How can i get my girl to be ok with me going to the gym?

[Alex_4444]

For example on a monday (my chest day) say my misses said come home after work (when i would train) to do something or whatever, i would say NO! because i couldnt miss out on my training but she doesnt understand that. I think only people with a BB mind set see it.
Does anyone else come across this problem?

 

[EarthRider]

Well I have young kids and a whole differen't life right now. I now workout whenever I can. I am very flexible with my schedule. I still get 4-5 workouts in a week. Just learn balence.

 

[stevesmi]

yeah at 21 you are dating girls still. this might seem nuts for me to say and totally out of line but you need to chillax and not even think about marrying this girl. once you get older you will get what I'm saying. you both are gonna change. once you get my age you become very picky and will not stand for stuff like this.. at your age you just put up with it cause you are so obsessed with chasing pussy and you think that is all that matters.

like i said above at 21 I just wanted teh pussy but today in my 30's I look for someone who matches my lifestyle. she better be willing to go with me to the gym.. she better eat well... she better not smoke or drink. she better be a water drinker and not a coke drinker. these are strict requirements. if you are a truely dedicated to a healthy lifestyle you won't stand for anything less.

i see this bs with friends who are married. one person is in great shape and dedicated to fitness, the other is not. used to run with a girl who was a very strong athlete and her hubby was fat.. so she spent sunday mornings training with me, while her hubby would stay home. that is time away that could of been spent together. so you need to think about that. its very important that you match your mate's lifestyle or its just gonna tick you off as you get older.

 

[moya]

meh, honestly, you could find some compromise here too if you really want to stay with her... 6 days a week in the gym is too much anyways... all the best splits are based around 3 or 4 days a week of lifting as well...
i like to live the lifestyle myself, but i dont like to flaunt it around other people that arent into it...
my wife will always be telling everyone, everywhere we go, 'oh, i cant eat that because of my diet' or stuff like that... I wish she would just say 'no thanks' and keep it at that... im not saying thats what you are doing, but just try to find other things to talk to her about.... that is if you still want to stay with her... which probably isnt in both of your best interests by the sounds of it...

 

[captainahole]

she's cheating on you when your at the gym.

 

[EarthRider]

What these guys have said is all great stuff. Realize your going to need to learn how to schedule your time better. Once you get maried and have kids, when you get home at night there is going to be a lot more to do then go hang out. Find someone who is into this lifestyle if its something your choosing to always be a major part of your life. Now if your into this chick, don't push it on her. Like I said earlier, she probably wouldn't care if you didn't talk about it all the time. I know some people say screw that lifting is everything. This simply isn't true for everyone, and that is ok. I would also say what the one guy said in the forum, thd heavy dude. There are even a lot of pro bodybuilders that are dedicated, but have a normal social life, Learn this because that is good stuff.

I know that I can be obsessive over things, it's natural for me. So what I tend to do is, it's all I talk about, think about, want to do. What I don't realize is not everybody around me cares as much as I do, and they don't want to obsess over it like I do.

 

[EarthRider]

she's cheating on you when your at the gym.

LOL, this is probably true, or she's going to start cheating on you when your at the gym.

 

[Alex_4444]

LOL, this is probably true, or she's going to start cheating on you when your at the gym.

Lol she deffo aint cheating.

 

[SouthernLord]

Sounds like typical BBing OCD to me.

You do realize you can gain quite well training three days per week eating three solid meals a day, right?

It sounds like training six times per week and eating around the clock is straining what's really important in your life.

 

[stevesmi]

the gym I go to i see the same people in there day in and day out. so there are plenty of people who lead this kind of lifestyle.. and I live in a southern town where health isn't that important to most people.. not like I live in NY or LA.

so you would be better served finding someone who shares your love of fitness if its that important to you. there are plenty of them out there.. you are just looking in the wrong places. you can look in the bar or club or you can look at a 5K race or a gym. its up to you.