age 44, I smell those things miles away; even over the internet.

Charles
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Ditto I'm only 25 and had a child with her she didn't wanna let me have guys night out cuz she said I already spent enough time with my boys in the gym lmfao
 
Sounds like she's either insecure with herself and jealous you are so committed to something, or looking to control you. I'd keep training and eating all your meals, but stop talking about it around her and see if that helps. The other point I can make is she's very young yet. Women are crazy until at least 25. I wouldn't take it too seriously.
 
My personal opinion is that you should stop for a couple weeks then she will see how depressed you are when you not going to the gym she will kick back into the gym LOL
 
GUys he is working out 6 days a week in the evening. If I were single and met a girl of every night she wanted to do something stupid that I wasn't into, we wouldn't keep dating. I would want to hang with her, and do things together. If she was into working out and you guys did it together I could see that working. Most couples I know of work out early in the morning, that way in the evening they are free. SO get your lazy ass out of bed in the morning and stop complaining, haha, wait til you have kids.
 
Try taking her to the gym and letting her work out with you. If she works out with you 2-3 days a week then that counts as couple time and you get to work out. Then you can have a couple of days where you work out by yourself or with the guys. I started working out with my husband over 10 years ago and fell in love with it. I ditched the aerobics and started lifting weights. Some of our best quality time is when we are in the gym together.

Rebecca D
 
Alex_4444 said:
Whats up EF's
Any tips on how i can get my girl to be OK with me training.
I train 6 times a week, is that to much in a relationship?
Shes fed up with:
1 - Me training
2 - me eating so much
3 - my supplements
4 - basically anything to do with bodybuilding she hates

I think its cause she doesnt understand.

Anybody else have this problem?
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Just be upfront- it's part of who you are. I wouldn't waste your time trying to convince her of anything.
 
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